yea when mine left I read the dj bible and became 20x better and got a chick I'd never dreamed of being able to have,thought I finally had it right after learning so much, then the new chick dropped me on my head out of the blue so now I'm just bitter and jaded.
This is so true. At first it is fascinating, but eventually you see it is just childish and repetitive.
I think it is a challenge from them to conquer you and it provides a source of validation. Once had, they devalue. CALLOUS DISREGARD, I watched one abuse a puppy-dog orbiter guy who gave her flowers, etc weekly. I finally called her out on it and she said “I don’t care about it him and if he wants to be miserable its his own fault.”
Your gut never lies
Because most men are usually hoping for the porn star sex and being treated like some kind of god to resume like it was during the initial love bombing stage. Hence, you rationalize away the flags. It took mine getting physical with me over nothing for me to eject. Even then I only considered it disrespect, which was enough. Didn't really know what BPD was then.
...and even knowing/having taken the redpill, you can not imagine how cruel aus selfish women, especially such cuties can be!
Mine once told me: "i can never give you that harmonic relationship that you want to have" and I just thought wtf, who could be interested in fighting verbaly all the time and an unharmonic relationship? I was just irritated like deer in the headlight. Like the deer should, I should have run. But did't - and was run over by the truck.
That is one of a problem. You come here to this site, learn about women and how they are and how they are to tread. And you have sucess with women. But what you do not know as a knewbie, is that there are nuances and where they are.
One of the few breakups you can actually be happy about. She can't change who she is and you can go forward knowing more than you did before that encounter.
Sure. But knowing earlier the differene might have let me eject earlier. On the other Hand this is just speculation and I might have stayed this way or that way. But good to be out - more or less: she is still trying to contact.
Don't let her hoover, she likely won't stop until she gets distracted with another man. Mine just stuck to covert spying, but found no way back in so that stopped eventually.
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
Yes, the hardest thing about one of these encounters is the detachment phase after it's over and self doubt.
Like I said earlier this evening. She has already moved another man in short After the breakup - which is 8 month ago. And she still is trying to contact. She even seemed to try to invite herself to my Birthday last month. She send me an SMS if and where I would celebrate my Birthday. Sure I stayed NC.
She and new guy must not be doing well. When mine started the spying she had been with new guy 3 years in his house. The thing with these women also is that when you are gone, they think they love you again even with another man in the picture. Just part of their disorder.
...and that explaines why it makes a rebound so easy to happen. She thinks she likes you again... and we on the other side realy still do love her (which in reality means the illusion wie have of them) to some degree and ever will.
Yes, a rebound with a BPD just starts her cycle over again with the same end result as before.
I see you too know what you are Talking about.
Count yourself as lucky then. Some men go through that BPD hell 2 or 3 times before getting smarter.
I read somewhere once that BPD women can best be described with the phrase wash-rinse-repeat.
