There is a distinct possibility that new guy is, quite simply, a better relationship 'match' for her then you were. This doesnt indicate a defect about you, more so, it indicates that she has finally found someone who's defect level and relationship model and expectations match hers well. You know the saying - there's someone for everyone.
In this case, it's safe to assume that, wish them well and be really glad that you have exited that he11
most likely one or both of them are miserable, but they dont want to 'fail' so they are sticking it out, trying to make it work.
In this case, you need to be selfish and focus on you.
She told me flat out the only reason why she was dating him was for money, she's known for using people I watched her do it, manipulative little b*tch. She needs him now, she took a job in his town, the job she had wasn't giving her enough hours to survive on, she's a junior in the corporation she doesn't get the hours. She needs a place to live she's going to move in with her BF, cheap rent, she tried living with her BF once before the corporation put her in a temporary position. It only lasted a month she couldn't live with him, she would talk to me on the phone crying she wanted to come home. They are polar opposites they drive each other nuts if they spend too much time together, the longest they could be together is 2 weeks with 2 weeks apart.
Her BF is a poster child for AFC he gets rejected by women it didn't matter how hard he tried he struck out. The new female staff that got hired he tried flirting with them they rejected him. I felt bad for him the women wouldn't give him the time of day, they had no problems wanting to talk to me, I was seeing the BPD at the time I couldn't do anything. The BPD is the only woman that ever gave him attention, she only had one goal in mind for him which was using him. She may have developed some feelings for him but its never been a deep emotional connection she only needs him for money. Gives him some attention she gets her bills paid for. Their relationship is very superficial, he wanted sex and she wanted money, I doubt he's getting much sex the meds she's on kills her libido she wasn't very sexual.
She always kept me close even after we stopped seeing each other she liked having me around because we understood each other she could talk to me and she trusted me she always felt protected, we also had to work together. She wasn't happy with her BF she would take her anger out on me it wasn't fair to me wasn't my fault. The reason why she wanted to see somebody else I was too involved with work I couldn't give her the care and attention she desired she was on the back burner. I shouldn't have done that to her but I had a lot going on at work it took all of my attention. She was getting on my nerves so I decided to cut her off completely she went ape sh*t long story short I had to walk away from my supervisor job. Never crap where you eat I knew it was a risky getting involved with a co-worker. Never get involved with women you work with it is not a good idea, it will end badly every time.
I know she will never talk to me again she's too scared and embarrassed its not something either of us would ever forget. When she does see me she gets all shy and nervous like the day we first met. I'm still the caring and understanding guy she fell for but I'm in a different wrapper, I've gotten fit and healthy, I've always been muscular guy but now you can see it. Her BF on the other hand has gone the opposite direction he is no longer fit or healthy, I doubt he's able to see his man hood anymore. He's shopping in XXXL clothes section, he's aged himself so much from the stress people would think he's her father, he's in his mid 30s looks like mid 40s pushing 50. He smokes so many cigarettes for stress relief its taken its toll on his face, wrinkled up, eyes sunken in, he looks horrible.
As I said I'm concerned for her safety I really don't want to see her get physically hurt she doesn't deserve it. She used to get mad at me for being over protective with her but I was the one she came to when she was scared. I'm living my new life, away from stress, I regained my health, I regained my fit and muscular body I had before stress took over my life. Life is good its the way it should be I got involved in a career that took over my life then it turn stressful I ended up with health issues, I changed it, I'm doing what I want to do again.
