I agree 100%.
I'll throw this recent situation out there:
A chick I used to hook up with for a few months last summer started randomly hitting me up. The occasional "what are you doing this weekend" texts. No matter what I said, she replied with "sounds fun. Wish I could join". Now I know this chick is a classic attention wh0re and is probably out for validation. Not once did I actually break down and invite her over the past 2 months as she sent these texts.
Last week she pulled the "sounds fun" and I invited her to meet a few of us out. She came back with "it will be late once I finish cross fit but I'd like to go IF you'll wait on me. I'd like to meet you at your place and ride with you". No problem. I tell her that I dont want to go out super late so she says she might "skip crossfit". I tell her she may be in for a workout before the night ends anyway. "Sounds good. I will let you know asap if I am going to crossfit or not".
I messaged her a few hours later with "Crossfit or no? What time should I expect you?"
After that it was crickets. I know that she got the attention validation she has been looking for with me for several months. I caved and she knew it. Game over.
I said nothing else, but I removed her as a fb friend a few days later. Once she realized it, she shot me a text asking me why.
I merely said "My fb is for friends, not attention wh0res. You obviously dont have your sh!t together and thats not someone I will keep around on fb as a friend. My time is too valuable to waste on someone that can't get back to me in a few hours for plans that day"
Nothing else. Now I wouldnt normally do something so drastic. I would merely go radio silent. Although this chick has been looking for validation that I refused to give her for 2 months. Screw that. It did feel good to slap her in the face with an emotional backhand that I would not have done if I wasnt going to walk away from her permanently.
I dont think it is a bad idea to SHOW your self respect once you are intentionally disrespected. There is much to be said for someone who has NO problem walking away from a disrespectful chick, no matter what level the relationship is on.
I would bet the house that she will ping text me in the next few weeks. I'd bet more that she doesnt get a response.
Don't bet your house on that bro.
I've made the same mistake over and over again.
A woman disrespects you and you react by unfriending her and pissing her off to seek a reaction.
That's what girls do with me and that's when I know they are in for a rough ride tonight.
If you can make a woman react emotionally to you, she's going to jump your bones.
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f a woman makes you react emotionally, she's had enough experience to know she has your ass.
We are all bound to get pissed at a woman, but I've learnt to punish bad behaviour by :
- Withdrawing attention
- Dismiss playfully
Any other emotional reaction is going to give her power over you.
Smash her, play along or walk away with grace and a smile.
