Bingo.The one thing I could think of was she feared losing control over me if I bulked up and transformed from BB to AF. Abandonment triggers, I could cheat more easily (increased attraction = increased options)... Less desire for things to work out in the relationship.
Remember, women control us with their emotions because they can't control us, men, physically. The weaker we are from a physical standpoint, the more power they feel they have over us psychologically. At least... this has been my experience with intimate relationships throughout my life.
Have you noticed the more ripped and cut a guy gets, the fewer fvcks he gives?
The answer is that he has increased t-levels and leads from a place of quiet confidence. That's the route I'm on now...
My ex would become extremely jealous and insecure when i stepped up my fitness.
She tried to control me from the gym by shaming and then accusing me.
She even said she was afraid I'd leave her because im inbetter shape than her.
When she couldn't control me she would rage shame blame punish.
A npd pattern is shame blame punish. And they are cruel.