So up till now I still can't get second dates, good thing is I'm kiss closing these girls and still pushing for sex. The previous one gVe me a BJ but then proceeded to tell me 'She doesn't do hookups' while the most recent one went ghost after I made out with her (she said no when I tried escalating further).
Am I coming across too much off as a player? What can I do?
I get called a player all the time lol. Which is funny because 10 years ago I was called everything BUT a "player", I was called: a lame, a nerd, a weirdo, etc., etc. So hell, I'll take being called "player" than the other names any day lol.
But no, in all seriousness, I think you are doing GOOD. Kiss closing and the like means the women are attracted to you. It just comes down sometimes to a numbers game man. Which means that:
- You approach or meet 25 women
- You get 15 numbers
- You go out/date 9 of them
- Of those 9, 3 you couldn't kiss close or do anything with. 4 you could only kiss close but couldn't get the chick to move beyond that. And 2 you kiss closed, fvcked, and could actually get them to move forward into some sort of "relationship".
So when you break down the percentages, about 8% of the women you approached turned into some sort of "relationship". That's usually the way it goes man (at least for me) and I've just learned to accept it. We can sit here and ask questions over this process all day, such as:
* I look good, why did I only get 15 numbers and not all 25? Why did the other 10 blow me off?
* I look good, why did I only get 9 to move forward with a date/meet up, and not all 15?
* I did well on all of the dates, why did I only kiss close 4 and didn't get anywhere with 3 of them?
We can ask these questions ALL DAY long and of course the keyboard warriors here will give you 1,000 theories on what you supposedly "did wrong", such as you wore the wrong shirt, or you breathe too hard, or you told her you like Jazz music instead of saying Rock music.....none of that shyt had really anything to do with anything.
MOST of this shyt is beyond our control. We are dealing with very complicated creatures (called the modern day woman) and their level of complication makes it so that even their BEST FRIENDS can't understand them sometimes (just talk to the average girl's best friend).