I'm a relatively good looking guy. Not a model, but most girls think I'm handsome. I've always been able to attract women with looks, but that's all I had going. I started making really good money around a year ago and it boosted my confidence a lot. The looks, plus the money made me more outgoing, bold and confident because I started feeling entitled to hot women more than before. Now I can totally be myself and still get hot girls. I don't have to play dumb PUA games, use lines or worry about how long I wait to call or text a girl. So it makes me think game is kind of worthless and value is what women want in the end.
Occam's razor says that if you could feel and act that confident without the use of external props, which could theoretically vanish at any time (money), then you could've achieved those same results when you were flat broke. Human sexuality evolved
before the prefrontal cortex, which is how we make complex value judgments (i.e. "Well, this guy is hot but he doesn't make enough money to sustain our relationship longterm so I shouldn't sleep with him," etc.). In the moment, the only thing that matters is 1.) How you make the girl
feel and 2.) How successfully you can get her alone. That simple. How a girl will evaluate your value
after sex is drastically different than how she would've evaluated your value before sex.
Wealth, of course, is nice, to the extent that it alleviates stress and grants greater potential freedom. It'd be hard to sustain an LTR longterm without it; it's hard to maintain frame when you're stuck in your head worrying about how you'll eat next week. But it's not necessary for bedding hot girls--except as far as access is concerned. For instance, it's not possible to consistently bed fashion models unless you're able to hangout in places where fashion models consistently frequent; and usually that involves living somewhere like New York or L.A., which isn't cheap.
The red pill seems to be more about the inner game stuff which is very good, but I can sum it up in very simple terms: Just don't be desperate and don't chase after incompatible women just because they are attractive. That's all you really need for inner game.
In this case, incompatible just means that sleeping with you isn't very high on their list of priorities. Those same women
could be compatible if you were pressing the right buttons, which you can learn to do pretty consistently & predictably. At a certain point, though, there's diminishing returns--so I'd agree that it's more efficient to live life in a way that feels good for you and to allot your time to the women who find value in the person you most enjoy being.
Telling men to wear stupid hats and use pick-up lines won't make them more attractive to women if women don't already find them attractive. That is the red pill right?
Straw man. No one's advocated that since ~2004.
What game does is makes you date women you are not compatible with. It teaches you to change your personality around what women expect. This is fine if you want to just sleep around, but bad for LTR's.
Personality =/= How you choose to present/express that personality. It's far easier to fall into ego-defense mechanisms than it is to live as an authentic embodiment of your personal desires. Your ego can spin all types of tricks to convince you that the low hanging fruit is the most edible; or to convince you that you don't like approaching girls since "You're an introvert"; and that girl you wanted but didn't approach--well, she wasn't
that hot, anyway; and so on and so forth.
Most guys knock cold approach because they don't have the balls to do it. You can probably find posts where I knock it circa November or December 2015. But I'd advocate every guy set aside a night or two every weekend until they're pretty good at it,
before they decide what other areas they need to work on improving in their lives (because there's a high probability they're doing things unnecessarily that will take up a lot of time when that they wouldn't do if they could consistently pull girls they wanted with nothing but the clothes on their back).
