Fruitbat
Master Don Juan
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So, I felt a shyt test/woman trouble coming on this weekend.
Before I get legions of posters decrying accepting any bad behaviour, and not immediately dumping/nexting/throwing her to the lions, be aware I accept occassional female mild testing/games as a cost of doing business with the opposite sex, and I want this to be a positive thing for me and other users to discuss
So, day trip. Took her hiking. Great day. Got along well. This is the GF of 6-7 weeks.
First time this has happened other than by text.
Randomly, she stops talking. Seems p1ssed off about something. Will not explain. Just a bit cold, rejects hand holding and affection. There is almost a cheeky glint in her eye, there is no seriously crazy here.
I clock it for her doing some little test of some sort. I remember the term "amused mastery".
SO, I DON'T ask her whats wrong. I DON'T fawn on her to make it better. I stick my chin out and remain cheerful. I start to banter with her. She twists my banter to offence a little (again, I can see it's BS, no real offence). I ramp up the banter. It climaxes with some stupid comment about "why did you even bring me?" and I just laugh and tell her my other 2 better girls weren't around so I had to settle for her.
Time and again she just tested if she could make me beta out and every time I cheerfully pushed it aside.....amused mastery being the frame in my mind....
So, once this happened, she joins my hand, smiles, goes back to being sweet and was perfect all day (and night )
Never lose your shyt, this is just a game. I had this before with other girls and failed. Failed so hard I was like "She was upset and I tried really hard to work it out and she just got more upset".
Good old SS, I wouldn't have done it without you.
Before I get legions of posters decrying accepting any bad behaviour, and not immediately dumping/nexting/throwing her to the lions, be aware I accept occassional female mild testing/games as a cost of doing business with the opposite sex, and I want this to be a positive thing for me and other users to discuss
So, day trip. Took her hiking. Great day. Got along well. This is the GF of 6-7 weeks.
First time this has happened other than by text.
Randomly, she stops talking. Seems p1ssed off about something. Will not explain. Just a bit cold, rejects hand holding and affection. There is almost a cheeky glint in her eye, there is no seriously crazy here.
I clock it for her doing some little test of some sort. I remember the term "amused mastery".
SO, I DON'T ask her whats wrong. I DON'T fawn on her to make it better. I stick my chin out and remain cheerful. I start to banter with her. She twists my banter to offence a little (again, I can see it's BS, no real offence). I ramp up the banter. It climaxes with some stupid comment about "why did you even bring me?" and I just laugh and tell her my other 2 better girls weren't around so I had to settle for her.
Time and again she just tested if she could make me beta out and every time I cheerfully pushed it aside.....amused mastery being the frame in my mind....
So, once this happened, she joins my hand, smiles, goes back to being sweet and was perfect all day (and night )
Never lose your shyt, this is just a game. I had this before with other girls and failed. Failed so hard I was like "She was upset and I tried really hard to work it out and she just got more upset".
Good old SS, I wouldn't have done it without you.