ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
If she's a nice girl that is.
I failed miserably when texting this girl
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Good lord! You remind me of myself during my AFC days. This is exactly how I texted women, and I never got laid.
I want you to take a look at your screenshots, look at how you're responding and how she's responding. What do you notice?
1. You basically telling her your whole life's story. You revealed too much too soon. You killed all the mystery.
2. Like everyone is saying, You talk too much! Damn. Tone it down man! You keep going on and on even though she's not even interested in the subject (ie. when you asked her about gaming). Keep your responses short and simple otherwise you look needy. The only time you use long responses is when you having a really serious discussion like discussing politics or something. Again, tone it down!
3. You failed her sh!t tests. You walked right into her trap by giving her validation (when she says she stutters even though she doesn't). You just earned yourself a spot as one of her ego-feeding orbiters.
4. No escalation whatsoever. The number one thing you should be doing when texting girls is flirting and planning a date. All this useless banter you were doing bored the crap out of her.
Did you fvck up? Yes you certainly did. But, she's still responding which means you still have a chance. No more chit-chat just set up a date already! Stop talking about YOU so much. Focus more on her now not yourself, you've said enough.
I want you to take a look at your screenshots, look at how you're responding and how she's responding. What do you notice?
1. You basically telling her your whole life's story. You revealed too much too soon. You killed all the mystery.
2. Like everyone is saying, You talk too much! Damn. Tone it down man! You keep going on and on even though she's not even interested in the subject (ie. when you asked her about gaming). Keep your responses short and simple otherwise you look needy. The only time you use long responses is when you having a really serious discussion like discussing politics or something. Again, tone it down!
3. You failed her sh!t tests. You walked right into her trap by giving her validation (when she says she stutters even though she doesn't). You just earned yourself a spot as one of her ego-feeding orbiters.
4. No escalation whatsoever. The number one thing you should be doing when texting girls is flirting and planning a date. All this useless banter you were doing bored the crap out of her.
Did you fvck up? Yes you certainly did. But, she's still responding which means you still have a chance. No more chit-chat just set up a date already! Stop talking about YOU so much. Focus more on her now not yourself, you've said enough.
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superstorm250
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Yeah I know now that I really fu*ked up and I should've come on here and also to other sites and read texting guides before I ever sent that first text to her. Like I was saying earlier, I kind of think she was happy and excited to hear from me at the VERY beginning because she thought that I was texting her to ask her out, but then quickly lost interest in the conversation when I started rambling on instead, which also lowered her level of interest in me. Do you really think that I still have a chance after all this though? Our conversation ended 3 days ago and she was the last one to respond and I haven't texted her since then. I also saw on her Snapchat story today that she posted a video at her place with her niece (who I mentioned in my first post) and some guy, and this guy was rubbing her feet and for the caption she put his name and a smiley face like this "c:" after his name. Now obviously this guy could be just a friend, but it also makes me think that he's the guy she's now interested in and all her interest has now shifted to him.
You're overthinking and putting her on a pedestal. And stop stalking her, it's creepy. You have to stop picturing her as some kind of goddess because she's not, she's just like any other woman. You're actions are putting you in her friendzone.
You have two choices here. Ask her out on a date or leave her alone and approach other women.
Next time you speaking with her this is exactly what you'll say and see where you stand with her. Nothing else. No rambling
superstorm250
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First of all, how is it considered stalking if all I'm doing is viewing her Snapchat story, which is up for everyone on her friends list to view? That's literally all I did and just wrote about what I saw here, that's not stalking because that's something that everyone does. And also, I haven't made any other mistakes with her besides my sh*tty texting performance so I don't even know what other actions you could be referring to that are also putting me in the friend zone. I probably am thinking about this more than I should be, but that's because there's some people on here telling me that I fu*ked everything up so badly that it can't be salvaged now and that I completely killed her interest in me, and then there's also others here telling me that even though I did mess up, I probably still have a chance with her and that I should give it another try, so I'm pretty conflicted. And I'm not putting her on a pedestal and worshipping her like a goddess, she's told me about herself while we were working and she's definitely not perfect, nobody is and she's not much different from anyone else. And like I said the first time that reply was posted, she's 20 and under the drinking age so I can't ask her if she wants to grab a drink with me. It has to be something for people under 21 and there's no easy way to tell her I want it to just be the two of us and don't bring your niece.
