Biggest Tests She Puts Men Through

[bigneil]

A woman will randomly put a man through tests. She does this to screen out fakers and determine who is authentic in his words and mannerisms. She often does it subconsciously, or simply observes your reaction to things that were otherwise unplanned.

Over the first few months, in no particular order, you will be tested on the following:

1) The Shocking Quote Test - How will you react if she says something really sexy?Example: she randomly says "I like rough sex" during dinner. Will you blush? Will you get overly excited? Or will you shrug?

2) The No Reply Test - How will you react if you write to her and she does not respond? Will you send 20 messages? Will you tell whine and cry? Or will you shrug?

3) The "I got my Period" Test - How will you react if, at the last second in bed, she comes back from the bathroom and tells you she just got her period? Will you demand oral sex? Will you get bloody? Will you tell her she is wasting your time? Or will you shrug and give her a massage?

4) The Freedom Test - How will you react when you start having sex but she has other men in her life? Will you cry? Will you demand a commitment? Or will you shrug?

5) The Cancel Plans Test - How will you react if things don't go 100% smoothly, always? Will you freak out and cry about it? Will you tell her off? Or will you shrug?

6) The Jealousy Test - How will you react when she confesses to being intimate with another man? Will you call her a ho? Will you tell her you'll kill him? Or will you shrug?

7) The Disrespectful Test - How will you react if she acts b!tchy toward you, even if it's only one time? Will you comply with her demands? Will you go along with her to please her? Will you shrug? Or will you put your foot down?

8) The Breakup Test - How will you react if she ends the relationship? Will you tell her you never loved her? Will you threaten to show up at her work? Will you beg and plead? Or will you shrug?

What are some other tests women commonly put men through, and what is the correct response (it's usually - but not always - to shrug)?

 

[wifehunter]

A woman will randomly put a man through tests. She does this to screen out fakers and determine who is authentic in his words and mannerisms. She often does it subconsciously, or simply observes your reaction to things that were otherwise unplanned.

Over the first few months you will be tested on the following:

1) Cancel Plans Test - How will you react if things don't go 100% smoothly, always? Will you freak out and cry about it? Will you tell her off? Or will you shrug?

2) The Freedom Test - How will you react when you start having sex but she has other men in her life? Will you cry? Will you demand a commitment? Or will you shrug?

3) Jealousy Test - How will you react when she confesses to being intimate with another man? Will you call her a ho? Will you tell her you'll kill him? Or will you shrug?

4) Breakup Test - How will you react if she ends the relationship? Will you tell her you never loved her? Will you threaten to show up at her work? Will you beg and plead? Or will you shrug?

5) No Reply Test - How will you react if you write to her and she does not respond? Will you send 20 messages? Will you tell whine and cry? Or will you shrug?

6) Shocking Quote Test - Example: she randomly says "I like rough sex" during dinner. How will you react if she says something really sexy? Will you blush? Will you get overly excited? Or will you shrug?

7) The Disrespectful Test - How will you react if she acts b!tchy toward you, even if it's only one time? Will you comply with her demands? Will you go along with her to please her? Will you shrug? Or will you put your foot down?

What are some other tests women commonly put men through, and what is the correct response (it's usually - but not always - to shrug).

This list is comprehensive. I don't think you've left anything out.

Testing and games = walk and go spin plates, until they change their tune.

 

[highSpeed]

This is a good list but I think you're coming at this from the wrong direction. The beginning of your post makes it out like she's the determiner of whether or not your are relationship material and it is always to be the other way around. Yea, they put a lot of sh*t tests out there but it's usually because they are in a bad mood, having a bad day or simply just a b*tch and they want to take it out on you. Most women, I'm not saying all, are grown up kids. Princess this, queen that, how many times do you hear young men referred to as prince this or king that? You're already off the tracks when you are approaching it from the mindset that you started this post with.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

By way of comparison, as Heartiste puts it rather eloquently, Women in love act like beta males in lust...

https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2015/09/28/women-in-love-act-like-beta-males-in-lust/

• ask a lot of questions about him

• laugh too hard at his lame jokes

• get too butthurt by his teasing

• agree with everything he says

• eagerly accept all of his venue bouncing suggestions

• pay for his drinks

• make no effort to qualify him

• excuse every lame, stupid, or ****ty thing he says or does

• take it up the pooper at his request

• clumsily make all the first moves (with women, this means “incidental” contact with his erogenous zones)

• try too hard to fill momentary breaks in conversation with fluff

• misconstrue every minor indicator of interest as evidence of a blossoming love affair

• apologize too much

 

[wifehunter]

This is a good list but I think you're coming at this from the wrong direction. The beginning of your post makes it out like she's the determiner of whether or not your are relationship material and it is always to be the other way around. Yea, they put a lot of sh*t tests out there but it's usually because they are in a bad mood, having a bad day or simply just a b*tch and they want to take it out on you. Most women, I'm not saying all, are grown up kids. Princess this, queen that, how many times do you hear young men referred to as prince this or king that? You're already off the tracks when you are approaching it from the mindset that you started this post with.

...Or, she could be possessed by Satan himself.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

When you answer all these questions right without finishing reading the options.

Feelsgoodman

 

[bigneil]

The Occam's Razor of these so called tests is that rather than testing you she is just involved with/fvcking other guys and therefore agitated at your existence in that moment.

LARaiders85 fails Test #4 and Test #6. Her being with other men has nothing to do with you. They were probably there first. They must become agitated with their existence to end what came first.

 

[bigneil]

By way of comparison, as Heartiste puts it rather eloquently, Women in love act like beta males in lust...

https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2015/09/28/women-in-love-act-like-beta-males-in-lust/

• ask a lot of questions about him

• laugh too hard at his lame jokes

• get too butthurt by his teasing

• agree with everything he says

• eagerly accept all of his venue bouncing suggestions

• pay for his drinks

• make no effort to qualify him

• excuse every lame, stupid, or ****ty thing he says or does

• take it up the pooper at his request

• clumsily make all the first moves (with women, this means “incidental” contact with his erogenous zones)

• try too hard to fill momentary breaks in conversation with fluff

• misconstrue every minor indicator of interest as evidence of a blossoming love affair

• apologize too much

This lasts for the honeymoon phase. The tests will still come.

Many men here seem to be under the illusion that there exists a woman who is so interested that she will do the above for life. They actually expect that, and extrapolate from there and declare the difference to be problems. We can only assume these are men who have only had 1-2 successful dates in a row.

Any man who ever had more than one 3+ month relationship knows that tests will come.

 

[wifehunter]

Any man who ever had more than one 3+ month relationship knows that tests will come.

I have my tests too!!! You have to, these days, when unloyal 5luts are around every corner.

 

[bigneil]

Says the guy who asked her if she slept with another guy... What the hell? Read what I actually said.

Exactly. But I passed #4 and #6 and you did not. Hence, I had the best sex of my life that night. Apparently, you would have sent her home. Asking is fine. Holding it against her is weak until she asks for a commitment.

For the 1000th time, until a woman asks for a commitment, and a man accepts, both are free to sleep around. Dating is not an arranged marriage.

 

[bigneil]

Who cares about a woman's "tests"? Sh*t-tests serve the purpose of testing your frame. That's all. If your frame is legit, you have nothing to worry about.

You just answered your own question about her tests (note this universal dating term need not be put in quotes).

That's like saying "Who cares if you lose the Super Bowl? Losing the Super Bowl only matters if you don't win. That's all. If you win the Super Bowl, you have nothing to worry about.

 

[Killakittie]

Don't forget The Boundary Test- When she asks you do something that's explicitly clear you do not want to do, or not your responsibility, that emasculates you in some way or another. "Please babe just this once" or " They don't listen to me will you tell them?" How will you respond? Will you cave, hand over a sliver of your frame, and subconsciously communicate to her hamster that with some effort you can be controlled? Or will you maintain frame, tell her what she doesn't "consciously" want to hear, and send the message that you don't bow from your boundaries and are a MAN to be respected?

 

[Roober]

Good list, now just need the responses to go with them!

One I may add is the "distance" test... probably the biggest one of all when a woman distances herself a bit, but I suppose this owuld only apply to exclusive relationships...

 

[The Duke]

Yes the distance test is another common one. Just had that played on me this past week.

These are all important to be aware of, especially for a new guy starting out. And regardless of how great your frame is, they will still throw out some sort of **** test.

 

[Roober]

And this is where the nonsense leads...

You guys don't think I've been here?

So, you learn a bunch of canned routines.

She says, "are you trying to pick me up?". You say "slow down. You have to buy me dinner first."

She says, "I have a boyfriend...". You say "I'm not looking to be your boyfriend."

Learn the rules, master the rules, break the rules.

There is a level beyond this.

First you are a hapless guy. You are being "natural". But only so much as you aren't self-aware. You are still living in a woman's frame.

Then, you become game aware. You stop being natural, but you are experimenting with different ideas. You are having fun, but it isn't always congruent.

Finally, you become a new form of natural. You have true abundance. You understand the game inside out, and am somewhat above it. Hence, the self-amusement and command presence. A new identity has formed. Phoenix has risen from the flames. Which is an apt analogy, because you overlook the game from a birds-eye perspective.

Fretting over a woman's "tests" should simply be a mirror up to your own frame. Which is weak.

Agreed! But the natural takes time and experience to develop. I am still in semi-canned mode. Have started just listening to my gut though, which is really where the natural responses come from without the nerves or fear of loss...

It's a matter of saying... who cares about what you had with this one, there is something better to be found! And she wants me too!

 

[Roober]

I actually quite like you.

You seem to be on the same sort of journey that I'm on.

You existed within a woman's frame for a time. Now you are finally starting to spin plates and experiment in your life. Pushing boundaries, and seeing what's possible for yourself.

You also have the same humility to learn that I had. That served me well.

The issue here is that you have "BigNeil" thinking that he is the mackdaddy giving his gay frame, thinking that is the thing to aspire to. He is completely unwilling to think outside the box. He considers shagging this bird "winning the superbowl", which tells you everything.

So, I only speak to people who are capable of listening. Not to braggarts that are closed off.

Well, everyone has something to teach you, even the less desirable posters here.

Someone that acquires women at strip clubs and flaunts his money should be taken within the context of his frame. Not necessarily bad, but different. It is much like vetting a woman, you know what you like and don't like

I am at the beginning of a long journey, but I learn quickly and adapt with ease. My biggest worry is slipping into one-itis again. I could try to avoid it, but really don't think I could maintain frame if a legit woman came into my life.

Your younger, but certainly a couple years ahead of me as far as self-estimation and outward projection of confidence is concerned. Once I get there, I will probably be ready for an LTR, or maybe not...? who knows?

 

[Killakittie]

Threads like these remind me to keep my eyes open. I've never really had issues getting women, but i had tons of issues resulting from not identifying some of the points brought up here. For one reason or another i just never noticed some of these behaviors even though they had been happening multiple times with many different women around me. When i started becoming redpill aware many dots were connected and i started reflecting alot through my past experience and pinpointing where i could have saved myself alot of trouble.

I just like being able to apply practical logic to smooth over my rough edges. This thread should never be used in a roadmap context or an end all be all approach. But it's good info non the less.

 

[wifehunter]

I forgot to mention the "hold my purse, while I shop" test.

 

[Killakittie]

I forgot to mention the "hold my purse, while I shop" test.

Or "will you go pick me up some tampons?" I swear every woman I've ever been in a ltr with had asked me that at least once lol

 

[Bingo-Player]

A woman will randomly put a man through tests. She does this to screen out fakers and determine who is authentic in his words and mannerisms. She often does it subconsciously, or simply observes your reaction to things that were otherwise unplanned.

Over the first few months, in no particular order, you will be tested on the following:

1) The Shocking Quote Test - How will you react if she says something really sexy?Example: she randomly says "I like rough sex" during dinner. Will you blush? Will you get overly excited? Or will you shrug?

2) The No Reply Test - How will you react if you write to her and she does not respond? Will you send 20 messages? Will you tell whine and cry? Or will you shrug?

3) The "I got my Period" Test - How will you react if, at the last second in bed, she comes back from the bathroom and tells you she just got her period? Will you demand oral sex? Will you get bloody? Will you tell her she is wasting your time? Or will you shrug and give her a massage?

4) The Freedom Test - How will you react when you start having sex but she has other men in her life? Will you cry? Will you demand a commitment? Or will you shrug?

5) The Cancel Plans Test - How will you react if things don't go 100% smoothly, always? Will you freak out and cry about it? Will you tell her off? Or will you shrug?

6) The Jealousy Test - How will you react when she confesses to being intimate with another man? Will you call her a ho? Will you tell her you'll kill him? Or will you shrug?

7) The Disrespectful Test - How will you react if she acts b!tchy toward you, even if it's only one time? Will you comply with her demands? Will you go along with her to please her? Will you shrug? Or will you put your foot down?

8) The Breakup Test - How will you react if she ends the relationship? Will you tell her you never loved her? Will you threaten to show up at her work? Will you beg and plead? Or will you shrug?

What are some other tests women commonly put men through, and what is the correct response (it's usually - but not always - to shrug)?

good post the answer of course is to shrug to all of it

easier said than done with different women who have different levels of control and or manipulation to they're game

the key is always not to be in control of them , but to always be in control of yourself