SpartanWarrior77
Senior Don Juan
Hey guys,
I'm a 21 year old male in PA.
I need your advice for a situation with this girl I'm with. I'm pondering whether or not to break up with her...
(I'll make this as short as possible and leave in the most relevant details.)
1 year and a half ago, I picked up this girl on Union Square who is now my girlfriend. We are in an open relationship where she is my primary partner and any other girls in my life are strictly for sex. She has chosen to be exclusive with me and thus I am her only partner. (Which I don't mind at all) haha.
This girl is awesome...and she lives in Brooklyn but visits me every weekend in PA. She commutes every weekend to see me. She cooks for me. She's submissive. She's philosophical. She meditates and does yoga. She and I get along very well. I even took her virginity and the sex is very passionate and loving. If I could describe her, I'd say she's passionate, open, loving, loyal, submissive, and caring. She's truly awesome. She's also a solid 7.5 out of 10. (Russian)
Why do I ponder breaking up with her?
Reason 1: Back when I first got involved with her, I made a somewhat bad decision; I basically told her that she'd be the only girl that I'd be serious with (emotionally, love-wise, etc). All other girls would strictly be for sex and nothing more. This was a bad decision because it restricted me from dating other girls casually because doing so would be crossing the line. Thus, I haven't really been increasing my seduction skills outside of her.
Reason 2: She demands a lot of my time. Almost every weekend is spent with her. The result is I haven't really been out and gamed in almost a year! If I were to tell her that I wanted to spend a weekend doing something else, she'd be emotionally upset and feel betrayed thinking that I'm not treating her like an actual "girlfriend."
Reason 3: This has a bit to do with reason 2 because it has to do with time. But I haven't seen any of my old friends and buddies I used to game with in months! I miss going out to bars on weekends let alone gaming and just chilling with dudes. All my weekends are about her now.
Reason 4: On several occasions, she has expressed her sadness to the point of crying in regards to the fact that I see other women on the side. She has pushed for monogamy many times and I kept saying "no" with her eventually just compromising. Thus, I feel like this is definitely not something she's down for in the long run anyway. Plus, if I break up with her soon, she'll get over it quicker than if I keep investing in the relationship and thus make the pain worse at the inevitable end.
Reason 5: I'm not planning on being exclusive with anyone until I'm 30. The mistake I made with her was guaranteeing exclusivity on everything except sex. I should have not said anything and simply dated her casually then when she would have pushed for monogamy then I could have simply told her that it wasn't going to happen and moved on, continuing to date women casually and enhance my seduction skills and experience.
Why didn't I break up with her?
On several occasions, I have thought about breaking up with her but I didn't because:
Reason 1: I'm in a small town and having a girl commute to see me every weekend is a great deal. Here there's almost barely any places to game and the girls aren't of great quality. (scarcity) [although I could go to NYC on the weekends quite easily]
Reason 2: She has great qualities such as [submission, kindness, care, intelligence, sexiness, passion, compatability] and I've never met a girl like this before.
Reason 3: If i break up with her, I know I'll miss her like crazy at times. She's really a great girl and I don't know too many like her. I also know she'll be confused and devastated at least for a short period of time.
I'm in a rut man. I've heard of men breaking up with girls to evolve. And I feel the call to do the same thing. My question is how would you go about breaking up with her? How do I do it in a way that keeps us on a positive note? How can I do it in a way that maybe occasionally we can even see eachother for sex? How long should I ponder this decision before making the final call?
I'd appreciate any advice. Thank you.
I'm a 21 year old male in PA.
I need your advice for a situation with this girl I'm with. I'm pondering whether or not to break up with her...
(I'll make this as short as possible and leave in the most relevant details.)
1 year and a half ago, I picked up this girl on Union Square who is now my girlfriend. We are in an open relationship where she is my primary partner and any other girls in my life are strictly for sex. She has chosen to be exclusive with me and thus I am her only partner. (Which I don't mind at all) haha.
This girl is awesome...and she lives in Brooklyn but visits me every weekend in PA. She commutes every weekend to see me. She cooks for me. She's submissive. She's philosophical. She meditates and does yoga. She and I get along very well. I even took her virginity and the sex is very passionate and loving. If I could describe her, I'd say she's passionate, open, loving, loyal, submissive, and caring. She's truly awesome. She's also a solid 7.5 out of 10. (Russian)
Why do I ponder breaking up with her?
Reason 1: Back when I first got involved with her, I made a somewhat bad decision; I basically told her that she'd be the only girl that I'd be serious with (emotionally, love-wise, etc). All other girls would strictly be for sex and nothing more. This was a bad decision because it restricted me from dating other girls casually because doing so would be crossing the line. Thus, I haven't really been increasing my seduction skills outside of her.
Reason 2: She demands a lot of my time. Almost every weekend is spent with her. The result is I haven't really been out and gamed in almost a year! If I were to tell her that I wanted to spend a weekend doing something else, she'd be emotionally upset and feel betrayed thinking that I'm not treating her like an actual "girlfriend."
Reason 3: This has a bit to do with reason 2 because it has to do with time. But I haven't seen any of my old friends and buddies I used to game with in months! I miss going out to bars on weekends let alone gaming and just chilling with dudes. All my weekends are about her now.
Reason 4: On several occasions, she has expressed her sadness to the point of crying in regards to the fact that I see other women on the side. She has pushed for monogamy many times and I kept saying "no" with her eventually just compromising. Thus, I feel like this is definitely not something she's down for in the long run anyway. Plus, if I break up with her soon, she'll get over it quicker than if I keep investing in the relationship and thus make the pain worse at the inevitable end.
Reason 5: I'm not planning on being exclusive with anyone until I'm 30. The mistake I made with her was guaranteeing exclusivity on everything except sex. I should have not said anything and simply dated her casually then when she would have pushed for monogamy then I could have simply told her that it wasn't going to happen and moved on, continuing to date women casually and enhance my seduction skills and experience.
Why didn't I break up with her?
On several occasions, I have thought about breaking up with her but I didn't because:
Reason 1: I'm in a small town and having a girl commute to see me every weekend is a great deal. Here there's almost barely any places to game and the girls aren't of great quality. (scarcity) [although I could go to NYC on the weekends quite easily]
Reason 2: She has great qualities such as [submission, kindness, care, intelligence, sexiness, passion, compatability] and I've never met a girl like this before.
Reason 3: If i break up with her, I know I'll miss her like crazy at times. She's really a great girl and I don't know too many like her. I also know she'll be confused and devastated at least for a short period of time.
I'm in a rut man. I've heard of men breaking up with girls to evolve. And I feel the call to do the same thing. My question is how would you go about breaking up with her? How do I do it in a way that keeps us on a positive note? How can I do it in a way that maybe occasionally we can even see eachother for sex? How long should I ponder this decision before making the final call?
I'd appreciate any advice. Thank you.
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