Danger: 23 Year Old coming on strong...

[FwoGiZ]

So highspeed, basically what you are saying is getting married and having kids nowadays is a very poor decision to make if you care about your long term happiness. Simply because at any point for no reason, women can end it and turn your life upside down into pure chaos which might explain higher suicide rate amongst men?
I totally agree with you man... But I see you coming at me telling me that a man shouldn't stop at just that because of how flawed our judicial system is and I agree with you on that again. I personally chose to stay away from it unfortunately, and I understand other men will chose the family life.
Then these guys like OP here comes in, wanting both of those worlds...
There is no winning guys.

Personally, open relationships been working good for me but let me guess this straight for some of you cause I know we're not all on the same page: I do not believe that a LONG relationship means a successfull one. I believe in short successful relationships. I also believe in long successful relationships. But the popular belief that a long relationship is a successful one is beyong me.

You are also very correct on both of your situations; she WILL be jealous... but who said this is the end of the world? I deal with it all the time... the only different is that it doesn't and will never end my relationship. Eventually, it literally becomes a joke between you and her... when you realize how insignificant it is. Obviously, you can't tell her not to do it while you're doing it... that's delusional and make you a controlling freak.

I think we all agree tho, you should always be wary of the law first and foremost but my point is, if you are already married with kids, it's kinda too late now and your only play left is to "buy the peace" as long as you can and hope for the best? While fighting your masculine instincts? Then what's wrong, what's right? Making your wife happy or making yourself happy?

Tricky question to which I don't believe there is 1 solve it all answer.

 

[GoFast]

Been a few days, thanks for everyones posts.

I talked with her last week over snapchat, just friendly ****.. snapped her a pic of this broad hitting on me at a bar (that i wanted nothing to do with) she snaps back, “tell her your married”

I lold hard. i told her to have a nice night and didnt talk to her after that . she checks my snap stories daily but havent talked to her in a week.. still cant get this stupid girl off my mind. (i dont check her snap stories). Whole situation is stupid.

 

[FwoGiZ]

Being married is stupid. ;P

 

[ApolloSunGod]

Keep it as a side piece she don't exist, don't even bring it around your wife let your wife pick the a$$, youll be spinning 3 plates good luck lol..

 

[highSpeed]

How is being upfront with your cool wife about how you feel bad advice?

Your advice for him is it to fight his urges for the rest of his life and simply be content with what he has right now.. Great advice... really

I'll be over there, sharing reality with my gf and advising other people to do so too.. I am sorry you feel this is impossible for you but the OP here keeps mentioning a chill wife, which is a must but for too many people with dominant wives, it's prolly much simpler to fight against your masculine nature and somehow be happy this way... or pretend.

A chill wife that allows you to go and bang other chicks, yep, that's likely to happen these days. Out of 100 women surveyed, none felt comfortable with their husband banging other chicks and potentially spreading his seed to other women that will draw off valuable resources from me and our family. If he really wanted the single life, stay single and don't have kids. What you want is of little importance once kids and alimony are involved. Even if you didn't want to pay, doesn't matter, state will show up, guns drawn and make you pay or haul you off to jail. So please, give the guy advice about how to jeopardize his financial future. Because a broke as* guy in a one bedroom efficiency, nothing says sosuave like that, nothing says, "I'm ready to bang you now" than pulling up in a ford festiva and saying "Anything off of the dollar menu babe, all you." lol, smh, great advice man, no really, great advice.

 

[Three]

If you're off partying like a single guy once or twice a week, this kind of thing is going to happen. Maybe a lot. Eventually, that's going to turn into something physical. A pretty smart guy once said, anyone can cheat given the right circumstances. My lady is sexy as hell and we both love lots of sex, but given the right (or wrong) situation, I don't think I would be able to hold back.

So, this is a question I've been asking myself, too: Is this your ego talking?

This is a serious question. I still get this thought in the back of my head that I need to have higher numbers. Is it better to check our ego, or indulge it?

 

[FwoGiZ]

A chill wife that allows you to go and bang other chicks, yep, that's likely to happen these days. Out of 100 women surveyed, none felt comfortable with their husband banging other chicks and potentially spreading his seed to other women that will draw off valuable resources from me and our family.

Yes, let's send a stranger in the street and survey women with a direct, overt question about something they might have never even thought about before, have their societal programming kick in hard and just spurt the right answer "of course not, I'm not a slvt" /antislvtdefense online
and then use that as an argument on a forum... great argument man... no really great argument.

How about you try it for yourself? Not everyone can pull it off but you'd be surprised how the world is changing and more and more people including chicks are ok with that, simply cause it's more of a realistic way for several people.

Apparently, it might have been perfect for OP ... but now he's chained, trapped and will get a gun put to his head if he vexes his girl and everyone here understands that.
But you are still stuck with the idea that I am a advising him to lie which I would never do and never did so I'll just stop it right here cause you obviously read whatever you want.


Anyways @GoFast , any updates? Pushed back the urges down in your pants? Or did you talk to your wife about it? Or did you just lie and cheated? ;p

PS: For those of you with hard hearing/reading, I am an advocate for the second option there, which is to talk to his wife about it. If she wants to bounce because he's being honest, then I really dunno... happiness > money but ONCE AGAIN, preventive medicine is to not get married, not get kids!

 

[highSpeed]

Yes, let's send a stranger in the street and survey women with a direct, overt question about something they might have never even thought about before, have their societal programming kick in hard and just spurt the right answer "of course not, I'm not a slvt" /antislvtdefense online
and then use that as an argument on a forum... great argument man... no really great argument.

How about you try it for yourself? Not everyone can pull it off but you'd be surprised how the world is changing and more and more people including chicks are ok with that, simply cause it's more of a realistic way for several people.

Apparently, it might have been perfect for OP ... but now he's chained, trapped and will get a gun put to his head if he vexes his girl and everyone here understands that.
But you are still stuck with the idea that I am a advising him to lie which I would never do and never did so I'll just stop it right here cause you obviously read whatever you want.


Anyways @GoFast , any updates? Pushed back the urges down in your pants? Or did you talk to your wife about it? Or did you just lie and cheated? ;p

PS: For those of you with hard hearing/reading, I am an advocate for the second option there, which is to talk to his wife about it. If she wants to bounce because he's being honest, then I really dunno... happiness > money but ONCE AGAIN, preventive medicine is to not get married, not get kids!

agreed on the not getting married part. Agree on the not trying to talk his wife into it. Happiness and money though, they are somewhat synonymous. Yes, money is not everything but it is a big part of happiness. You're not going to be much more happy single with no money than unhappily married with money.

 

[Red Legg]

The mere fact that you are thinking about this tells me you are unhappy in your marriage that will end in divorce someday,you must divorce your wife asap,start spinning plates now.I got out of my marriage relatively unscathed by having game and paid nothing,this is the only road to true happiness.

 

[GoFast]

Wanted to jump back in here. Not sure if it's my ego.. I was never out to "bang the most chicks". I was a quality over quantity guy.

As for this girl, we still talk via Snapchat here and there, checks my story daily. She knows what she's doing isn't right but still reaches out to me (usually its like 9pm and later).

One thing, this girl smokes more weed than anyone I've ever seen in my life. It's literally the same cycle daily for her... get up, go to work, smoke, work second job, smoke till she's high as a kite. Never seen this type of behavior in a woman with a masters degree (albeit young or any girl) before.

Ain't saying **** to my wife but as much as this girl seems to be heroin to me... I don't think I could do it. Risk v. reward is too great however I'd really like to see her naked. LOL