What is Kino?

[Urbanyst]

Whatever you do bro, don't let that SLVT come between you and your friend. Actually, you should directly ask your friend why does his bytch keep touching on you/light flirting with you? Matter of fact, publicly display your LOYALTY to your homie and ask that bytch the next time she does it.....WHY does she do it? Put them bytches on the spot like I do and embarass the fvck out of them.

Don't fall into any temptations to fvck that SLVT, why? Because she's just a ran through piece of a.ss, the relationship with your homie/friend is the relationship that you want to protect.

More men need to start doing this, instead of doing what @deesade did with his cousin, and flirting back with his cousin's girlfriend/trying to fvck her. We need to start being loyal to each other as men and not letting ran through, STD-infested, D quality pvssy come between you and your friends, family, and associates.

Put those bytches on the SPOT, right then and there while she's doing it and publicly ask why the FVCK is she doing it? Chicks do this all of the time. Try flirting with a chick's friend or cousin, WATCH don't many times they out your a.ss right then and there. That's LOYALTY.

I go way back with this guy. Neither of us would ever let a b!tch destroy our friendship. He knows there is no chance in hell I would ever f*ck his girl. That's probably why he doesn't care that she touches me. Likewise, he would never f*ck one of my girls. But if they were touching him up I would definitely call them out. He is nicer than I am.

 

[Tenacity]

I go way back with this guy. Neither of us would ever let a b!tch destroy our friendship. He knows there is no chance in hell I would ever f*ck his girl. That's probably why he doesn't care that she touches me. Likewise, he would never f*ck one of my girls. But if they were touching him up I would definitely call them out. He is nicer than I am.

I love this bro, it's great to see guys sticking together. I see far too many guys that will let a piece of ran through pvssy with every STD in the alphabet, come between them and a guy they have been cool with for YEARS.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Yeah, the obvious thing to assume is she wants my penis inside her. But she does it right in font of my friend whom she is dating, and he doesn't seem to care at all. So maybe she is just an attention wh*re.

Sounds to me like she may be trying to get him jealous, or see what he'd do. She could be testing him, basic sh1t test.

 

[zekko]

He is nicer than I am.

Hey, ya trying to "boyfriend destroy" him?

 

[devilkingx2]

I honestly don't recommend that as it could lead to sexual harassment very quickly. There's a variety of other things a guy can do to see if she's attracted to him:

- Use the telephone and flirt with her/go into sexual lingo. If she follows, great.
- Openly flirt with her in person. If she follows, great.
- Use pet names like boo, baby, etc., if she doesn't have an issue with YOU using them, great.

Basically I "feel them out" before I start "feeling them out".......if that makes sense. I'm not about to go touching on Tyquesha until Tyquesha unequivocally and irrevocably gives me the non-verbal green light to do so

there's a thousand ways to find out if a girl likes you or not, and all have their upsides and downsides, to use your examples:

-many girls are quite a bit different when interacting not in person than in person (i've seen the occassional post by someone who has a plate that is affectionate in real life but distant over text, I personally know a girl who always seemed interested when we weren't interacting face to face but barely wanted to say hi in person)

- some girls are AWs who flirt for fun

-some girls hate pet names in general

you already mentioned the main downside of kino (the possibility of a harsh negative reaction)

one time a girl made up some excuse to exchange numbers with me, but she didn't seem very interested otherwise, so a few minutes later when she showed me something on her phone I touched her hand and moved her wrist so I could see it better, she immediately pulled away (and didn't even leave her hand in the position where I could see her phone better), turns out she merely wanted something from me and was trying to distract me til she got it but otherwise wanted nothing to do with me, so very light kino helped me out there.

a man's quiver needs to be varied and versatile for all the situations he'll have to deal with, sometimes you'll need a fast way to test her interest, sometimes you'll need a way that isn't a risk to yourself, sometimes you'll need an exceptionally accurate method, etc.

I'd say not to use kino on a girl until you know her well enough that you won't get pepper sprayed for touching her, or until you've got enough IOIs that you think there's a good chance of payoff, obviously don't say hi and then try to hug a random stranger or something, that wouldn't go well lol

 

[zekko]

I'd say not to use kino on a girl until you know her well enough that you won't get pepper sprayed for touching her, or until you've got enough IOIs that you think there's a good chance of payoff, obviously don't say hi and then try to hug a random stranger or something, that wouldn't go well lol

I remember for awhile there RSD was promoting "cave manning" girls - which was going up to girls in the club, grabbing them, throwing them over your shoulder, and walking off with them. This was supposed to show your dominance and brass balls, of course. They did warn that you shouldn't try this unless you were very well "calibrated", but I don't think it's too hard to see the downside of this.

I believe they ran into some trouble over it (mostly for encouraging this type of "sexual assault"), so I don't think they push it anymore.

 

[skinnyguy]

Just went out with HB 9.5. I didn't initiate any kino during lunch. By the end of the date she was all over me.

You have to hold back and build up anticipation. If you give it all away she could respond well but not if she isn't comfortable with you. I showed this girl I wasn't a horny desperate man and that I'm on her level. She kept telling me how she liked hanging out with me and I was funny. Only then did I initiate kino.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Amante just did my work for me.^^

I would add that has always worked for me is a light, ultra-casual touch when conversing with a woman at some point in the interaction. Kind of like when a talk show host gives a light, quick touch of a guest's arm during an interview. Same vibe.

This demonstrates to her that you are "open" and casual without being creepy. It relaxes her about you, yet also excites her on another level. Just one per interaction will do the trick.

I'm not a big fan of obvious "kino" as is commonly understood in our community. It's too aggressive and too much of a make or break risk. That light, friendly touch that I advise makes ou come across as very advanced in your social calibration.

How to ruin it: Look at the place you're going to touch before touching. That is creepy and contrived. Instead, when you touch her, do it without looking at the landing zone. Or else glance only when you're already in motion. The "focus and fire" technique is creepy AF and will turn her right off.

 

[Urbanyst]

I like seeing threads that ask simple questions about the things we presume most people understand, such as kino, neg-hits, etc. More often than not, we come to find that a lot of people actually have a misconception about these things.

As I have always understood it, the purpose of "kino" is not to build sexual tension. The sexual tension is built up between two people through mutual IOIs and flirtation.

Kino breaks the sexual tension that's already there prior to going in for the kiss, so that the kiss itself is not a sudden, shocking move.

If you're somewhat bold, confident and generally good with women, you don't really need kino at all. And in fact, some women like the surprise of an unexpected kiss. That said, a mutual attraction, a sexual tension, is already there either way.

Kino is a good "tool" for guys learning game, because these are the guys that have always been afraid to go in for a kiss. These are the guys who so often get put into the friend zone because they don't escalate. Even if they do manage to build up some sexual tension, they let the tension build and never break it. Women quickly lose interest in a man when they are attracted to a guy and want him to escalate...and he's to afraid to do it. More often than not, that fear comes from too much of a buildup in tension to the point that any move will start to seem more and more awkward the longer he waits. Kino just helps break that down.

Other than that, applying kino without that sexual tension there first just makes you creepy touchy guy.

Gotcha.

I don't use a whole lot of kino then. With new girls I usually use intense eye contract and flirty comments to warm them up. When they lock eyes with me and smile I know its on. If they get creeped out, I know its off.

I have a complex about putting my hand on a woman's thigh. Had an embarrassing experience doing that in High School. Never did it again to this day. Even thinking about doing it brings back all the embarrassment. I can't do it. Even if I'm already sleeping with the girl.