My PUA friend gave me VERY GOOD advice about girls and dating

[thevilittletroll]

this is kind of a damned if you do damned if you dont situation. i agree to the point of not calling them out for flaking and being an a-hole afterward so they end up hating you. i would never do that. it just sounds like a last ditch effort to find a date at the last minute. which is ok, i've done it before too. send out a mass text to 50 numbers makes sence. but here's the problem, if you never hooked up with any of them, and they've done nothing but flake on you, whats the point? so i would say keep all the numbers of girls that you've at least made out with, ones that you have almost hooked up with. delete all the others, especially ones you have no shot with. unless she has some other form of value i can take advantage of, i delete a girls number after 3strikes in a row, that includes not returning texts, calls, and flaking on dates.

 

[marmel75]

in theory this works well...however many of the posters here are in the boat where they will sit and obsess over this girl who flakes and NOT go on to work on or get other options, which I think is moreso why the "NEXT" rule has become so prevalent, because unless you already have plenty of options, you will likely not be able to limit your calling/texting to this person....if done with the proper mindset it works and works well...I have also gotten laid several times from women who flaked initialy.

 

[youngprodigy]

He's applying the abundance mindset. He doesn't burn bridges which makes the women think he doesn't care because of abundance.

I don't agree with him completely. If you're successful enough, burning bridges with girls who have wronged you in the past isn't much of a sacrifice.

 

[Julian]

He's applying the abundance mindset. He doesn't burn bridges which makes the women think he doesn't care because of abundance.

I don't agree with him completely. If you're successful enough, burning bridges with girls who have wronged you in the past isn't much of a sacrifice.

In the context of the post I dont think he's talking about girls who burned you. More so, just girls youve been trying to get with, various plates, hoes youve been orbiting, etc etc. Basically all the women you ever come across...try an keep a line to em.

This is especially essential nowadays, in our fast food dating world...its only a matter of time before its your turn. Lol these chicks ride the c0ck carousel so if you stick around long enough you will likely smash eventually. At the same time you should still be having main chicks in the current time as well while you always have your "feelers" out there. Its not different then just normal socialization with anyone, be it a friend, work people you network with etc etc. Just staying in communication in general.

 

[skinnyguy]

I am 21, I got a friend who is 27 who has ****ed 100's of girls in his life and he hits on every single girl he sees naturally. He has never heard of sosuave and says he is NATURALLY like this by developing his game over time.

He told me something that really hit HARD when it comes to girls.

He said "Never burn bridges".

What does this mean? It means try to stay in friendly contact with as many chicks as humanly possible, whether they flaked on you, whether u dated and broke up, whether she ignores you, whether she cheated on u, it doesnt matter, always at least keep the POSSIBLITY of friendly contact with her. What do I mean?

1)DO NOT ERASE THEIR # IF THEY FLAKE ON YOU
2)DO NOT TELL THEM OFF OR SAY SOMETHIN SO RUDE THAT THEY WILL NEVER TALK TO U AGAIN
3)DONT SAY OR DO ANYTHING THAT WILL MAKE THEM TOTALLY DESPISE U BASICALLY.

Now this sounds very anti-suave and reeks of lack of self-respect, but this is coming from probly the biggest pimp/don juan that i ever met. I was wondering what the reasoning is behind this "don't burn bridges" theory of his, and he explained it to me in a few simple words:

"Dude if she ignores u or doesnt call back or flakes or this or that, act like it does not phase you THE LEAST BIT, and give a call back in a week or 2 saying hey wats up. It doesnt kill you to call and be friendly with a girl for 3 minutes acting like nothing happened. Doing this gives you more power, as she will see you dont even NOTICE her flaking, thus she'll have absolutely no reason to NOT wanna see you. And you never know what the future holds, she mite go thru a bad breakup, you mite be the only guy whod be there for her, get her drunk, get her crying on ur shoulder, and then go for the kill"

These are all his words but im paraphrasing. He also mentioned things such as "just IMAGINE over the last even 1 year, how many girls have u either yelled at, erased their # or confronted them to the point that they never wanted to talk to u? I bet at least 1/2 the girls you meet u do that to cuz they dont call back or somethin aka you NEXT them, which you SHOULDNT do."

He recapped for me how he met a really hot girl once and hed call her once every 3 weeks or so, just to say hi, sometimes she picked up, sometimes she didnt, never called him back tho.....but after a few months (wats it to u to lose 15 minutse in a span of 2 months?) she DIDNT ignore him and they DID hang out and guess what? they did E together and ****ed all nite.

His lesson - keep as many contacts as possible and always act like ur not phased and u dont care (even if they disrepsect u or flake on u or anything, even if they LJBF u, if they tell u they have a bf, doesnt matter), DO NOT BURN BRIDGES. You never know when it may come in handy, but by keeping ur cool and acting like nothing is ever wrong, you will always maintain positive energy with the girl, and this first of all does LOADS for your social proof if u ever need it, along with other benefits that were mentiond above.


I never applied this, as i NEXT or tell off any girl who flakes or disrepsects me and man im left with only like 5 girls rite now who i am "friendly" with.

NOT following what my friend said and BURNING BRIDGES, it now turns out that outta the 50 or so girls that ive fvcked, I have no contact with about 45 of them due to them getting bfs and me erasing their #s, or them standing me up on a future date, or them cheating on me or dumping me, or flaking of course - all these led to me BURNING BRIDGES by erasing their #s aka NOT PLAYING IT COOL LIKE I SHOULD HAVE.

If I had been doing what my friend told me, I could prob be getting loads and loads of pvssy from some of these girls and if I ever needed, I could have dates lined up for weeks.



KEEP THE POWER, IGNORE FLAKING AND *****Y BEHAVIOR, PRETEND YOU ARE THE MAN AND NOTHING A ***** DOES MATTERS, AND THAT WILL DRAW THE GIRLS IN THAT YOU WERE READY TO NEXT

What i just capitalized above seems to be the whole point of the speech my friend gave me.

Let me know what you think of all this.......THIS is a very different perspective I know, but do think about it for a second

Unfortunately I have to state that your friend has low standards.

1) he hits in every girl he sees. Even whales. That's why his lay count is so high. The girls he bangs I wouldn't touch with a 10 foot pole.

2) he tolerates bull crap from women just to get his **** wet.

WHY would you wanna bang a girl who cheated on you or flakes on you?


I'm guessing your friend is a sex addict which allows him to put up with any bullcrap from women as long as he gets laid. I could care less if a crappy girl bangs me or not even if she's a 10.

 

[Floydispink01]

The theory behind this post rests on ones ability to truly NOT care about any form of rejection from a girl. If it TRULY does not affect you or give you negative emotions then what the OP is suggesting is fine because you're looking at the occasional communication as just part of your social game which could lead to an occasional good thing. But most guys could not pull this off because we are wired to get pissed at rejection.

Attitude is everything.

This is the truth right here.

If you worry about what to say or how to respond to a girl then you're f'd......it's the attitude behind it.

 

[Solomon]

I agree with 2&3 but 1 is a waste of time, I've learned long ago if a woman is truly interested she will not flake and if she does flake she will make a counter offer

Keeping women around that flake is basically saying your ok with poor behavior in 2006 this may have worked when the thread was originally created but in 2017 dating happens so fast that women have already moved on to 5 other men by the time a week has gone by

 

[3agle 3yes]

1)DO NOT ERASE THEIR # IF THEY FLAKE ON YOU
2)DO NOT TELL THEM OFF OR SAY SOMETHIN SO RUDE THAT THEY WILL NEVER TALK TO U AGAIN
3)DONT SAY OR DO ANYTHING THAT WILL MAKE THEM TOTALLY DESPISE U BASICALLY.

I agree with 1 but not 2 or 3, I don't give a fück if I offend her, I'm not acting fake for püssy.

But point 1, I've been saying this for years even though I rarely get flakes. AFAIK the majority of the guys on this forum are courting women, in other words they commit too much too soon. Most guys setup dates asking women when they are available, women read this as men expecting them to spend hours with him or worse the whole day, and they anticipate this.

But if you think about it, why would you prepare to spend hours with a woman you haven't got a feel for yet?

 

[Dash Riprock]

Unfortunately I have to state that your friend has low standards.

1) he hits in every girl he sees. Even whales. That's why his lay count is so high. The girls he bangs I wouldn't touch with a 10 foot pole.

2) he tolerates bull crap from women just to get his **** wet.

WHY would you wanna bang a girl who cheated on you or flakes on you?


I'm guessing your friend is a sex addict which allows him to put up with any bullcrap from women as long as he gets laid. I could care less if a crappy girl bangs me or not even if she's a 10.

Agreed. Why waste you time on someone who has low interest? Look, REAL men are hard to find and women know it. 90-95% of all men are betas or worse omegas. So when the rare alpha/DJ comes along, women see it and know it. Now, if you're a true DJ and the woman is still showing low interest after a few call/hookup attempts, why keep trying? There are women out there who will have higher interest. Unless a guy has an infinite amount of time to date, call, play PUA games, etc., it's a bad use of valuable dating time. Plus have you no life of your own? Your ROI is poor. F*uck, I'm way too busy to put up with some low-interest, flake's BS games. Let her f*uck one of her beta male orbiters.

 

[Von]

In Business and Politics.... burning your bridges is considered the worst idea of all

Why dating wouldn't be the same?

If you wanna get laid.... sure keep them in your contact list and rehit them when you have nothing to do and see the results.

But always keep your respect.... so if she disrespect you... erase her that's the only good thing to do.

The post speak of abundance in the way... you don't care about because you are filled with prospect.... so you always move forward and you hit back the bridge that didn't workout when you have ''free'' time.

In business, often the people will say no for months or years... than say Yes... you will be happy of having that commission or contract and the client will be happy of finally saying yes (cause you'll deliver)

In short, always make new bridges, repass on old bridges when free, always have respect for your self, invest your time wisely...

If framed well... you can have a life full of lays and a business...

The PUA might have passed 24hours on prospecting girls... but its not us to judge his life.... actually if you did a 24h 7days round for getting contacts over 1 week (vacation week lets say) each year (so 1 week a year)... maybe you have enough numbers including those who will come once in a while... to have a whole year of lay

 

[MillionBillionaire]

I am a big fan of burning bridges. I'm an advocate for the delete+block, along with the ignore and backturn if they get within your vacinity.

I don't talk to or hang around people that disrespect me. You gotta have your deal breakers and stick to it when they cross the line.

 

[skinnyguy]

I am a big fan of burning bridges. I'm an advocate for the delete+block, along with the ignore and backturn if they get within your vacinity.

I don't talk to or hang around people that disrespect me. You gotta have your deal breakers and stick to it when they cross the line.

Agreed. If you're so scared of burning bridges, you have a scarcity mindset. Only a loser would hit up a girl who flaked on him 3 times in a row. You gotta have respect for yourself. Having self respect is more important than getting laid.