How To Handle This Chit Test?

[soulforge]

So current plate I am seeing, I met on pof.. sex on first date, within an hour...

Have been seeing her a few months.. I do NOT want a relationship with her, she is too risky, and probably a slvt...

Anyhow i let her do most of the initiating, sending text messages etc etc.. i don't call her, and tell her I like her, or any of that chit..

She sent me this meme today, I am certain this is a hint or a threat???


IF THEY MISS YOU, THEY'LL CALL.. IF THEY WANT YOU, THEY WILL SAY IT.. IF THEY CARE THEY WILL SHOW IT.. AND IF NOT, THEY ARE NOT WORTH YOUR TIME..

I am certain this is a threat or a hint at me?

She wants me to be calling her, telling her i care.. PUSHING me towards a RELATIONSHIP or she is gone?

So how do i handle future chit tests like this?

I simply responded with.. It's pretty cool, should be put in a frame (sarcasm)

 

[attic]

That's fine. I wouldn't respond at all when she does it next time.

Keep plenty of emotional distance from this girl.

 

[soulforge]

That's fine. I wouldn't respond at all when she does it next time.

Keep plenty of emotional distance from this girl.

Well this is it... I enjoy banging her.. she is fun to be around, but not worthy of relationship status..


But.. she knows I am only banging her, and i think is pulling away now.

If i don't give her more... i may lose this plate very soon..


I guess its best to let her walk... than get emotionaly involved with her

 

[soulforge]

I intend to play it cool.. avoid and deflect her chit tests!

I also do NOT intend to change my behaviour towards her, as she will think, I GAVE in to her threat..

Otherwise the games will increase further more

 

[AJHook]

She sounds desperate. Sex on the first date is fine in some cases, it depends on the individual. But with chicks like this, it may be wise only to see them a few more times. If things go from 0-100 right off the bat without really clear communication about expectations (from you and her) from the outset, it can be a recipe for inclement relationship thunderstorms...or worse. Been there bro. She's likely wanting a commitment (whatever that looks like in her eyes). If this isn't in your best interest, which it sounds like, you need to *poof...cloud of smoke* and disappear.

 

[soulforge]

She sounds desperate. Sex on the first date is fine in some cases, it depends on the individual. But with chicks like this, it may be wise only to see them a few more times. If things go from 0-100 right off the bat without really clear communication about expectations (from you and her) from the outset, it can be a recipe for inclement relationship thunderstorms...or worse. Been there bro. She's likely wanting a commitment (whatever that looks like in her eyes). If this isn't in your best interest, which it sounds like, you need to *poof...cloud of smoke* and disappear.

Well put it this way, first date she came straight to my house (i could have been a rapist)

She bought heels and stockings in the car, and left them in there, incase i wanted her to wear them..

I fuked her within an hour.. she agreed to have 3sums and 4sums with me... but later bottled out lol


Not exactly wifey material lol

That being said...the sex is crazy, she is fun to be around..

So may aswell keep her around aslong as I can... if she becomes a pain in the ass..

Will have to drop her, or let her just end it..

Gut instinct tells me, there may be trouble ahead.

 

[The Duke]

How do you get an old stray dog that nobody wants to stick around?....feed it a little.

I'd initiate a little if you want to keep her around for a while longer. A little push/pull. Time for a little pull.

 

[soulforge]

Another thing i have noticed..

Things between me and her have been very sexual.. lots of sexting back and forth..

I had her very submissive sexualy, at my beck and call..

Recently she is avoiding sex talk... my guess is she is trying to steer things away from purely sex..

Also i believe she is trying to use sex against me, by controlling it? Because she knows that is pretty much all i want...

How to proceed.. shall i play her at her own game? Stop initiating sex talk, show less interest in fuking her?

If that is her weapon, then why not disarm her, so she has nothing to use against me?

 

[pyros]

she's a super slvt.

do you want to have a relationship with a super slvt? if not, stop seing her.

 

[soulforge]

she's a super slvt.

do you want to have a relationship with a super slvt? if not, stop seing her.

No brah... i just want to continue banging her, till I have another plate on board..

Relationship with her is out of the question!

 

[lizardking82]

LOL, I see most guys here agree with your reaction. I say, she just doesn't feel you close. Why are you ****in' a chick you don't even wanna call? Letting her initiate is one thing, letting her initiate most of the time with you initiating only for sex is just not right. Give her some more attention, just a bit more, it will be enough to keep her around for a while longer and I would suggest you start having sex with people you feel, not with just a piece of ***** LOL

 

[Fzatf]

I agree with lizard and howiestern. Put a little effort with giving her a bit more attention to satisfy her. If you enjoy banging her, it should be an easy reward for just a bit of attention.

 

[soulforge]

LOL, I see most guys here agree with your reaction. I say, she just doesn't feel you close. Why are you ****in' a chick you don't even wanna call? Letting her initiate is one thing, letting her initiate most of the time with you initiating only for sex is just not right. Give her some more attention, just a bit more, it will be enough to keep her around for a while longer and I would suggest you start having sex with people you feel, not with just a piece of ***** LOL

I do talk to her by text man.. when she comes over, i fuk her, but i do take her out for drinks too..

I agree, maybe I should occasionally initiate contact to.. I think 70% her and 30% me, is a good value..


I guess i have to give a little if i want to keep her in rotation..

But i am sure there is some power play at work here, especially with her holding back on the sex talk..

 

[The Duke]

Another thing i have noticed..

Things between me and her have been very sexual.. lots of sexting back and forth..

I had her very submissive sexualy, at my beck and call..

Recently she is avoiding sex talk... my guess is she is trying to steer things away from purely sex..

Also i believe she is trying to use sex against me, by controlling it? Because she knows that is pretty much all i want...

How to proceed.. shall i play her at her own game? Stop initiating sex talk, show less interest in fuking her?

If that is her weapon, then why not disarm her, so she has nothing to use against me?

Women always want relationships/attention/validation. In order to get that they will use sex. When they aren't getting the relationship/attention/validation, they withdraw sex. Its really about the only tool they have these days. lol.

So just give her a biscuit as little as possible. Keep the carrot dangling from the end of the string. Right now she "feels" there is no carrot on the end of that string. So stop by the grocery store on the way to her place next time and buy her some $10 flowers( no roses, roses = love). Chics eat that stupid chit right up. That will buy you some more time with out her going into biatch mode.

shoot her a texts every now and then ask her how her days is going.

 

[lizardking82]

I do talk to her by text man.. when she comes over, i fuk her, but i do take her out for drinks too..

I agree, maybe I should occasionally initiate contact to.. I think 70% her and 30% me, is a good value..


I guess i have to give a little if i want to keep her in rotation..

But i am sure there is some power play at work here, especially with her holding back on the sex talk..

There is, but as a man, this shouldn't even register in your radar at all. You seem so defensive about her power plays. They shouldn't mean anything to you, at all. You handle her without even sweating it. That message from her is telling you "common, man, I would like some more attention from you". She's literally beggin'. Regulate it, it's all in your hands.

 

[resilient]

@soulforge plate be like...

Agree with Howie, maybe her favorite chocolate bar, ice cream flavor once in a while.

 

[AJ84]

Well put it this way, first date she came straight to my house (i could have been a rapist)

She bought heels and stockings in the car, and left them in there, incase i wanted her to wear them..

I fuked her within an hour.. she agreed to have 3sums and 4sums with me... but later bottled out lol


Not exactly wifey material lol

That being said...the sex is crazy, she is fun to be around..

So may aswell keep her around aslong as I can... if she becomes a pain in the ass..

Will have to drop her, or let her just end it..

Gut instinct tells me, there may be trouble ahead.

Wow I'm stuck on the fact that she had heels and stockings in her car, just in case. I bet she's no stranger to sex on the fly. Now she's sending Fatal Attraction msgs. Yeah have fun but go with you gut and use protection. Also don't leave your wallet or other valuables around. I'm not even joking, a woman who just blindly goes to a male stranger's house, I would be suspicious.

 

[soulforge]

Wow I'm stuck on the fact that she had heels and stockings in her car, just in case. I bet she's no stranger to sex on the fly. Now she's sending Fatal Attraction msgs. Yeah have fun but go with you gut and use protection. Also don't leave your wallet or other valuables around. I'm not even joking, a woman who just blindly goes to a male stranger's house, I would be suspicious.

Well the stockings and heels was my idea.. I asked her to bring them with her..

But she could have refused and said.. hey i'm not that type of girl... no

But lucky for me, she was that TYPE of girl..

Either this girl has no issue with banging a dude within an hour of meeting..

Or she just couldn't resist my game, good looks, charm and big ****k haha.

Either way a girl that comes direct to your house, and lays her puzzy on a plate for you is NEVER a good candidate for a relationship..

By the way, not a chance am i buying this chick flowers man.. maybe I will throw her a carrot occasionally and fire off a few text asking how she is... and that's it.

 

[CMNILS87]

Well the stockings and heels was my idea.. I asked her to bring them with her..

But she could have refused and said.. hey i'm not that type of girl... no

But lucky for me, she was that TYPE of girl..

Either this girl has no issue with banging a dude within an hour of meeting..

Or she just couldn't resist my game, good looks, charm and big ****k haha.

Either way a girl that comes direct to your house, and lays her puzzy on a plate for you is NEVER a good candidate for a relationship..

By the way, not a chance am i buying this chick flowers man.. maybe I will throw her a carrot occasionally and fire off a few text asking how she is... and that's it.

Dude you gotta chill on this girl. She's driving you bonkers over nothing. She can't lock you down. She's trying to compare you to past relationships and you're not acting the same as them so she's frustrated. She expects you to wade on her hand and foot, but if you did she'd despise you for the neediness.

I think she's emotionally damaged goods. The only response would be no response or a better choice is.

Her: blah blah blah

You: you need to chill. We're only casually dating and I'll text you when I have free time to chat and hang hun. I'm pretty busy lately and I'm not very open with someone early on. And it's kinda scary that you're sending me that stuff after hanging out a month.

That's all you gotta say. Reframe it so you're in control, and she comes off as needy, and you tickle her emotions that there could be more down the line. I'd drop her anyways, but it's one way of keeping the plate from cracking.

 

[sazc]

dont reply to texts like these. if she cant open her mouth and be direct, she doesnt deserve a conversation. Ignore and move along with your life and interaction as if you never saw it.