I'm in the anger stage to override this weak sadness. Im good. I rant here to vent.
Can a BPD make you feel like you are the narcissist?
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btownbuck2012
Master Don Juan
What about away from SS? Do you have people to talk to? A pyschologist? That's really important too for this kinda stuff.
I have my mom and sister tho i try not to bother them. My sister is 8 months pregant and my mom cancer free one year. Dont want to add them stress.
A therapist will help speed up your recovery time. The first step is in realizing that you're now more than likely emotionally damaged to a certain degree.
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Ya, I am thinking of seeing one after I get back from the Labor day weekend, or at least start looking into it. The main thing is I want is be able to temper my anger in an argument, because there is always a tipping point where it's like "OK wanna play this, here you go... your rage sets fire to mine, and then mine sets fire to yours, and its all gone from there, no coming back" I need to stop that. That is a definite fault in me and I want to repair this before moving into any other relationship. Sometimes I carry the frustration if someone is giving me the passive agressive cold shoulder, and after two days if I begin the conversation and they give me any attitude, then there I go matching the attitude, and boom, off to heated argument we go. I think I do it because I don't want to end up like these dudes who have their woman in their face straight screaming and cussing at them and the dude is sitting there like a dope. Anyways, I want to recover faster myself and just do some healing and fix me before I am back out.
Good decision
That was me 10 years ago. I worked on it and altho this relationship didn't work out i handled myself very well thro rough abuse while maintaining respect. Setting that boundary of respect caused more resistance from the bpd narc but i looked better all around. There were a few times i had to get loud and ridiculous as she just would not stop.
Be the male lion who gives a look when needed but only gets up from laying when you have to handle chit so to speak.
Whoa.... I just found out that my ex GF, the cluster B one, has contacted my ex wife because the ex GF said that she still loves my kids and wants to see them. Apparently the ex GF and ex Wife are now buddy buddy and are going to start visiting each other at the ex-wifes house. My ex Wife told the kids not to hate the ex GF because what ever I did was really bad... which is kicked her out of my house (but I am sure ex gf has added a ton of stuff on top of that). I can't even imagine the backstabbing going on in their conversations right now.... and the fact that the situation is ****ed beyond the stratosphere.... WTF?
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Feel for you. They will use anyone they can. My cluster B ex had my own daughter and her hubby spying on me while she was living in another mans house with him.
You can't and won't understand what they do because it defies a rational explanation.
They are children playing in an adult world.
You can't and won't understand what they do because it defies a rational explanation.
They are children playing in an adult world.
What should I do, just ride out the storm and ignore everything that is going on? I mean I can't control them and if I react then they will be getting the response they want. Soooo... just pretend I am watching a crazy movie playing out in front of me and I guess just be entertained by it?
Right, you are an observer only now, not a player.
It's amusing, when you're with them they get upset because you won't go away, when you do go away they get upset that you went away.
It's a no win situation for the man.
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Is your exwife capable of having a convo with you where you could ask her if roles were reversed how would she want you to handle it? And maybe she can be respectful to you.
Oh who am I kidding hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, you are fuched but just laugh off how pitiful these two cvnts are.
Hah, she is my ex and she is kinda a psycho ***** too, I pick em really good. She cheated, that's why we divorced. Anyways, I am sure she is soaking it all in and they are agreeing that I am the worst piece of crap that has ever walked this earth. What ever, I hammered em both in the arse, so I get the last laugh....
.Well you aren't alone I'm terrified to pick a girl ever again.Hah, she is my ex and she is kinda a psycho ***** too, I pick em really good. She cheated, that's why we divorced. Anyways, I am sure she is soaking it all in and they are agreeing that I am the worst piece of crap that has ever walked this earth. What ever, I hammered em both in the arse, so I get the last laugh....
Good fuching sluts!!!
Hey now guy, when you go fishing and you get bitten by a caught barracuda, does that mean you never go fishing again even though you love to catch fish ?
As long as I learn to identify and not lip a great white shark, then yes... until then I will just tie my fish flies in peace, lol.
When you reel in a piranha that looked like a small mouth until you took it off the hook and it nearly bites your face off then you become hesitant to trust your judgement again.
noBSgames
Senior Don Juan
Wow you're not kidding they are both alike!! She wanted me to send her like $50 or something each week for savings she wanted me to move to NYC and a studio was going for like $1400/m I don't think she would pull her weight plus at the time I was still part time.. she for sure did not like me moving to full time.. making more money but yet she told me I needed to move up in the company... if you don't think moving from $20k to $60k is not moving up I don't know what to tell you..
Between that and getting mad I was buying car parts to fix my car and me seeing her pattern I told her pretty much I'm going to do what I want.. who wants to come home and see your car for two years sit while paying car insurance and I have to walk back and forth to work.. I guess that does not matter to her. I threw a little rage back her way all she could do was remain silent
noBSgames
Senior Don Juan
Whatever you do don't tell them they have bpd my god she never lets me forget now..
I did exactly that right before we left split up over a month ago I told her you are a narcissistic you know you are crazy right you know you are crazy you are literally crazy. I had enough of it one of the last messages she sent me said that I convinced her that she was crazy 2 years ago and cost her $400. For god sakes I watch somebody I loved and cared about suffer everyday with Manic episodes up and down the littlest thing happen and she would go to bed at 7 for the whole day or 5 for the whole day so I talked about maybe she should seek help so she translates that and blames me for convincing her she is crazy to go to a doctor when this f****** girl almost 30 years old will go to bed at 5:30 p.m. because Subway did not have the sub she wanted. But she blames me for convincing her that she's crazy when she told me for years that she can't handle stress that she has problems with anxiety stress and depression but it's my fault these girls or so ridiculous you cannot even make it up. They are mentally ill and you are in the Twilight Zone because they cannot understand it but blame you it's like being punked on a TV show just looking around to see who's playing this prank on you they are f****** insane in cruel to boot
