@zekko @FwoGiZ it sound easy when you write it in a comment like that and i do want to socialize more but sometimes when i could be practising just having small talk it's hard for me to find the energy. Most of the time i don't even care about what they have to say to me when I am shopping or doing something else if you understand what i mean.
In other words i find it difficult to find interest in pointless conversations like small talk
What counts as a non-pointless conversation? One where you are pursuing your goals? One that is about something you are interested in, and have something to gain?
I am an introvert as well. I communicate easier online because it lets me plan and articulate what I want to say, however, the skills I learned from here can also be applied in real life conversations.
You don't have to throw yourself into useless conversations, but you DO have to figure out WHY you are talking to them. You want to talk to the attractive girl in hopes of increasing her interest level. So, what goal can you find in practicing conversation?
That the "introverted feel" you put off slowly goes away. The point is to talk with enough confidence that you NEVER feel like you say the wrong things and NEVER worry about your words. Most people don't, they spew crap and then do damage control later. You have the advantage of choosing words carefully, but you need to practice how to choose these words sooner.
Best way to do this? Talk to pretty girls. Have some lines planned out, but don't write a book on what you're going to say. Whenever you hit a moment you feel self-conscious or awkward, keep going. Get used to this awkwardness and self-consciousness, and learn where it comes from. If the conversation fails, then it fails. Don't overvalue the transaction so much that it damages your ego if it doesn't work out.
The best way to get better at talking to pretty girls, is to talk to pretty girls. Soon, you'll be so comfortable around them it will show, and in turn make them comfortable as well.
