Detaching from Texting

[bigneil]

This week I tried a new strategy of only checking my text messages every 24 hours. I actually really like this method. I'll keep an eye on the number of messages but I just wait to read them.

I got so tired of the minute by minute responding (or their not responding).

Has anyone else used methods to detach themselves from social media?

 

[Dan Bautista]

Yeah, complete detachment by deactivating all of my social media accounts, I've tried. I'd occasionally take a peak when I first started but now I'm non chalant about it. I feel great about it.

I do miss the occasional giggles I'd get from scrolling through the feed, watching idiots being idiots.

 

[wifehunter]

I can think of better things to do.

 

[bigneil]

I can think of better things to do.

You can think of better things to do than text?

Or better things to do than NOT check your texts every minute like a 13 year old girl?

 

[wifehunter]

You can think of better things to do than text?

Or better things to do than NOT check your texts every minute like a 13 year old girl?

Lol!!!

 

[wifehunter]

As a master of seduction I will tell you guys right now it has nothing to do with being available 24/7. It has nothing to do with being a challenge. It has nothing to do with anything you can possibly conceive because you read anti-dump's machine or the book of pook.

All GAME is backwards engineering naturals (including anti-dump's machine). And I am a real natural. So I am telling you how it is. So listen carefully.

I value my life and passions over women. So I automatically avoid chicks during the weekdays.

I value my passions and hobbies over everything else. So I automatically only check text once a day. People respect my time and feel like the sun is shining on them when I focus on them. This is called value.

All Value is self produced. You create your own VALUE. By valuing yourself. This will skip over everyone's heads.

Women don't have the luxury of using their "inner game" to increase their value. They can develop self discipline to work out and increase their sexual value.

But for guys, we are unique in that we are judged on things like PURPOSE, PASSION, AMBITION, etc. So you can literally print your own value and status to people.

ALL ATTRACTION is backwards rationalization. People react to you based on how you express yourself. Do you express yourself as a high value person? Or a total aimless loser? This is something you have TOTAL CONTROL over.

This is why female to male attraction is so unique (and confusing). It is not as simple as be handsome and nothing else.

Women judge you on how much you value yourself.

If you valued yourself, you would not be available to people 24/7.

ALL GAME is backwards engineering what high value guys do.

So just be high value. And value your time. And put all of your focus on your passions and hobbies in life. And place everything and everyone else as SECONDARY. This is how you express yourself as a high value alpha male.

Everything and everyone is secondary to my purpose and passions in life. This is the mindset of a Don Juan.

Sure, that works if everything concerning hobbies/passions is going OK. Some of us have passions and hobbies that are very frustrating at times (example: music). We wecome to human interaction as a vacation from those frustrations.

At the end of the day... Its really about not giving your power away to women, full stop.

 

[Dingo]

Do you guys have jobs ?...

TURN OFF your personal phones.... Only check before work, lunch and evening....

 

[EyeBRollin]

I'm on my phone all the time. Doesn't mean I'm texting useless **** to women.

 

[bigneil]

I'm on my phone all the time. Doesn't mean I'm texting useless **** to women.

Don't worry, it's ok for girls to text a lot.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Don't worry, it's ok for girls to text a lot.

Incoming attention is fine.

 

[3agle 3yes]

Most people NEED to schedule times to work and do the things they love...then spend most of their time reacting to other people.

When you start your day reading texts, checking Facebook statuses, scrolling through feeds etc, etc...you're following the agendas of OTHER people.

I now do the opposite, through hard work I've reached a point where working and doing the things I love come naturally and now need to SCHEDULE my time to read texts and call people etc.

Break out of the trance of just reacting to life and PROACTIVELY do things.

 

[Dingo]

And another thing... I you're all really "under control".... then...

Stop acting like the Pavlovian dogs every time the phone buzzes or rings....

 

[Mr. Kalikoat]

So what do you guys do when you ask a girl a serious question through text and she is disrespecting you by just ignoring your question? Because I'm a bit at a loss with regards to that. I can think of a few options but every option has its negative drawbacks. The options I thought of are:

1) Ghost or just NEXT her outright:
Seems like the most logical option and the one I often go for. She disrespected me and it seems like she's not super interested, so best to NEXT her, right? Sure, but on the flip-side, it seems like the easy way out. What if everything up to this point was great? Would you really NEXT her and throw away something good over one minor slip-up, even though it's highly disrespectful? Maybe she had a good reason to not reply to your text (e.g. her being busy and then forgetting about the question you asked earlier). So nexting seems like a bit of an overreaction to me, but maybe I'm wrong here. I suppose if you have multiple plates going then this option is a no-brainer but even then it means throwing away 1 plate over something as petty as a f*cking text (or the lack there of).

2) Pretend nothing happened and continue as usual:
This is often an attractive option. It shows you don't really give a f*ck and you'll just continue gaming her and having sex with her, win-win. Except it's not that simple, because it basically means she got away with disrespecting you. Sure, ignoring a text seems like a minor slip-up, but if you don't nib this kind of behavior in the butt early, she might try something more significant the next time. So where do you draw the line?

3) Call her out on it:
Telling her she's being a disrespectful b*tch might seem like a good option. You make it obvious that you have clear boundaries and she just crossed one of them. This could make her respect you more, but it could also backfire horribly. Depending on your frame you might come off as a horribly insecure "beta". Hell, even if your frame was solid up to this point, you might still potentially ruin your frame by reacting this way to her ignoring one of your texts.


So yeah, help me out here guys, which of the 3 options do you think is best? Or do you have other options I haven't considered here yet?

 

[EyeBRollin]

So yeah, help me out here guys, which of the 3 options do you think is best? Or do you have other options I haven't considered here yet?

Option 4: Don't ask serious questions over text. The phone is a communication device for setting dates. Stop using it to vomit your feelings on her.

 

[Mr. Kalikoat]

Option 4: Don't ask serious questions over text. The phone is a communication device for setting dates. Stop using it to vomit your feelings on her.

Touche.

Can't argue with that. Hell I already knew this, but I tend to forget this rule when a girl starts to text me more often and starts to ask me about my day and stuff like that. What do you guys usually do when that happens?

 

[3agle 3yes]

...when a girl starts to text me more often and starts to ask me about my day and stuff like that. What do you guys usually do when that happens?

It's the perfect time to make fun of her.

"You're beginning to sound like a stalker"
"How was my day? For a minute there I thought you were my mum/mom".
"Are you trying to court me?"

You're having a laugh but you're also subtly telling her "stop texting me all the time".

 

[bigneil]

I haven't checked my text messages in 3 days and there are several unread messages, but I'm too detached to read them now. Hopefully nobody freaked out on me.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Touche.

Can't argue with that. Hell I already knew this, but I tend to forget this rule when a girl starts to text me more often and starts to ask me about my day and stuff like that. What do you guys usually do when that happens?

Incoming attention is fine, but don't get in the habit of texting her all day. I'll usually have a few exchanges (meaning no more than 2-3), then let the conversation die. If the next date hasn't been established, use the opportunity to ask her out. Once it has, you can either stop answering or "save this for the date, etc." or "tell me about it on <day of date>." Rinse and repeat. The only time you should be hitting her up is to ask her out.

If she specifically insists that you contact her more, you can send her the occasional witty text or picture about once per week. Pictures are great of something weird or funny. Don't ever text boring ****. Still, avoid the habit of texting her for anything other than asking her out. This part is completely unnecessary, so you should only do this if she specifically complains about you never hitting her up.

 

[EyeBRollin]

It's the perfect time to make fun of her.

"You're beginning to sound like a stalker"
"How was my day? For a minute there I thought you were my mum/mom".
"Are you trying to court me?"

You're having a laugh but you're also subtly telling her "stop texting me all the time".

Humor is good. I've realized I'm not funny over text, so I don't use humor in text messages. I save it for in person. There's a lot that can be misinterpreted over text, so it's always safe to be neutral.

 

[RedZone]

I like this strategy. I'm going to adopt this also. The less interaction before the date only will benefit you.