2 dates went great. Suddenly went sorta cold?

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I'll figure out her available dates here tonight. If she says ughhh this week isn't looking good i should just go no contact? Dont respond to that at all?
 

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I'll figure out her available dates here tonight. If she says ughhh this week isn't looking good i should just go no contact? Dont respond to that at all?
Yes. Just say "ok cool" and nothing else or just don't respond at all.
 

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You all are right i need to chill acting like a lite kid. Once i like a girl my head goes out the window. I dont think im to late just yet but ill just go with the flow and keep texting to a minimum.
Date other women. Your head will stay in the window whenyou follow your own lead. Not hers. All your eggs are in her basket. You need to spin more plates
 

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I'll figure out her available dates here tonight. If she says ughhh this week isn't looking good i should just go no contact? Dont respond to that at all?
Interested girls do not confuse you Ryan. If she wanted to be with you she would answer your texts. She wouldn't leave it 100% up to snap chat.
I would next her personally but id if you want one more kick at the can you say to her "dinner thursday night, you and i. I will pick you up at 8pm."

If she says anything except yes or a complete counter offer you delete her contacts and her number and move on to the next 2 or 3 plates.
 

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Ok i understand. Heres what i just got. I said ok when are you free she said thurs and fri she has a meeting she doesnt know what time she will get off. I dont know if shes lying or not. Pretty sure shes telling the truth. At this point what should i do?
 

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I want go try one last kick. And get something out of her. She snapchats me all day and says these cute things etc etc. Im in a new town/job so i either want her to forget me and stop talking forever or we move on with this.

When i dont answer she blows my phone uo over snapchat. Its so confusing.
 
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Maybe her snaps are to everyone? Sounds like you dove in too quickly. Make your intentions clear, date to have secks somewhere or no date at all...
 

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Her snaps are to me talking to me. Saying my name etc. From here forward how do i make it clear what i want without being a ****
 

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Her snaps are to me talking to me. Saying my name etc. From here forward how do i make it clear what i want without being a ****
Just be a d***. There's a lot going on here. I would ignore her snaps, just stop even looking at them. Text and say "let's do XXX on XXX" If she does not counter, she is no longer interested. Soudsl ike she wants to keep you as an orbiter...

Women have two types of friends... Girlfriends and boyfriends... If you are not fvcking her, you are her girlfriend!
 

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I just told her what days im free after she previously agreed to do a me come over date. She told me she had something on thur and fri. I told her any day was fine she jumped around it kindof. But when i ignore her snaps she blows me up on it. Im at a crossroads i want a clear answer.
 

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Anything but a yes or a solid counteroffer is a NO. So you have your answer
 

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Ok she said her apartment is a mess and she wont have time to clean it up by tommorrow but she will go on a date. Absolutly? Wtf is this
 

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Ok she said her apartment is a mess and she wont have time to clean it up by tommorrow but she will go on a date. Absolutly? Wtf is this
It means your chances of banging her are somewhere between 0 and minus 50...
 

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Then why are we still going out on dates she still hits me up allll day even though its not making out she still kisses me etc etc..... either she wants to take it slow orrrr
 

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I want go try one last kick. And get something out of her. She snapchats me all day and says these cute things etc etc. Im in a new town/job so i either want her to forget me and stop talking forever or we move on with this.

When i dont answer she blows my phone uo over snapchat. Its so confusing.
I would 100 percent ignore everything on snap chat. Don't look at it. Don't respond to it. Do not ask her when she is free. I told you in my previous message, march to the beat of your drum and follow your lead. Not hers.

Text her "thursday at 8 dinner i will pick you up." If she confirms. The go on thursday and pick her up. If she bla bla blas in her text and it isn't a yes. Next. You don't answer, you don't send more texts. You go meet other women and stop wasting your time on this one.
 

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Then why are we still going out on dates she still hits me up allll day even though its not making out she still kisses me etc etc..... either she wants to take it slow orrrr
Or toy with you because it keeps her enterained.

Are you entertained by her behaviour ?
 

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Then why are we still going out on dates she still hits me up allll day even though its not making out she still kisses me etc etc..... either she wants to take it slow orrrr
This girl is how old?? Most girls you should be banging by a few meet ups. Do you feel like you're getting mixed signals??? If you truly think so. Take initiative and tell her,

"hey I enjoy hanging out and you're cool, but I'm getting mixed signals from you especially you blowing up my Snapchat when im busy, but you're always busy and can't hangout. I'm looking to date and have fun, I don't need another chick friend. I think we should stop hanging out".

That's what I would text her, because ignoring her doesn't seem to work. You verbally telling her to knock **** off and you backing off will either confirm her wishy washy behavior and she won't text back, or she'll blow up your phone apologizing for her bull****.
 

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Went back to her place after setting a date Wednesday messed around. Didnt fvck but im sure next 1 or 2 dates i should seal the deal. Dont understand her hot and cold behavior though?
 
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