Amused Mastery

[Fruitbat]

So, I felt a shyt test/woman trouble coming on this weekend.

Before I get legions of posters decrying accepting any bad behaviour, and not immediately dumping/nexting/throwing her to the lions, be aware I accept occassional female mild testing/games as a cost of doing business with the opposite sex, and I want this to be a positive thing for me and other users to discuss

So, day trip. Took her hiking. Great day. Got along well. This is the GF of 6-7 weeks.

First time this has happened other than by text.

Randomly, she stops talking. Seems p1ssed off about something. Will not explain. Just a bit cold, rejects hand holding and affection. There is almost a cheeky glint in her eye, there is no seriously crazy here.

I clock it for her doing some little test of some sort. I remember the term "amused mastery".

SO, I DON'T ask her whats wrong. I DON'T fawn on her to make it better. I stick my chin out and remain cheerful. I start to banter with her. She twists my banter to offence a little (again, I can see it's BS, no real offence). I ramp up the banter. It climaxes with some stupid comment about "why did you even bring me?" and I just laugh and tell her my other 2 better girls weren't around so I had to settle for her.

Time and again she just tested if she could make me beta out and every time I cheerfully pushed it aside.....amused mastery being the frame in my mind....

So, once this happened, she joins my hand, smiles, goes back to being sweet and was perfect all day (and night )

Never lose your shyt, this is just a game. I had this before with other girls and failed. Failed so hard I was like "She was upset and I tried really hard to work it out and she just got more upset".

Good old SS, I wouldn't have done it without you.

 

[sosousage]

So, I felt a shyt test/woman trouble coming on this weekend.

Before I get legions of posters decrying accepting any bad behaviour, and not immediately dumping/nexting/throwing her to the lions, be aware I accept occassional female mild testing/games as a cost of doing business with the opposite sex, and I want this to be a positive thing for me and other users to discuss

So, day trip. Took her hiking. Great day. Got along well. This is the GF of 6-7 weeks.

First time this has happened other than by text.

Randomly, she stops talking. Seems p1ssed off about something. Will not explain. Just a bit cold, rejects hand holding and affection. There is almost a cheeky glint in her eye, there is no seriously crazy here.

I clock it for her doing some little test of some sort. I remember the term "amused mastery".

SO, I DON'T ask her whats wrong. I DON'T fawn on her to make it better. I stick my chin out and remain cheerful. I start to banter with her. She twists my banter to offence a little (again, I can see it's BS, no real offence). I ramp up the banter. It climaxes with some stupid comment about "why did you even bring me?" and I just laugh and tell her my other 2 better girls weren't around so I had to settle for her.

Time and again she just tested if she could make me beta out and every time I cheerfully pushed it aside.....amused mastery being the frame in my mind....

So, once this happened, she joins my hand, smiles, goes back to being sweet and was perfect all day (and night )

Never lose your shyt, this is just a game. I had this before with other girls and failed. Failed so hard I was like "She was upset and I tried really hard to work it out and she just got more upset".

Good old SS, I wouldn't have done it without you.

you call it game? kids play games

 

[ubercat]

Bloody great going mate it's easy to say but not to apply in the heat of the moment. And that's my overall point win or lose with this particular chick it all makes you stronger.

I had the same thing on the weekend had some car trouble. She was helping me clean some crap out of the car. Then much to my Delight like a turd in the swimming pool some photos of me and the ex sufaced. Of course this led to many rounds of I'm NOT upset. I kept teasing her over it and she went home and sulked. Next day we met up and she polished my rocket.

See mate there is wisdom in the group mind.

 

[Fruitbat]

you call it game? kids play games

OK Big man. Swagger off the the bar and spit into the spitoon. Then go and mend some stuff and wrestle a bear. Grrr.

 

[Fruitbat]

Bloody great going mate it's easy to say but not to apply in the heat of the moment. And that's my overall point win or lose with this particular chick it all makes you stronger.

I had the same thing on the weekend had some car trouble. She was helping me clean some crap out of the car. Then much to my Delight like a turd in the swimming pool some photos of me and the ex sufaced. Of course this led to many rounds of I'm NOT upset. I kept teasing her over it and she went home and sulked. Next day we met up and she polished my rocket.

See mate there is wisdom in the group mind.

I got a polished rocket and also painted the face as a reward

 

[MrJack]

Haha this happened to me the other day. Went to the movies and we were drinking wine coolers. She started saying "do you want to leave? This movie sucks blah blah." I was like "no? I'm enjoying it I wanna see the ending."

Then she complains that she needs water so I told her there's a water fountain right by the bathroom.

She proceeds to complain literally 4 more f*cking times that she wants to leave and it got so annoying I just said f*ck it and we left.

After the poor wittle girl gets her water we start leaving the theatre and she proceeds to try and get me to hold her purse..lol.

I told her no repeatedly and she acts all butt hurt and goes.. "wow when's the last time you had a girlfriend, in Highschool"

I shut her down by bluntly saying "we aren't dating."

She then says "ok LJBF"

I said "I don't do just friends"

She says "ok I'll call my mom to come pick me up"

(Like holy shyt, test after test...)

I just said ok and started walking away lolol.

Long story short she followed me to my car I took her home and f*cked her 3 times throughout the night.

DONT EVER GIVE IN TO THEIR BS!!

(Even though I kinda gave in with leaving the movie but whatever)

 

[Fruitbat]

Haha this happened to me the other day. Went to the movies and we were drinking wine coolers. She started saying "do you want to leave? This movie sucks blah blah." I was like "no? I'm enjoying it I wanna see the ending."

Then she complains that she needs water so I told her there's a water fountain right by the bathroom.

She proceeds to complain literally 4 more f*cking times that she wants to leave and it got so annoying I just said f*ck it and we left.

After the poor wittle girl gets her water we start leaving the theatre and she proceeds to try and get me to hold her purse..lol.

I told her no repeatedly and she acts all butt hurt and goes.. "wow when's the last time you had a girlfriend, in Highschool"

I shut her down by bluntly saying "we aren't dating."

She then says "ok LJBF"

I said "I don't do just friends"

She says "ok I'll call my mom to come pick me up"

(Like holy shyt, test after test...)

I just said ok and started walking away lolol.

Long story short she followed me to my car I took her home and f*cked her 3 times throughout the night.

DONT EVER GIVE IN TO THEIR BS!!

(Even though I kinda gave in with leaving the movie but whatever)

Good going dude.

All the shyt test stuff online seems to be aimed at the initial first exchange/date.....just initial frame knocking.

Nothing prepares you for a few weeks in. The more towards actual commitment/relationship they get, the more these seem to ramp up.

My ex wife, for all her faults, never, ever screwed around, or made me jealous. EXCEPT one night, right at the point we were moving towards a "proper" relationship, when she randomly flirted with a waiter and humiliated me. I dumped her directly after the meal (I wasn't walking out halfway through) and she spent weeks getting me back - NEVER did that, or anything like it, again.

Bottom line is, in my opinion, that women are all looking on a subscious level for a father of their children. Everyone knows weak fathers make weak families - you will need to stand up to toddlers tantrums. She will need to be able to say "wait till your father gets home" You have to, as a man, be the ultimate authority. One day, your son might get in trouble with the law - you need to power to regulate the little SOB. Your teenage daughter will be a moody, spoiled bytch at time, you need to be strong enough to stand your ground and tell her she isn't going out. Your wife may be moody sometimes and she knows she is fallible and makes dumb decisions: Can you be the rock who tells her what she needs to hear?

This is what those shyt tests are. They are the precursor to her taking you seriously.

 

[RangerMIke]

You handled it perfectly. When she starts acting like a b!tch, you respond with humor. If she doesn't come around you walk away from her. Chicks are supposed to be fun... when she isn't fun what's the point.

 

[Julian]

That type or chit test comes from a chick who doesnt respect you.

Yeah u "passed" this round..but trust me the test will come back harder and stronger and more ballsy in the future to rest how far your "amused mastery" works.


Me personally, the second she started acting b1tchy, i would stop, look her dead in the face and flat out ask her who pissed in her cheerios all of a sudden


That random hot cold chit is inexcusable. Sorry bro but i dont see these "tests" as something to overcome. I see them as something to call out and stomp out asap.

Any girl who does that hot/cold etc is not worth anything. Shes worth fukking and kicking out. Not worth dating and hiking. The LAST thing i would ever want is dealing with made up bs drama out on the trail. Fukk that.

The reason i can say this is because ive had a number of girls with great personalities who wouldnt try some bs like this on me thats how i know its completely unneccesary crap and unnacceptable behavior. I dont have much amusement to that crap and im definitely not going to appease some bratty b1tch like you did previously.

And amused mastery is not the answer in my eyes, if u want to avoid this chit in the future.

 

[CMNILS87]

You guys need to find some better girls. Chicks pulling that after being exclusive less than 2 months??? Damn, amused mastery can only go so far. Her being a whiny little thing about nothing trumps that. If that happens again in the next few weeks, I'd find another girl. Too much of a headache

 

[Fruitbat]

That type or chit test comes from a chick who doesnt respect you.

Yeah u "passed" this round..but trust me the test will come back harder and stronger and more ballsy in the future to rest how far your "amused mastery" works.


Me personally, the second she started acting b1tchy, i would stop, look her dead in the face and flat out ask her who pissed in her cheerios all of a sudden


That random hot cold chit is inexcusable. Sorry bro but i dont see these "tests" as something to overcome. I see them as something to call out and stomp out asap.

Any girl who does that hot/cold etc is not worth anything. Shes worth fukking and kicking out. Not worth dating and hiking. The LAST thing i would ever want is dealing with made up bs drama out on the trail. Fukk that.

The reason i can say this is because ive had a number of girls with great personalities who wouldnt try some bs like this on me thats how i know its completely unneccesary crap and unnacceptable behavior. I dont have much amusement to that crap and im definitely not going to appease some bratty b1tch like you did previously.

And amused mastery is not the answer in my eyes, if u want to avoid this chit in the future.

Oh what a tough guy you are, please tell me more of what an alpha you are

I'm thinking chuck norris crossed with Clint Eastwood. Bit of James Dean.

 

[Fruitbat]

You guys need to find some better girls. Chicks pulling that after being exclusive less than 2 months??? Damn, amused mastery can only go so far. Her being a whiny little thing about nothing trumps that. If that happens again in the next few weeks, I'd find another girl. Too much of a headache

I.....just can't....must only be guys like you who can get women with 0 problems. Please tell me how to find these amazing, hastle free women, or perhaps I'm just not man enough to.

 

[sosousage]

I.....just can't....must only be guys like you who can get women with 0 problems. Please tell me how to find these amazing, hastle free women, or perhaps I'm just not man enough to.

hey budy share your tinder pickup lines

 

[Fruitbat]

hey budy share your tinder pickup lines

No, I'm happy hearing how fvcking awesomely zero tolerance other SSers are.

I wonder if it's all slo-mo, like an action film.

 

[sosousage]

No, I'm happy hearing how fvcking awesomely zero tolerance other SSers are.

I wonder if it's all slo-mo, like an action film.

i have no problem being no zero-tolerance.

 

[Fruitbat]

I am wondering if a lot of the guys on here have actually met a woman or are just so fvcking mustard that they have women literally walking like fans of boy bands, tending to their needs and feeding them grapes?

Perhaps all these women can form some sort of appreciation society.

I know some very successful men, millionaires,through my job, and not a single one doesn't get some sort of shyt from women.

 

[Julian]

Oh what a tough guy you are, please tell me more of what an alpha you are

I'm thinking chuck norris crossed with Clint Eastwood. Bit of James Dean.

Yeah actually those are all great male icons to learn from. It seems like you take after pee wee herman, richard simmons, and a little bit of rosie odonnel.

Oh, and arent you the guy whos foreign girlfriend and her family had your bank info and used it for sketchy banking practices? Lol dude you really are clueless arent you.

 

[ubercat]

Could be exclusivity was granted too soon. And this is the usual testing before she accepts the g/f role. About 2 months or 2 - 12 dates is right. Almost seems to b a law of nature.

 

[Victimothy]

Amused Mastery sounds like the name of a team of dancing, juggling clowns that blow up animal balloons at kiddie parties.

 

[MrJack]

Amused Mastery sounds like the name of a team of dancing, juggling clowns that blow up animal balloons at kiddie parties.

Strong 3rd post