Girlfriend dumped me "I need to focus on school, I rushed into this relationship"

[devilkingx2]

Not always true to my experience.

I've been in a 2 year relationship with a girl I really loved but I couldn't see her often due to my very demanding internship and working a part-time job next to it. I would sometimes go 3 weeks without seeing her. She thought I lost interest in her. I didn't, I was just crazy busy and I told her so but she didn't believe me. Eventually she cheated on me because of that.

I don't see how the roles couldn't be reversed. Do you really think there is not a single woman out there who might be in the same situation I have been? Lets be real here.

do you think such a woman is so common that you'll encounter one realistically? how would you even meet someone too busy for you in the first place?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

do you think such a woman is so common that you'll encounter one realistically? how would you even meet someone too busy for you in the first place?

It don't take too much time to have QT. 1-2 hrs in a row on several days will get it done. Most people have that time.

 

[SteR]

Young women are also incredibly neurotic as a rule. For all you know this girl you fell for didn't think she deserved you & what you had to offer. Women never ever admit this but it shows up when they cheat on you with a relative loser. Men here will blame your frame (which had its issues to be sure), but that isn't always the whole picture.

I do wonder about things like this.

I mean obviously I understand we're on a forum about seducing women, so it makes sense that a lot of us view every problem with women through a 'red pill' lens, but I now start questioning how much is actually under our control.

I don't know about everyone else, but usually when something goes wrong with a woman I'm seeing I start analysing everything I did to see where the flaw in my behaviour was ie. blame my frame. But now I'm starting to think it's not always my 'fault'. Sometimes things may be going on with the other party that you don't know about.

Food for thought, eh..

 

[Milano]

I am starting to really believe in the fact that the sweet girls are taken from early 20s, the left overs are what you see closer to their 30s, the ones who have their search criteria destroyed by tasting the forbidden fruit aka a solid bad boy that sparked something in her she hasnt gotten from a "nice guy". She will continue this adventure well into her 30s and then suddenly be the woman who desperately wants to get pregnant with an unlucky loser who believes he struck gold, then after she will b1tch on him for not being the bad boy that turns her on.

Sorry, just a bit pessimist this evening We gotta keep playing the field guys

 

[Mr. Kalikoat]

do you think such a woman is so common that you'll encounter one realistically? how would you even meet someone too busy for you in the first place?

Yes because I already encountered them.

You meet them during periods when they aren't as busy, just like my ex-girlfriend met me before I got that internship.

 

[El Payaso]

I'm sure most of us have been there. But blaming women for their low-interest doesn't help anyone improve.

I am not blaming women for low interest. I am pointing out to OP and any other man wondering why a girl never has time for them.

If he can't learn to detect signs of low interest, he won't know how to not act needy. He will keep chasing and acting insecure.

Which is why I said if she doesn't have time for you, she's not interested in you. If you ask her out once or twice and she has all these excuses especially with no solid counter, you know that's your cue.

 

[DamnSon]

I'll dig this up, I've been doing my thing, private label sales, launching new products, training MMA 5x a week again and just got from a competition.. Just feeling me again, spun a few plates, this one girl, great chick all about me great sex, just wants to please.. is chasing me hard, but eh, I just don't feel it. ANYWAY

Guess who's been back at college now for 3 days and texts me today? "Hey" the gist of the conversation was "Oh just been wondering how you've been" "well if you're free sometime I was wondering if you'd wanna catch up" I say yeah, I'll see you, but whats the deal, why now? "I dont know I've just been wondering how you've been" I said alright ill see when im free and hit you up

Is she: Looking for secure some comfort d1ck for the semester?
-Thinks ill be like I was, paying for ****..looking for free rides?
- Back home, thinking of all the fun we had missing me?

I'm going to go with number 1, probably is home, horny.. knows I'll **** her. but I'm 100 percent falling for no traps, i'm wayyy too focused to deal with that **** at that level.. maybe if she proved herself in months.

 

[El Payaso]

I'll dig this up, I've been doing my thing, private label sales, launching new products, training MMA 5x a week again and just got from a competition.. Just feeling me again, spun a few plates, this one girl, great chick all about me great sex, just wants to please.. is chasing me hard, but eh, I just don't feel it. ANYWAY

Guess who's been back at college now for 3 days and texts me today? "Hey" the gist of the conversation was "Oh just been wondering how you've been" "well if you're free sometime I was wondering if you'd wanna catch up" I say yeah, I'll see you, but whats the deal, why now? "I dont know I've just been wondering how you've been" I said alright ill see when im free and hit you up

Is she: Looking for secure some comfort d1ck for the semester?
-Thinks ill be like I was, paying for ****..looking for free rides?
- Back home, thinking of all the fun we had missing me?

I'm going to go with number 1, probably is home, horny.. knows I'll **** her. but I'm 100 percent falling for no traps, i'm wayyy too focused to deal with that **** at that level.. maybe if she proved herself in months.

You shouldn't even have responded in the first place.

You should have looked at the text, deleted it, made yourself a nice drink and enjoyed it on a comfortable couch.

 

[DamnSon]

You shouldn't even have responded in the first place.

You should have looked at the text, deleted it, made yourself a nice drink and enjoyed it on a comfortable couch.

I know I know, but I'd like to smash one more time and then be like alright I gotta go hahah, or at least have a little fling for the semester, she was sexy. Definitely 100 percent not trying to LTR this broad again now that I know true colors

 

[El Payaso]

I know I know, but I'd like to smash one more time and then be like alright I gotta go hahah, or at least have a little fling for the semester, she was sexy. Definitely 100 percent not trying to LTR this broad again now that I know true colors

All evidence to the contrary...

 

[mrgoodstuff]

She's skipping classes to do it.

How do you know?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

It's obvious

But you don't know HER you only know what she said.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

OP look how long this thread is, don't you think it's time you took a break from this relationship for your own mental health?

This girl is so much drama. I know how it is when you really like a hot young chick, but sometimes you gotta know when to cut your losses and move on.

Did you set up a meeting with her?

He can still mess with this one... He does it on his terms, but he gets one or two more reliable "shock absorbers" in more consistent women who are into you that you spend most of your time with. Plates, right... She will become more attracted with the babes that are into him feeding into him. Plus he will act better.

 

[DamnSon]

OP look how long this thread is, don't you think it's time you took a break from this relationship for your own mental health?

This girl is so much drama. I know how it is when you really like a hot young chick, but sometimes you gotta know when to cut your losses and move on.

Did you set up a meeting with her?

I didn't set a date, I'm legitimately in no rush and I'm also too busy right now, I was thinking about telling her I have some time Saturday, but the more I think about it.. do I even want to bother, for sex? There always going to be a level of resentment because of what happened... I don't wanna put on a front when I'm just kinda like eh **** this *****.. and entering that college world again with all her circle who don't even know who they are yet as people.

Unless I legit just bang her and be out every time...but now that I know she is wayy too young to consider for any LTR and already proved herself as not to be.. I can play it much better. I'm the "fun" guy.. and by fun means I don't take this girl serious at all, but it's tough when you did care for em once.

I have a few side girls right now, so I don't feel vulnerable

 

[DamnSon]

The thing with oneitis is that no matter how many side girls you have, it can still infect you. And when you fall hard, even having ten side chicks won't ease the pain you suffer.

Sounds like this girl is gonna make you suffer some more. I would suggest you stay the fvck away from her, but if you're anything like me you're just gonna disregard all the advice you get anyway. The lure of adventure, the need for conquest, the urge to right all the wrongs this girl has committed against you will be too strong.

I'm gonna go against everybody else in this thread and tell you to go for it. You haven't lived until you've experienced the sweetness of victory as well as the agony of rejection, disappointment and loss. For this is how you learn and acquire wisdom.

Let us know how your next meeting with her goes.

Hahah I love it dude and YES I AM that way, yeah I hear you on the oneitus thing..she said she's down to see meet up tomorrow, Idk man could probably smash.

 

[Thatfeel21]

Take your ego out of the equation.

 

[DamnSon]

So.. went out there last night to see her, she was out with friends hitting me up, we met up..

She was playing hard to get? Wtf? I ended up kissing her after much resistance and her saying "I don't want you to think I'm easy" I don't remember much else cuz I was smashed lol

What's the deal here

 

[Thatfeel21]

So.. went out there last night to see her, she was out with friends hitting me up, we met up..

She was playing hard to get? Wtf? I ended up kissing her after much resistance and her saying "I don't want you to think I'm easy" I don't remember much else cuz I was smashed lol

What's the deal here

Damn son. She's a huge waste of time, why do you keep doing this to yourself? Your ego is keeping u stationary

 

[DamnSon]

Damn son. She's a huge waste of time, why do you keep doing this to yourself? Your ego is keeping u stationary

It's not even like an emotional thing, i mean a bit.. but at this point it's like a rubik's cube, I'm like trying to solve this mystery

 

[Thatfeel21]

It's not even like an emotional thing, i mean a bit.. but at this point it's like a rubik's cube, I'm like trying to solve this mystery

She is never going to let u hit again. You are stuck because you want what you can't have anymore...trust me, been there done that