Can a woman be too sexual?

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Given she has a VERY low partner count that you are very pleased with, she's what you want in a woman, for a LTR partner, feminine, sweet, loyal, loving, monogamous without question, and you come to know, more and more...

She's a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets.


How do you respond? Are you put off, pleased, intimidated, turned on more, turned off? Are you comfortable with a woman who loves sex with you and exploring her sexuality, as much as you do, or perhaps even more?

* Can a woman be too sexual?

* What is too much? Too weird?
* Can a woman be too sexual, for LTR compatibility?
* How and when is best for a woman, of very high sexual desire, openness, and appetite, to fully reveal that side of herself, to a man she is getting to know, for the possibility of a LTR?
 
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Given she has a low partner count that you are very pleased with, she's what you want in a woman, for a LTR partner, feminine, sweet, loyal, loving, monogamous without question, and you come to know, more and more...

She's a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets.

How do you respond? Are you put off? Pleased? Intimidated? Turned on more? Turned off? Are you comfortable with a woman who loves sex and exploring her sexuality (with you) as much as you do, or perhaps even more?

* Can a woman be too sexual?
* What is too much?
* Can a woman be too sexual, for LTR compatibility?
In my opinion no. She just cannot be taking the lead in the bedroom most of the time. I don't mind her doing it some of the times though. And like some of the guys I'd rather she got that without banging triple digits guys, but some of the guys don't care.
 

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I get that this is different for every man. For example, my ex husband had next to no sex drive, while my last partner was through the roof. One would be content with a few minutes, the other only many hours. One liked basics, one preferred much more. Their experience of my sexuality were very different. Who they were sexually was incredibly different. There is no right or wrong answer here. I am not looking for what "the answer" is for all men. I am just trying to better understand what it is like for different men and how to best be myself, be considerate and not scare a good man away, with my desires for sex with him.
 
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So you got accustomed to high-quality sex with that ex, but it doesn't fit well with what you perceive as a woman in a marriage. You had two very different experiences, but you clearly prefer the latter, making you worry about if your next partner will be "vanilla". This is a common preoccupation of yours, according to your thread about squirting. And it is a good sign that you are worried about it.

I can only offer my own (little) experience. I am put off by things like: she experimented with women, she's into fisting, she doesn't mind having sex with her period. Now, I would like those things if I wasn't contemplating her for a LTR, but you are asking about this in a LTR setting. So yeah, there are limits to the kinks I want to see in a serious partner.
Now...I have talked about this with some friends...and I think there's a basic consensus: Basically keep it clean, keep it monogamous, and keep it in normal sizes (lol). But things like choking, squirting, spanking are ok.
 

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It's funny how a lot of guys will have svx with what they perceive to be a slut, yet never consider them for an LTR. And you LYD would prefer to dull your own sexual desires to make sure you don't scare away a potential "good man".

Do you all see a problem here? Are we all willing to fake who we are to keep what we perceive we need?

Svx can be a great adventure if your partner is mature enough to explore what you and he enjoy. It's experimental until you find the height of pleasure for both parties involved.

Don't cage tigers for the viewing pleasure of others and don't cage desire with the same intent in mind.

Ramblings of the day from ZTIME!!
 

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It's funny how a lot of guys will have svx with what they perceive to be a slut, yet never consider them for an LTR. And you LYD would prefer to dull your own sexual desires to make sure you don't scare away a potential "good man".

Do you all see a problem here? Are we all willing to fake who we are to keep what we perceive we need?

Svx can be a great adventure if your partner is mature enough to explore what you and he enjoy. It's experimental until you find the height of pleasure for both parties involved.

Don't cage tigers for the viewing pleasure of others and don't cage desire with the same intent in mind.

Ramblings of the day from ZTIME!!
There are sacrifices to be made if you want stability in any kind of relationship. This is why society FELL, because we weren't able to sacrifice our momentaneous pleasures anymore.
 

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Funny you should ask, I am experiencing this exact same thing at the moment. Just started talking to a girl that has all the qualities you mentioned. Comes from a very healthy-traditional family. I have never talked to a female that is so sechsual, her dating profile pics were super conservative. She told me from the beginning that she was wired like a guy when it comes to sechs but very feminine in taking care of her body and looks. She totally wants p0rn star style sechs frequently and has made it clear. This isn’t some damaged goods girl with daddy issues. Its just that when it comes to sechs, she wants it like a guy often does! She’s definitely a lady in the street and a freak in the sheets.
So what do I think about this……I’ve almost been blown away with how up front she is with her thoughts/desires. She totally loves her body(HB9) and is very confident and this is so attractive to me. From past experience, women that are usually this sechsual are also very CRAZY with lots of drama, issues, baggage and a long history of bad decisions. But this girl doesn’t have all of that and I’ve asked the hard questions. This relationship is young, so perhaps I will uncover some of that but I don’t think there will be much. I’ve played this game long enough and know what to look for. Her life is very well put together, which is totally not the case with past girls that were this sechsual.
There is no such thing as being too sechsual for me, but I would venture to say that a lot of guys would be put off. I will say this…..if a guy can eat a meal inside of a $trip club and be comfortable doing it, he will also be comfortable with a highly sechsual freak in the bedroom. ;-) If he is comfortable inside an Adult/Sechs Store he will enjoy a highly sechsual woman. Its going to take a guy that is highly comfortable with who he is to truly appreciate what a highly sechsual woman offers. Look for a guy that displays plenty of confidence, is an explorer, doesn’t follow the herd, pushes limits, bends rules, adventure seeker, one that isn’t afraid to operate outside of his comfort zone and frequently does, and he will be highly experienced sechsually. These traits lend themselves to a guy that would be a good match.
I’ve got an inner freak in me. The dirtier the better but I’m not into whips/chains/leather masks! I would never hold that against a woman, its just not an interest of mine. But I’m good with everything else(tied up, anal, squirting, outdoors, videos, pics, porn, etc). However, I am a little bit on guard due to past experiences, however I am open minded enough to enjoy life and realize I should proceed with slight caution as with any relationship. I’m not going to cross a girl off the list because she is a freak and it isn’t typical female behavior. I’m impressed that she is showing her true colors. Men and Women are all guilty getting of not being themselves from the start. I recommend you stop worrying about how you should act and just be yourself. It eventually all comes out sooner or later. If you are worried about coming across as too strong, and put up a front, then you will likely attract the wrong person. Don’t be afraid to put it out there and be yourself, it’s the only way you will find that right person who appreciates you and will give you what you need. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman being a sexual freak in the bedroom, but most guys can’t handle one. Society has construed some bs social laws that every one should act a certain way and fit into a specific type, and its total crap.
A woman should always reveal her true identity from the start, just like every man should. It’s the best shot at a successful long term relationship. If they can’t handle you for who you are, then they aren’t the right person. It’s a great way to filter people out!
 

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So as this sexual relationship develops, how do you make each successive experience more special than the last? How do you determine if you are going to be fvucking or making love?
I realize not every episode is going to be out of the park good and new and exciting. But I think we want it to be.

We all have our limits, and feeling safe with our partner is going to make us push our own boundaries. Maybe in an LTR there is a designated night for exploration. maybe the couple hint with each other at new territory. Maybe there is a familiar, comfortable lovemaking session on the regular.

I'm still exploring this area after having a low sex drive, unadventurous partner for 23 years. I'm learning too.
 

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I dont need whips and chains or another man in the room but apart from that. My only issue is that without drugs I cannot guarantee more than two long lasting boners a night.

The only time a girl was too sexual for me was when all she wanted was ibtercourse and any attempt at foreplay went straight to penetration. Dear god I tried but even back then I had my limits.
 

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My very own loyal, low-mileage slut is what I prefer. I had one once, but I was too young to appreciate her. Like ZTIME said, she rarely took the lead, and did it just often enough to make it fun. She'd do anything I wanted, she was fun and loving in her sexuality, and she had a good core. Maybe I'll find that again someday, but I'm not holding my breath.
 

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Dear Love your dream,
"Can a Woman be too sexual?"Well The shrinks think so,even give it a name "Hypersexuality"I always think of it as "Nymphomania"....For me all human behaviour can,using objective scales,be plotted on a Bell Curve...You are on the extreme end of a curve...More strength to your elbow...I suppose like all human activities it is only a problem insofar as it impacts on your daily life and relationships...If you are HAPPY to control your urges...then no problems.....For me a male equivalent I am unable to do so...I have tried but to no avail,it was just soo miserable...My Don Juan life style suits me just fine....Luckily should I slip through the gratings, I am quite wealthy,and have two lovely Daughters to fall back on...For you an effective way to handle your svexuality would be to join an Internet Swingers Club...amongst the Members there you will find a ready flow of eager suiters,get a boob job and you can indulge yourself in any age,shape,colour that takes your fancy whenever you fancy,were you able to find a primary love interest who could fulfill your LTR needs,then that would be Winter with Wine...Frankly I see you as a rare Jewel amongst Women,If I found one like you,she would be the last thing to go LOL....Good Luck.
 
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@LYD
you are starting to sound unsure of YOUR situation, in light of the awesome perspectives and advice you share
...there is a noted shift in your tone, approach and possible insecurities in regards to your (new?) romantic interest.

do you feel already early in the relationship he cannot handle you?
That you feel the need to moderate yourself to him? Your sexuality?
 

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LYD, I am curious about how I, as the Man in a relationship with a much more sexual woman than my ex wife of 20 years, can keep up with the appetite and variety that I have not been previously exposed to...What is going to keep a high sex drive woman "on the hook" ? Can a deep connection through "lovemaking" vs. "freaky fracking" become more appealing?
 

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Situation dependent.
If I'm really hot for you, cool, down for it. if not or you are like a fine whiskey I can only drink so much then put the bottle away...

To me a woman I am hot for I find a spontaneity in myself as well as her..could happen in a car, restaurant, home, ktichen, etc as well as long sessions In bed room. if she's the only one spontaneous hot, means I'm not as into her has she for me, maybe her smv is less than mine so I am easily distracted to other things. I don't mind long sessions with someone interesting. ..

Curious factors in this, eh?
-proximity
- certainty
 

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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/death-dying-and-my-dad-just-called-to-tell-me-hes-not-doing-well.235398/

TL;DR Bold above/or--->I'll be gone from SS for a bit to be with my Dad. I'll may be back soon or maybe later. Depends on life. Please excuse my walking away mid conversations. I can't make up surface replies just to tie things up. The conversations and your replies really touch me and I appreciate them so much. For now, my time and attention takes me to my Dad. I appreciate your understanding.

 

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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/death-dying-and-my-dad-just-called-to-tell-me-hes-not-doing-well.235398/

TL;DR Bold above/or--->I'll be gone from SS for a bit to be with my Dad. I'll may be back soon or maybe later. Depends on life. Please excuse my walking away mid conversations. I can't make up surface replies just to tie things up. The conversations and your replies really touch me and I appreciate them so much. For now, my time and attention takes me to my Dad. I appreciate your understanding.
Truly be blessed with your time with your father. I don't share here, but for you I will say I'm dealing with a similar situation with my mom.

Hold nothing back!......... As I " would have, should have, and could have" can internalize a lot of things.

Be blessed little sister, and understand life as it truly is.

PM for an update, as I've learned much from you and now I am concerned that you will return with solid advice.

Yeah You PUA's won't admit it!!!
 

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Truly be blessed with your time with your father. I don't share here, but for you I will say I'm dealing with a similar situation with my mom.

Hold nothing back!......... As I " would have, should have, and could have" can internalize a lot of things.

Be blessed little sister, and understand life as it truly is.

PM for an update, as I've learned much from you and now I am concerned that you will return with solid advice.

Yeah You PUA's won't admit it!!!
@ZTIME--A most heartfelt thank you! May you experience your journey with your mother, as the flow of Grace, in every way.
 

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To all in this thread--Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! You gave me big smiles today!! There is more of me I want to share and ask for your insight on, when I return. I wish you all well. I'll see you around the bend, as some say.
 

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There is a natural law at work that very few are aware of. It applies to women and not men.

The more sexual partners a woman has, the more it shows in her face. With every new partner there is a drastic diminishing of the woman. Women weren't wired for sleeping around and having multiple partners. A woman RECEIVES from a man, and she is wired to receive from one man ideally. Once a woman sleeps with a man, she becomes bound deeply to him and he literally becomes a part of her because she absorbs him into herself physically, mentally and even spiritually.

This is a CORRUPTION.

When she reaches her thirties, it starts to show in her face and her demeanor. I have seen this time and time again. I can pretty much tell a woman's sexual history by looking at her. You younger guys will think I'm imagining things, but trust me, young whippersnappers, when you get into later decades you will see how your inner vision and discernment increase as your physical eyes decrease.

Every partner takes something vital away from a woman and replaces it with corruption. Only a tiny handful of you will understand this post.
 

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Not sure I follow this last post I do believe there's a skepticism, cynicism written on face of someone, including women, who wanted too much and we're denied again and again.

Scientifically, it's a non starter to say monogamy is our way. Genetic studies prove historically 20% of men typically bred..so they controlled the other men and or access to females. Women breeder with the most likely to carry on the offspring. A lot of adultry, cuckolding happened, the very shape of a man's pen1s is designed to scoop out the matter of men there before you, and go flaccid after orgasm to leave yours behind . Sperm will attack and block other men's sperm. There's a lot more going on here. Further, two people with strong chemistry generally have compatible but dissimilar immune systems, so they ate brought together to share genes with greatest chance to succeed. When someone smells good to you on a subconscious level that's what is going on.
 
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