In the early dating context, I agree, but not in the relationship context once exclusivity is given
in my opinion it's a house built on sand to allow this sort of thing... like when she's been making you look a supplicating idiot for 2 months basically cheating on you and now suddenly he's finally willing to stop soft- cheating... that's a respectful relationship? Yes I understand that their professions of exclusivity during that period are an out-and-out lie anyway but I never feel comfortable about rewarding that type of behavior with exclusivity. In my experience during that time they are testing you to see what they're going to be explicitly getting away with for the rest of the relationship.
When you meet a girl in 2016, in particular a hot young girl, she already has 1200 Facebook friends, 100 orbiters, 20 men under her belt, 8 ex boyfriends and 3 lovers. You can't just jump in, have a one night stand, and claim ownership. That has to be her idea.
"Rewarding with exclusivity"? A man being exclusive is not much of a "reward" to a woman. She is giving up more options than you. Always. Women do the choosing. They have hundreds of options.
"Allow that sort of thing"? We don't allow anything because we don't decide. It's up to her to decide to give up all the other men.
"Soft cheating" - Again, this implies that the moment you start dating her she ceases all contact with all other men. It doesn't happen that way. Women fall in love slowly over time. Commitments must be HER idea. Once SHE wants a commitment, she will do it on her own out of her love for you. Concentrate on getting her to fall in love.
"Making you look like a supplicating idiot"? Each date is perfectly balanced. You never do anything expecting something in return. Being a generous giver is different than supplication. Supplication is something a man does to get something else, often throwing a temper tantrum if he doesn't get it. Women sense this. Generous giving is done as a gift.
Extreme Stripper Example
Supplication:
"I'll give you $400 in VIP but you have to at least blow me. Promise?".
Here, you are revealing to her that you know women don't want to have sex with you.
Generous Giver:
"Here is the $400 I would have spent if we went to VIP. I already saw you naked, and I have to leave now, but I want you to put some clothes on. Go buy a dress and meet me at my favorite restaurant Saturday night at 8".
Here, you are giving her something without any conditions and trusting that she likes you enough to show up even if she already has the money (by Briffault's Law, she won't show up unless she wants to).