Biggest Tests She Puts Men Through

[Killakittie]

For fvck sake.

Ask yourself one simple question: "why am I doing this?"

There you are. Problem solved.

I was referencing other people not myself I don't ask why people do what they do.

 

[wifehunter]

Or "will you go pick me up some tampons?" I swear every woman I've ever been in a ltr with had asked me that at least once lol

It's like she's saying... do you like me enough to put yourself in an awkward position. (Security issues)

 

[bigneil]

Don't forget The Boundary Test- When she asks you do something that's explicitly clear you do not want to do, or not your responsibility, that emasculates you in some way or another. "Please babe just this once" or " They don't listen to me will you tell them?" How will you respond? Will you cave, hand over a sliver of your frame, and subconsciously communicate to her hamster that with some effort you can be controlled? Or will you maintain frame, tell her what she doesn't "consciously" want to hear, and send the message that you don't bow from your boundaries and are a MAN to be respected?

Boundary test falls under 7 but thanks for clarifying.

 

[bigneil]

Good list, now just need the responses to go with them!

One I may add is the "distance" test... probably the biggest one of all when a woman distances herself a bit, but I suppose this owuld only apply to exclusive relationships...

Distance test falls under 2,4,6, 7 and 8.

 

[bigneil]

F*ck frame. What the f*ck are you talking about with frame? Some assh*ole made that term up and you keep regurgitating it. Is that another term for game?

This guy (Chris Canwell) is good and he covers the test issue here.

 

[sazc]

Distance test falls under 2,4,6, 7 and 8.

@bigneil Yo, just a quick notification....North Texas, Oklahoma, Kansas is supposed to get Ice here soon. no flipping out, mmmmmmmkay?

 

[bigneil]

Subtitled: deesade checks out men, can't define the difference of game and frame, and pretends women don't test.

Here is more on Test #8 (Breakup)

"(Fake) breakup is one of the main tests..."

 

[sazc]

This is about STANDARDS! No B1tch should be calling her man names. It shouldn't happen on purpose and it shouldn't happen 'by accident'. This is absolutely your female disrespecting you. The moment this occurs you absolutely need to man the fvck up and say "no".

Ill tell you this, a female disrespecting her male in this manner, especially in an LTR, is a giant indicator that she is harboring negative feelings. If you want to try to deal with that, then ask her what is really going on. Why is she frustrated, annoyed, resentful and calling you names. You can be a man and say no, but that isnt going to change the feelings that are causing her to say these things. Saying 'no' isnt going to change how she is really feeling about the relationship. Everything will still be festering. Your decision.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

@bigneil Yo, just a quick notification....North Texas, Oklahoma, Kansas is supposed to get Ice here soon. no flipping out, mmmmmmmkay?

North Texas baaah, noway it's too warm!

 

[sazc]

North Texas baaah, noway it's too warm!

I think they meant 'way north by Oklahoma' Texas.

 

[bigneil]

I think they meant 'way north by Oklahoma' Texas.

I tanned here in GA (90 degrees).

 

[Killakittie]

Ask yourself why you do what you do.

That's all that really matters.

So, a woman asks you to go and get something from the shop for her. And you don't feel like it at all.

You ask yourself, why would I do that?

I don't care why you would do that..And i am certainly not going to"think" about what you do.

Then you act accordingly.

No you do.

And I assure you that I've been with women that I would rush to the shop for, and women that I wouldn't. One being a sexy b1tch, and the other mediocre.

Guess who's interest was higher?

Guess? From my experience probably the mediocre one.

Now, as a man, I originally put that down to her looks. But, it has fvck all to do with her looks.

True

It has everything to do with my behaviour.

Are you insinuating that your behavior dictates the actions of others? If so, to an extent yes, mostly peoples reaction towards you, in many circumstances no.

And my behaviour is built upon my mindset.

Ok, I'll assume that's a statement.

Therefore, "why am I doing this?"

I don't care why you do what your doing.

Look i went through my entire twenties allowing women to come and go in my life, i had no real boundaries so to speak. I never really asked why they did what they did. If they were cool and we got along we hung out, fvcked, and had many great experiences. When they got out of line or i just got tired of their bull**** i dumped them and moved on. But that was then and this is now. Then i dealt with a lot of drama, i also dealt with many normal women that never gave me any trouble, some are still sexually available to me today. See had i had strong boundaries i could have saved myself some trouble but would it have really been worth it? The **** i have done i wouldn't give up for anything. I made mistakes but i have a wealth of experience to draw off of now and i cherish that!

I have the opposite problem most guys here have. I have a problem staying single..i separated from my wife exactly one year ago this month and before that i had been in and out of one relationship after another since high school averaging two to three years each. Only after discovering the red pill early last year did i start connecting the dots. The only thing i was doing was not really having boundaries and having a carefree attitude. Now that i am older with a son what worked in my twenties doesn't work now. So i am rewriting the rulebook on how i vette women, i am more picky, and i don't allow them to freely come into and out of my life anymore. I have a lot to learn and i am not there but making good progress.

 

[bigneil]

"A woman doesn't have the time to spend getting to know you over a few months or years. She needs to know you now. That's why she tests you. Testing is a shortcut for women to know what kind of a man you are. She needs to discover very rapidly whether you are the "real deal" or not. If you comply with what she seems to want, you will fail the test because you can't determine what is the reality."

http://www.wealthylovelife.com/****-tests.html#.WHieB1zkpgs

 

[Roober]

Jus thought about this, and my ex was testing me much more near the end...

How do I respond to snarky comments like... "you need to get a haircut" with a look of disgust... This is an area where my responses have never been that great.

 

[bigneil]

As Corey Wayne points out, the tests come when they start to question our masculine core, generally when we have a moment of acting emotional (feminine), which causes them to act masculine.

The problem is, many women today secretly hate men because they were abused or abandoned when they were young, so they hold men to an impossible standard and lose all interest as soon as they realize he is not inhuman.

Why not just get a haircut? At least have another girl who likes your hair. If no girls do, she has a point.

 

[Roober]

As Corey Wayne points out, the tests come when they start to question our masculine core, generally when we have a moment of acting emotional (feminine), which causes them to act masculine.

The problem is, many women today secretly hate men because they were abused or abandoned when they were young, so they hold men to an impossible standard and lose all interest as soon as they realize he is not inhuman.

Why not just get a haircut? At least have another girl who likes your hair. If no girls do, she has a point.

I get one every 7 weeks. It wasn't like ridiculously long or anything, just at the end of the cycle, where it's a bit longer than normal. I responded with something stupid like "I guess that drops me from a 9 to a 4" and she was like "that's not what I meant..." test failed hard.... It was already over at that point, but still need to be better at responding

 

[ubercat]

Ah go with the all purpose specifics ... Meh or C'mon said with a slight shrug of the shoulders as u exit the room. Lot easier than learning a bunch of snappy lines

 

[The Duke]

" Testing is a shortcut for women to know what kind of a man you are. She needs to discover very rapidly whether you are the "real deal" or not. If you comply with what she seems to want, you will fail the test because you can't determine what is the reality."

As Corey Wayne points out, the tests come when they start to question our masculine core, generally when we have a moment of acting emotional (feminine), which causes them to act masculine.

Both of these theories have also been pointed out in the popular book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. Many times there is a role reversal when the man starts acting too feminine, it puts the woman in a position where she will act more masculine and pull away based on fear/lack of security that the man stopped providing.

Every single time in a relationship where I've showed significant feeling/emotion it has come back to bite me. By no means did I go overboard, I was simply being human. I think there's a double standard out there and sometimes feel guys aren't allowed to express themselves fully. When they do it is seen as weakness.

So whenever I find myself in this situation, I just pull away and every single time the female has eventually come looking for me! Sometimes its easier said than done, especially when you care for them.

 

[Juanto]

For the 1000th time, until a woman asks for a commitment, and a man accepts, both are free to sleep around. Dating is not an arranged marriage.

Bigneil, in your opinion unless the female has this "talk" with you even if you are sleeping with her for the past 3 months, there is no commitment between the 2? How does it work in your view? Im in that kind of situation now

 

[bigneil]

No B1tch should be calling her man names.

Wait, what names? Who called who names?

It's the most lamest thing I ever heard in game for a while.
Sort your act out, before you start trying to act like the "mack daddy".

Most lamest? How ironic. Sort out your grammar skills.

Bigneil, in your opinion unless the female has this "talk" with you even if you are sleeping with her for the past 3 months, there is no commitment between the 2? How does it work in your view? Im in that kind of situation now

Exactly. Keep dating other women until SHE says you shouldn't, and promises to be faithful. It has to be her idea.