What happens when a woman stays single past 40?
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I'm 42 going to be 43 in a few months. I'm a woman, I've never been married, never had kids. Why? There are a million reasons why which many have discussed here on this and other forums. But I am starting to encounter a certain hostility from others when they learn this about me.
Granted, I have met many people in my life. I've dated a lot of guys, I've had a very exciting life but it's been a struggle like everything else. I'm starting to encounter something from people when they hear that I am the age I am and have never been married and/or had kids. They tell me they think there is something wrong with me or I must have a caustic personality, etc. I do not react with anger when I hear these things. If anything I feel another inner lancing to myself which causes me to withdraw even more from others. Then again, most of the people who have said things like this to me have not had a picture perfect life either. If anything I am in the green when many of them have been in bad relationships, divorces, kids won't talk to them, etc. One said whatever you do, don't get married it's horrible, that guy (whoever he is or is not) will ruin your life, etc.
Is this the grass being greener situation? I would never call someone an old maid or a closet case if I found out they had never been married and/or had kids. I think that's ignorant to do so, and I refuse to do it.
For your reading pleasure:
I'm 42 going to be 43 in a few months. I'm a woman, I've never been married, never had kids. Why? There are a million reasons why which many have discussed here on this and other forums. But I am starting to encounter a certain hostility from others when they learn this about me.
Granted, I have met many people in my life. I've dated a lot of guys, I've had a very exciting life but it's been a struggle like everything else. I'm starting to encounter something from people when they hear that I am the age I am and have never been married and/or had kids. They tell me they think there is something wrong with me or I must have a caustic personality, etc. I do not react with anger when I hear these things. If anything I feel another inner lancing to myself which causes me to withdraw even more from others. Then again, most of the people who have said things like this to me have not had a picture perfect life either. If anything I am in the green when many of them have been in bad relationships, divorces, kids won't talk to them, etc. One said whatever you do, don't get married it's horrible, that guy (whoever he is or is not) will ruin your life, etc.
Is this the grass being greener situation? I would never call someone an old maid or a closet case if I found out they had never been married and/or had kids. I think that's ignorant to do so, and I refuse to do it.
