Yeah. Tbh i like her but iv dated other gurls since her and picked some up and also banged some ... Its not like im sitting in bed crying over her: i wouldnt mind getting her back on MY terms. I can live withouth her at this point, withouth it affecting me. But hey if she wants in on my terms, id be interested. So what do you guys think shes id doing here? Seing to see if she still has me wrapped? Aka a ego stroke? Or testing the field for a potential or us dating again? If its option 1, how would i know if it could be option 2? What would differ? She texted me to say: shes been thinking about me alot lately. Its obv not enough but should i even answer? I was fhinking something along the lines of: better be great things;-)... See in my head as im still into her somewhat, im thinking shes been thinkign abt me alot in the past week to the point where she cant contain herself anymore. and had to text me? Heading home now gents. Can someone here please stear me straight? Thanks community so appreciative! And alvafe. I know man tinder, BUT since my ex and i broke up 2 yrs ago i probably have dated 10 women, ( few dates minimum) and shes the only one that made m feel remotely like my ex did. Ps: keep in mind, this girl im talking about in this post, i treated her like gold; i was super thoughtfull and she always had a great time when we would he together
Hooking up again with women you had strong feelings for, who left you is a very dangerous game generally. As strong as you think you are now, or as over her as you feel, just by reading the way you wrote things I can tell you really are not. Add to that the insane head rush when you guys have sex again for the first time and you think the relationship is back on, and you are really going to be sent to a pretty emotionally vulnerable place. Basically it looks like she had reasons for breaking up with you and has now dated around a bit more. She probably had some really bad experiences with guys and is remembering your old relationship through a positive filter and thinking "hmm he wasn't so bad." Now if you're REALLY changed ALOT, and think you an handle this AND she's THAAAAAT important to you, you can give it a shot, but you're really playing with fire here.
She's probably not looking for an ego stroke, new guys are much easier for that. More like testing to see if you guys could give it another round. You want to talk to her as little as possible while getting her to come over and meet you in person. Text her with something short and to the point, "hey would be great to get together and catch up, come over to my place at 8pm on Thursday, I want to show you something you're going to go wild for." Don't actually tell her what that thing is. The curiosity + her interest should be enough to tip her over the edge and get her to show. Don't express how you feel about her. She is desperate for the validation of a "I've been thinking about you too, I miss you too." If you give it to her, you will loose a lot of power. Keeping it ambiguous or just out of reach, will be the most seductive frame. She has to EARN that.
When she comes it can be anything, a simple dish you cooked, a movie, whatever. Get a few drinks into her and then sleep with her as soon as you can. Before a woman sleeps with a man shes thinking of all the reasons why she shouldn't, but after she is thinking of all the reasons why she did and filters everything through that. Watch out for how you feel about her, after you two get physical. You'll feel emotional, you need to push that feeling away. She is not yours, she is not fully back, she is not the one, the battle has just begun.
You said you treated her like gold and yet she left you. If I had to guess 99/100 times that sounds like a guy who was too weak or too boring. Don't worry about being so "good" to her. You already tried that and if FAILED. Be strong, don't let her see you more than 2x a week, leave her wanting more, be exciting. When you do hang out, do wild, fun interesting stuff, not bs netflix and chill every time.
