GoodOne123
Senior Don Juan
Yes, insecure people put people down, but that's slightly missing the point. There is a lot of insecure people in the world, and it's not going to change. That's a big deal. Insecure people can make you lose your job, ruin your relationships, ruin your reputation, and make your life worse. It's therefore to your best interest to get rid of them, or manage them. This is what my approach is about.
I do not know your friend, neither do I know how "ego-less" he really is. However, I can say that what has worked for me is holding myself to a high regard, above the woman, having lots of self respect, not taking any bullshiit from the woman, gets me the most women. That's what I have seen from other guys getting a lot of women too. Essentially. I am talking about the qualities of a somewhat "bad-boy" persona, but not faking it. And we all know that this persona has stood the test of time to be a succsess with women.
Again, it's slightly irrelevant that men who challenge others are fearful and insecure. What is relevant is the effect it has. When people/women see that you take crap from other people without saying or doing nothing, they automatically see you as weak. It's just the way it is. And the people who picked on you have no incentive to stop, and carry on doing it. So you not only have someone making your life more difficult, but you also have people around you perceiving you as weak. This weaknesses women are not attracted to. Women are hard wired to be with the strong dominant male who can protect her. Therefore, you should stop challenges asap, say something to shut them up, or show you don't take crap. This will prevent your quality of life going down because as soon as these insecure people see this, they back down.
All of this WITHIN REASON. I'm obviously not going to fight a group of bikers because that's dumb. I'm outnumbered clearly. And I'd like to keep my handsome face intact thank you very much. What I'm saying is that you need to weigh out certain situations to see if talking back or retaliating is worth it. In the case you described, it's not. And other people observing would not blame you for backing out. They won't lose respect for you because almost no-one would do something so foolish. You need to be smart enough to weigh situations out.
Money, women and succsess is not the enemy. These rich people who are miserable have not figured out other important aspects of life to improve. For example, finding a group of great friends you can hang out with regularly. Money in itself provides you with freedom to do what you want, women provides you with sex/companionship, all these things enhance your happiness. If they're miserable it's their mistakes for not paying attention to the other areas of life.
Also, please don't look at famous people in Hollywood when you want to see the lives of rich and succsessful people. The Hollywood industry is full of messed up shiit. Like secret pedophile rings, a culture based on excessive botox and surgery, and the media constantly in your face. There is no doubt these actors snap and go off the rails. So in those examples you cannot really say their demise is caused by money succsess. It's caused by their crazy environment and lack of privacy etc.
You're not putting into account all of the rich succsessful people who are having a great time. You don't see them, because the majority are not famous. Many entrepreneurs, businessmen around the world are living a balanced happy life full of money women and freedom. What about them then? Are they miserable?
Michael Jordan achieved what he set out to become, and that's the best damn basketball player ever. He couldnt do it without his huge ego. Those ashole things he did to his teammates, was actually not bad. He needed to take the game so seriously, that he would go to any level to push his teammates to do better as well. This HELPED the overall goal. This encouraged his teammates, despite being quite brash.
You say this ego comes from fear etc. Why? Why can't these actions such as pushing your teammates to meet a goal, be logical? These actions mainly have to do with meeting a goal, like in my previous example of not letting insecure people lower your quality of life. There's no fear involved, I'm just acting in the right way to get the desired outcome in a situation that would enhance my life most positively.
My last point is this. It's that I am usually skeptical when people say they don't have ego and don't like ego. These people usually have egos too. It's because being identified as having lack of ego is egotistical in itself. When you try to convert people to another way of thinking, while bashing down another way of thinking, requires ego in itself. Because you are personally identified with that way of thinking, and are defending it over another way of thinking, and trying to convert others.
Truly removing the ego is not easy, and takes years, most likely a decade, of self discovery, investigation, and experiment. All of which you won't get paid for, or get any other financial benefit from. This is why it is an unrealistic goal for most people, because it takes so much time and effort. True enlightenment and dissolving of the ego is extremely hard, and far more complicated than taking a few psychedelics every now and then with your buddies.
