Breaking Up With A Great Girl To Evolve?

[BeExcellent]

And the way you break up is quick and clean. You meet up, and you say, "I really care about you but we want different things from life at this time. I'm breaking up so we can both get on with what we are looking for out of life."

Then you block her, go no contact and get on with your life...and you respect her enough to let her do the same, in other words leave her alone.

This business of stringing a girl along while you have it both ways is destructive to each of you in different ways. Better to break clean and move on.

I think you're scared she'll be "the one that got away."

 

[inginocchiati]

Honestly, i think you're right man.

I can see A LOT of men wanting what I have and I maybe not appreciating it as much.

Plus, with her I still can see other girls, it's just a bit more difficult.

I think I'm going to go ahead and stay with her for now...

If you decide to keep her around, work on your boundaries. There is no reason why you can't make time for friends, or other activities, even if it is on a weekend. Get comfortable with telling her "no", and being ok with not spending a weekend with her.

 

[jester1x]

She has chosen to be exclusive with me and thus I am her only partner. (Which I don't mind at all) haha.

The grass isn't greener. It has either been carefully spray painted or it is artificial turf.

The only thing you are going to evolve into is one big whiny mess when your woman eventually hooks up with another man. You're basically being delivered a filet mignon on the regular but you insist on trading it for some mystery meat figuratively and literally.

Learn the hard way is you so choose to do so but realize you probably won't be able to get it (her) back. Evolve into an individual that can appreciate a great situation/position when your are smack in the middle of it.

Personally, a clingy woman that clings to you is better than a woman who clings to every other man but you. Yes, it's an extreme but it is clearly in your favor.