Responding to messages quickly or not? What is too quick? What is a bit too late?

[lizardking82]

When you're communicating with a chick, what do you guys qualify as being too available, responding too quick? And what about the other way round? What is the right balance for you?

 

[Roober]

Just don't go out of your way to respond... I keep my phone on silent, with a couple exceptions (mom, exwife, good friends) and check it 3-4 times throughout the day. I used to be sooo quick to respond, but now I focus on what I am doing unless something important comes up...

If you are at the gym, don't respond
If you are driving, it can wait
If you are out with friends or socializing, it can wait
I don't respond to texts after 9pm, primarily cause I work at 5am, so I set the precedent that I am in bed at 9pm.

The main difference I have employed before visiting this site is that I just don't go out of my way to respond immediately. If I am busy, I don't even look at my phone, hence why I leave it on silent. If a woman gives you grief for not responding for a couple hours, she is telling you everything you need to know.

I don't play games of purposely ignoring people

 

[lizardking82]

Just don't go out of your way to respond... I keep my phone on silent, with a couple exceptions (mom, exwife, good friends) and check it 3-4 times throughout the day. I used to be sooo quick to respond, but now I focus on what I am doing unless something important comes up...

If you are at the gym, don't respond
If you are driving, it can wait
If you are out with friends or socializing, it can wait
I don't respond to texts after 9pm, primarily cause I work at 5am, so I set the precedent that I am in bed at 9pm.

The main difference I have employed before visiting this site is that I just don't go out of my way to respond immediately. If I am busy, I don't even look at my phone, hence why I leave it on silent. If a woman gives you grief for not responding for a couple hours, she is telling you everything you need to know.

I don't play games of purposely ignoring people

Absolutely agree. In fact, whenever I am out with someone for whatever reason (dating, business), I do not respond at all and if it happens that a couple of people are constantly writing, I put my phone in silent mode.

And you are ****in' right, every female that busted my balls about not responding quickly was out of my life quite quickly as well after a couple of shaggings LOL

 

[Urbanyst]

Being fake is a sign you are trying to date people out of your league.

When I know a girl likes me, I don't worry about this stuff. Also, if a girl doesn't like me, I don't worry about this stuff because it won't matter.

 

[lizardking82]

Being fake is a sign you are trying to date people out of your league.

When I know a girl likes me, I don't worry about this stuff. Also, if a girl doesn't like me, I don't worry about this stuff because it won't matter.

No, no man LOL some of you guys here are so negative about things damn it

I am not trying to fake anything, but there are some things I might do that I do not know I am doing wrong. In case I am, why not tweak my game

 

[FwoGiZ]

Just don't go out of your way to respond... I keep my phone on silent, with a couple exceptions (mom, exwife, good friends) and check it 3-4 times throughout the day. I used to be sooo quick to respond, but now I focus on what I am doing unless something important comes up...

If you are at the gym, don't respond
If you are driving, it can wait
If you are out with friends or socializing, it can wait
I don't respond to texts after 9pm, primarily cause I work at 5am, so I set the precedent that I am in bed at 9pm.

The main difference I have employed before visiting this site is that I just don't go out of my way to respond immediately. If I am busy, I don't even look at my phone, hence why I leave it on silent. If a woman gives you grief for not responding for a couple hours, she is telling you everything you need to know.

I don't play games of purposely ignoring people

That's very exactly how I roll. If a girl is wondering why I am not a fast texter, I simply ask her this question; Do you ever notice me on my phone when I am with you? I don't have an addiction issue with my phone and am a busy guy.

Being fake is a sign you are trying to date people out of your league.

When I know a girl likes me, I don't worry about this stuff. Also, if a girl doesn't like me, I don't worry about this stuff because it won't matter.

If you think being yourself to a chick on a first date is the way to go, you are blue pill buddy. You gotta stand out a bit. You gotta show her you can to pick some interest because you are not the only one lining up to her (that is if you go after high qual/hot chicks). After couple meets and lays(not months), then you can loosen up a bit I guess but opening up like there is no tomorrow won't yield good results. Women love mysterious, they love being imaginative just let them be.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

When you have to ask questions like this, it's obvious you aren't where you need to be. The short answer is, it doesn't matter. If you are a guy she has to have, none of it matters.

Figure out how to be that guy she has to have, not how long to take before texting her. It's irrelevant.

 

[wifehunter]

Well, if you're actually not available, you won't be lookeding at your messages very often. Fill your time with cool stuff, and don't worry about it.

 

[RangerMIke]

Don't text. If she texts you call her back and ask her out as soon as you are not busy. If she doesn't answer the phone, leave a message for her to call you back... if she doesn't call you back, you are done... move on to the next one.

No pvssy footing around she is either in or she is out... if she is out... best know this upfront ASAP so you can load up the next one.

 

[Urbanyst]

If you think being yourself to a chick on a first date is the way to go, you are blue pill buddy. You gotta stand out a bit. You gotta show her you can to pick some interest because you are not the only one lining up to her (that is if you go after high qual/hot chicks). After couple meets and lays(not months), then you can loosen up a bit I guess but opening up like there is no tomorrow won't yield good results. Women love mysterious, they love being imaginative just let them be.

Nope. I'm not blue pill at all.

I just consider myself the prize and women can see that. I don't need to put on a clown show. Blue pillers are the ones who act fake to impress sluts.

 

[FwoGiZ]

While I totally agree with what you're saying, I still think it's better to pick her interest with humor (and mostly listen to her) than tell her about my cool frogs collection. You can do that without acting fake but "being yourself" is just utopia

 

[Trump]

Don't text a girl the night meet her? Text her 2-3 days after? That's way too much of a delay. Heck, if she was attractive. I would text 30 seconds later; 'lets go for a drink." In the age of instant gratification and instant information, if you are out of her face for more than 300 seconds, she will forget you.

Remember guys, THERE ARE NO RULES. Just don't text anything incriminating or with emotions that she can show her boyfriend or the Court. Anything else is fair game.

Come on men.

 

[Infern0]

Text back when you have time. Dont play games, just dont have such a sad life that you are sitting waiting for a text 24/7

 

[FwoGiZ]

Don't text a girl the night meet her? Text her 2-3 days after? That's way too much of a delay. Heck, if she was attractive. I would text 30 seconds later; 'lets go for a drink."

The message you send by doing so is that you are desperate for her and that she obviously has higher value than you therefore she should aim for higher value guy and be patient, put you in orbit/friendzone

 

[Trump]

The message you send by doing so is that you are desperate for her and that she obviously has higher value than you therefore she should aim for higher value guy and be patient, put you in orbit/friendzone

The message could also mean you are attracted to her and if she doesn't get back to you fast, you will move on because you are higher value and will put her in the friend zone.

What if she was a movie star actress and your friend was going to ask her out in 1 hour. Would you wait to show her you are "higher value?"

Brutal.

 

[Juanto]

The message you send by doing so is that you are desperate for her and that she obviously has higher value than you therefore she should aim for higher value guy and be patient, put you in orbit/friendzone

Agree with this.

 

[FwoGiZ]

The message could also mean you are attracted to her and if she doesn't get back to you fast, you will move on because you are higher value and will put her in the friend zone.

What if she was a movie star actress and your friend was going to ask her out in 1 hour. Would you wait to show her you are "higher value?"

Brutal.

I don't think a chick needs to be reminded RIGHT AFTER a date that you are attracted to her. Chances are, she knows you are but reality is desperate dude is a BIG turn off to any girls.
I do not feel the need to compete with anyone with the amount of fish there is in the sea so yes I wouldn't feel the need to rush for this one chick, weither she's a star or not.