Most of you in here are not ready for big city life, plain and simple.
You have to be good, really good, to get action but the ceiling is sky high. I could be in NYC having sex with women of a bunch of different nationalities and cultures, good looking women! I could have access to parties that make college parties look like trash and be around fun people that make even the best fraternities seem average. The opportunities are endless but yes, EVERYTHING in life has a cost and great things have a great cost.
The high cost of living means hotter girls go to the area, not some poor trash.
High cost of living means that I get to be around wealthy people that want to move up, not losers who want to go nowhere in life.
It is there for a reason, all of it, and it detracts losers that have no great aspirations with life.
So there you have it OP, as you can see, not everyone is meant for that life.