Dude,you.............
You know,I looked at your join date. It says you just joined yesterday.
No you didn't. You joined 7 years ago,here....
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index....nge-her-from-a-friend-to-a-girlfriend.158452/
5 years ago,here......
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index....riendzone-manning-up-at-your-own-risk.184358/
6 and a half years ago,here....
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/a-real-challenge-for-you-experts.169434/
8 years ago,here.......
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/in-love-with-my-bestfriend.150015/
Dude,I can go on and on.
In the first thread I linked,the dude spent
10 years trying to date the girl he was in the friendzone with.
Same thing with the second,he also spent 10 years trying to get his friendzone crush.
The third,he spent 6 years chasing his girl. The fourth spent over a year.
NONE OF THEM ever got the girl. They wasted all those years running round in circles,being played......like someone using a laser pointer...shining that red dot on the ground,making the cat chase after it,running in circles like an
idiot......while the chick just sits back and laughs,being entertained.
I looked back at your original post. You said the chick TOLD YOU that she "can't see" herself with you......and that she
admitted that she "strung you along". So she used the ole' laser pointer on you,had you chasing that red dot...that
illusion of her possibly having interest in you...........held the piece of food over your head,just out of reach.....had you standing on your hinds legs like a dog begging for a treat. All that bullsh!t. And here you are with us,asking.....
...realistically how long should I just ghost her before I can reach out a little?
And this bullsh!t here....
I'm just saying...if I want to try and press for a date...when will I know is the right time? Or do I let her come to me?
Told you she can't see herself with you,told you she strung you along....and you're ignoring all that and still trying to date her.
Un-believeable. Then you say this....
Since the first night I moved back though...she's been much more distant and is getting in with him more. It's starting to take its toll and even with me being on tinder (and doing fairly well), etc...I'm not handling it well. She doesn't see it, bc Ive remained pretty steady with her, but it's kicking my butt.
So the fact that she's with another guy is
"STARTING TO TAKE IT'S TOLL" on you....that "you're not handling it well"....and it's "kicking your butt". So basically,you're going through emotional pain/HELL dealing with her,and her refusal to date you.
GOOD. Maybe all this
unneccsary pain and hurt will wake you up to REALITY one day and you'll come to your senses,and move on to someone who
"can see themselves with you" and who doesn't "
string you along".
Mindboggling that a16 year old
child can have this sort of effect on a grown azz 27 year old man.
Yes....I know....she's not 16 now,she's 21 and you're 32,but that's when this sh1t started. Even so,a 32 year old man should have more dating experience,at least enough so that a chick 11 years younger than him shouldn't be able to toy with him like this.
You need to hang around this forum for a while.
You're not there yet,but if you continue,you're going to end up like this....
In love with my bestfriend
It's from the "in love with my best friend" thread,reply #69. The dude got so twisted chasing and trying to make something happen with the girl who friendzoned him,the FOOL actually said that he hoped that the girl
hated him so then at least she'd feel
something for him.
That's some sick sh1t.
I've seen your replies to others,so I know there's no point in trying to talk any sense into you,but I'm glad you made this thread,though. This thread can be added to all the others I linked,so maybe the next guy who comes here who's been chasing some chick who friendzoned him will see all the threads together,realize he's the latest to think his friendzone situation was "different",and maybe after reading the threads and seeing HIMSELF in them,it'll make him wake up faster to this folly and move on.
Far as you,well,if.....
5 years,
the chick being involved with someone else,
the girl flat out TELLING YOU she can't see herself with you,
all this sh1t "kicking your butt" and "taking a toll" on you,
her texting some other guy
while she was with you...then
leaving you to go be with him
this chick telling you that her "guy" wanted to meet you,
if
ALL THAT has failed to knock any sense into you,no one post (or even a collection of them) here is going to do it.
I guess you think your situation is "different" Everything you said here in your original post...everything....
ALL OF IT....it's already been said and posted in the links I gave. One of you two moving away,then coming back.....a guy talking about being hurt and suffering over this......a guy saying how their friends or other people mistakenly thinks they're already a couple.....you giving an ultimatum trying to get her to hang out with you...........it's all been said before....I can go thread by thread and show you each of your comments in the friendzone threads above.
In reply #16,you said you knew she went and stayed the night with some other dude when she told you she was going to bed. So you think she went and had sex with the guy. Same thing from reply #10 in the "challenge for you experts" thread here....
A real challenge for you experts.
Your situation is no different,neither will your results be. The only difference (maybe) will be the length of time you spend running round in circles chasing that red dot.
