Trying to get this Cougar who is seeing someone

[JaneGoodallNotes]

I then said something like "what if I end up liking you " She said "there is no if "

It will just come down to if I have the ballz to meet her as I am a little scared she will recognize me.

Nice female confidence line.
Isn't part of the fun of the game seeing what you have ballz to do?
What do you imagine you could do if she does recognize you? Any good lines for that?
I'm surprised what people forget sometimes.

 

[Reyaj]

Nice female confidence line.
Isn't part of the fun of the game seeing what you have ballz to do?
What do you imagine you could do if she does recognize you? Any good lines for that?
I'm surprised what people forget sometimes.

Yes I suppose it is lol I would deny it if she does but I'm more nervous I'll feel awkward. I'll probably pound a few drinks prior to doing so

 

[Reyaj]

Last Wednesday she texted me in the morning

Her: Did you still want to meet next week and if so what day. Need to plan it now before my week fills up
Me: We could shoot for Friday
Her: I actually have tenative plans with my gf Friday. Can we do wed?
Me: No your gf should though
Me: Especially since they are tenative
Her: haha That's funny. Ok, so you're not available on wed. Got it

The last I heard from her nor have I reached out.

 

[PantyWhisperer]

Last Wednesday she texted me in the morning

Her: Did you still want to meet next week and if so what day. Need to plan it now before my week fills up
Me: We could shoot for Friday
Her: I actually have tenative plans with my gf Friday. Can we do wed?
Me: No your gf should though
Me: Especially since they are tenative
Her: haha That's funny. Ok, so you're not available on wed. Got it

The last I heard from her nor have I reached out.

I'd be skeptical about the tentative GF plans. She'd ditch them if there was high interest in you. I smell plans with another dude who may just be a few places ahead of you on her list. I smell a rat.

 

[Die Hard]

So you've been texting with this bytch for almost FIVE weeks now, but still didn't meet her...

Please read back all the responses you got from us 5 weeks ago at the start of this thread.

No wait, you don't have to do that, coz you don't get it anyway Mr stubborn... But please keep updating, this thread serves as a good example of how a man with low self esteem gets lead on by a bytch... P00k and Anti-Dump would turn in their graves...

 

[nismo-4]

Why do you still care about this? She's getting attention and validation and you're getting NOTHING.

This is just entertainment for her.

All this time she's been seeing me, I knew she needed her attention needs fixed!

All women need attention and validation. You should just drop this girl. She's teasing you after I rip her vagina apart.

I'm not gonna cop out with a Channing Tatum reference. But this one is not making time for you. Drop it. Older women play games and need attention too.

 

[Reyaj]

So I basically did drop this girl... never texted her again since the last time I posted... However about a month or later I get a random text from her asking how I was.. then yada yada yada asking if I still wanted to meet...I told her we could and made plans for Friday then I blew her off cause I really wasn't into her anymore. Today I ended up telling her we met already and called her out on that fake stomach issue she used on me... she ended up apologizing and said it was a defense mechanism she uses as she thinks she is ready to get involved with someone but then emotionally doesn't feel ready...

Anyway she asked if we could start over and I'm like yeah whatever.. so I've been texting her sparingly... if the opportunity presents itself I'd potentially meet her but she certainly isn't my main focus...

 

[PantyWhisperer]

So I basically did drop this girl... never texted her again since the last time I posted... However about a month or later I get a random text from her asking how I was.. then yada yada yada asking if I still wanted to meet...I told her we could and made plans for Friday then I blew her off cause I really wasn't into her anymore. Today I ended up telling her we met already and called her out on that fake stomach issue she used on me... she ended up apologizing and said it was a defense mechanism she uses as she thinks she is ready to get involved with someone but then emotionally doesn't feel ready...

Anyway she asked if we could start over and I'm like yeah whatever.. so I've been texting her sparingly... if the opportunity presents itself I'd potentially meet her but she certainly isn't my main focus...

Thanks for the update. The power of true apathy and abundance view. Well done and keep us posted!

 

[CMNILS87]

Dude...... too much work

 

[Reyaj]

Thanks for the update. The power of true apathy and abundance view. Well done and keep us posted!

Definitely, she keeps randomly hitting me and even seemed annoyed asking me why it takes me hours to respond back... I was going to meet her Friday and I flaked on her... I did also come clean about how she made up that stomach excuse on me when we had met already and she admitted it was a defense mechanism. I've bored one night I might meet up with her just to see what happens.

Dude...... too much work

I guess that's a matter of opinion. Personally I don't think taking 30 seconds to send a text out whenever I have a whim to be too strenuous.

 

[Reyaj]

So she kept calling me out about taking so long to respond to texts. On Monday I told her we should meet Friday and she agreed. However I now have a date with the 22 year old european girl so most likely I'm going to have to bail on her this will be the last straw. She called me last night and I didn't answer and texted me today asking if I saw she called. I said I didn't and she wants to make sure we are on for tonight.

I think I'm going to text her that I have to work late but might be available later on (depending on how the date with the younger girl goes). Since she does live a bit away and I'll be drinking I really don't anticipate seeing her. This will be the 2nd time I flaked on her, I doubt my bs will salvage it. Oh well lol

On a different note I think I mentioned how I got a hand job (and like 10 second bj) from this pof girl last week. I texted her something mundane the next day and she answered back, she also texted me something after in which I didn't really engage in convo. She hasn't texted me since. I guess women have pride too or she is just use to hooking up and guys who don't call her aren't interested. I just found it a bit surprising as for the most part if a girl makes an effort to get you off, she usually follows up harder.

 

[Reyaj]

Well. At least you're making her pay mentally for the attention you're giving her. Still don't see how it's doing you good. Unless you're seeking validation as well. Not that there's anything wrong with that.

Yeah it's probably mental masturbation I guess but only because I don't think I even care to meet her anymore. But anyway she ended up texting to me let her know asap if I could make firm plans for 8:30pm - I told her I could be later and she freaked out saying later than 8:30pm??? I was like wow yeah 8:30pm on a Friday night oh no!!! I told her I could grab coffee with her tomorrow but she said she was busy with family. Then she texted and asked I could commit to 9pm... I didn't reply for a bit and she texted "Reyaj, what's the deal?" I responded back "No sorry I can't, making plans with you is too difficult I'm afraid" She responded back about 2 hours later "Yes, too difficult for us so prob best that we give up"

I didn't respond... Truth is even though my date with the young girl didn't go how I wanted it I think this older girl has gotten a little past her looks expiration at least for my standards.

 

[NickAdams713]

I don't understand why people don't get that I do this all as an experiment and to learn something... Whatever happens with this girl has no impact to my self worth at all... I am spanning younger plates and have a gf. This is just side BS.. if you're not interested in it don't bother posting on it, but again for the 1000th time NONE OF THIS AFFECTS MY SELF WORTH.


See this an example of where theory and real world experience differ. You are seeing the word 'friend" and are automatically thinking I am friend zoning myself or some bs like that... But what I am going to enlighten you with is a lesson I learned through my own experiences starting with the 100 approach initiative I took upon myself.

There is a theory called plausible deniability. Basically a girl does not want to feel like a slvt or that she is doing something wrong. So if she declares that she is seeing someone or has a bf she then feels she did her job and anything that happens after that is not her fault. So If I keep trying to challenge that her defenses will only go up.

However I am come in as a friend and then meet up with her and just start running game and trying to hook up, I have an increased chance. You're welcome for the free lesson.

I am kind of in the middle of the two ends of the spectrum on this one here.

I do agree with what the bulk of the posters here are saying, namely that this looks like a lost cause since Reyai has used some very weak/loose game on this woman.

However, at the same time, I do understand what Reyai is saying as well. So often, women want to consciously be one way, but their subconscious wants the exact opposite. It's classic "anti-slut" defense. So many of you are so terrified of the dreaded "friend-zone" that you don't understand that using the term "friend" can be an excellent ploy to get you into the right "situation". And we all know, get any woman into the right situation and she will do what her hormones want her to. Yes, there have been times when I've been with girls who have boyfriends under the guise of just hanging out as "friends" and ended up having sex with them.

So all I'm going to say is yes, there is a right place and time to throw the word "friend" around without ending up in the *gasp* friend-zone. I know what he's trying to say. (Though I'm not excusing some of his weak game such as negotiating desire, begging, being way too interested, etc.)

 

[backbreaker]

Masuser while thats good advice im so arrogant honestly ill lose interest in a woman who cant instantly see my value.

You can keep saying she might do this ir that but you wllingly relegated yourself two second fiddle, you don't know this ****er yet you already mentally accept hes more deserving than you.


You have zero self worth. I wish a woman would come to me with some **** like that my exact response would be "lol who the **** do you think you're talking to, gone somewhere stop wasting my time"

Lol when I asked my wife out on our first date she originally said no thanks and I told her that answer wasn't gonna work and she needs to try again. Arrogant yes but I knew what she didn't...im the **** lol



All things you do effect your self esteem.

 

[BeTheChange]

Masuser while thats good advice im so arrogant honestly ill lose interest in a woman who cant instantly see my value.

You can keep saying she might do this ir that but you wllingly relegated yourself two second fiddle, you don't know this ****er yet you already mentally accept hes more deserving than you.


You have zero self worth. I wish a woman would come to me with some **** like that my exact response would be "lol who the **** do you think you're talking to, gone somewhere stop wasting my time"

Lol when I asked my wife out on our first date she originally said no thanks and I told her that answer wasn't gonna work and she needs to try again. Arrogant yes but I knew what she didn't...im the **** lol



All things you do effect your self esteem.

I have a mate who also spouts this nonsense. He's a clown who gets nowhere with hot woman and is forced to deal with warthogs. Your stance is impractical for dealing with all but the most attention starved of females, and given your wife was approaching the wall when you guys met she was probably moving towards this category. It's not an insult, just a fact that your mentality is unlikely to yield positive results with younger more attractive and in demand women.

Meanwhile in the real world you can't expect the best women out there to be immediately interested. How is she expected to discern your value? The rolex on your wrist? The 5 minute conversation you had at the bus stop before picking up her number? The pump you managed to maintain after coming out of the gym? Come now.

If a hottie doesn't want to meet up. I shrug my shoulders, scroll down my phone and try the next one. It's their loss. Then I try again in two weeks. It takes zero effort. Spin plates. I'm not trying to marry these chicks. I'm confident enough to know that once these women go out with me they will never want to let me go. That's what I think you should believe about yourself.

Now if she wasn't showing high interest after a few dates or after we fvcked then I would just write her off as someone who either can't see my value or doesn't perceive my particular qualities as valuable - everyone differs in their preferences. That's when you drop them and leave them to do all the pursuing going forward, but you can't expect a girl you just met to ask "how high?" when you tell her to "jump", if she hasn't even had the opportunity to see what a catch you are.

 

[Tenacity]

I have a mate who also spouts this nonsense. He's a clown who gets nowhere with hot woman and is forced to deal with warthogs. Your stance is impractical for dealing with all but the most attention starved of females, and given your wife was approaching the wall when you guys met she was probably moving towards this category. It's not an insult.....

This dude says that BackBreaker's wife was moving towards or already IN a "warthog" category, then says "that's not an insult" lol. What kind of passive aggressive bullshyt is this ? How the hell do you call a grown man's wife a warthog but then say you aren't throwing an insult lmao?

Meanwhile in the real world.......BLAH, BLAH, BLAH.....Spin plates

Poon King's world doctrine isn't the real world, it's a cartoon character fantasy land where people like you regurgitate the same advice, over and over, for every single situation (i.e., spin plates, spin plates, spin plates)...sounding like a broken damn record.

Arrogant yes but I knew what she didn't...im the **** lol

BB's advice is actually more REAL WORLD....which technically is based on a foundation that there's no techniques, or tips, or strategies. You pretty much can say whatever you want, it's not what you say it's HOW you say it and it's WHO is saying it.

If you fix your looks, personality, and finances to where you are attractive to women on sight....then you can pretty much get away with whatever you want to say "for the most part".

 

[mrgoodstuff]

This dude says that BackBreaker's wife was moving towards or already IN a "warthog" category, then says "that's not an insult" lol. What kind of passive aggressive bullshyt is this ? How the hell do you call a grown man's wife a warthog but then say you aren't throwing an insult lmao?

Yeah it's an insult.

Poon King's world doctrine isn't the real world, it's a cartoon character fantasy land where people like you regurgitate the same advice, over and over, for every single situation (i.e., spin plates, spin plates, spin plates)...sounding like a broken damn record.

I believe poon kings advise is great for someone wanting to bang multiple babes who are in circulation. Like most of the "hot girls" touted here. It will keep you emotionally protected and gaming ahrd enough to attract them. B1tches like that love it when you have other babes, cause h0ez be "winning". They love to compete.

BB's advice is actually more REAL WORLD....which technically is based on a foundation that there's no techniques, or tips, or strategies. You pretty much can say whatever you want, it's not what you say it's HOW you say it and it's WHO is saying it.

Its good info.

If you fix your looks, personality, and finances to where you are attractive to women on sight....then you can pretty much get away with whatever you want to say "for the most part".

This is true. When b1tches say "we had chemistry" it means you were extremely attractive to them. They will be eating out of the palm of your hand. Have money for YOU and your top priority should be being attractive enough to be pedestalized by the babes you wanna fvck.

 

[BeTheChange]

Why are you following me round the forum? As if your behaviour wasn't already erratic enough.

Bb's wife is older than he is and was already either over or nearing 30 at the time. That's generally when women hit the wall IME. I didn't say she was a warthog, only that she was/is likely post wall.

My post can be summarised in one sentence: Dropping women who dont show immediate interest isn't a good strategy if you want the best women out there.

And you've fixed your looks and finances. How exactly is that working out for you? Oh wait...

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Why are you following me round the forum? As if your behaviour wasn't already erratic enough.

Bb's wife is older than he is and was already either over or nearing 30 at the time. That's generally when women hit the wall IME.

Dropping women who dont show immediate interest isn't a good strategy from what I've seen.

You've fixed your looks and finances. How exactly is that working out for you? Oh wait...

Well we know tenacity likes to "fish" in polluted waters. He needs another body of water.

 

[Tenacity]

Why are you following me round the forum? As if your behaviour wasn't already erratic enough.

Who the fvck is following you around the forum lol? And I don't beat women like you sir, so my behavior isn't erratic.

Bb's wife is older than he is and was already either over or nearing 30 at the time. That's generally when women hit the wall IME. I didn't say she was a warthog, only that she was/is likely post wall.

You insulted the man's wife.....then claimed what you stated wasn't an insult.

And you've fixed your looks and finances. How exactly is that working out for you? Oh wait...

It's working out great! You want to see more pics of more plates?