When you lose your job it can seriously and immediately impact your dating life. Getting layed off and getting laid don't mix. Here are some tips from a pro at job loss (also known as a contractor).
1) Don't tell her right away. There is no point. You are a tree and she is a bird making a nest. Falling over does not help the eggs.
2) Keep your chin up, but don't put on an act. It will be painful for a while.
3) Be proactive. Read your resume - every line - and polish it. Fill in the blanks by using "- present" for the first month, then rounding up by one month. This gets you through 3 months.
4) Sell things. Have an eBay sale. Selling things at fixed price with a Best Offer feature is best as you can overprice it and let them talk you down. This lightens your load when you move and keeps money flowing in.
5) Teach yourself new skills. You can learn most anything online these days. Remember that the person hiring you mainly wants to know that you are working hard every day at the skills they require, not how much you are paid. So have a reserve of cash and keep working hard. For example, learn JavaScript or HTML5. In my case I learned WebGL.
6) Be patient. These days many jobs will find you if you are on LinkedIn. You should have a few agents looking, but don't publish your resume on a job board. Only send out exact matches, up to one per day (more in your field may be appropriate). Tailor your cover letter to each job.
7) Confess. Once you have some job prospects, then you can tell her that you lost your job. You probably will have to explain the travel, etc. It's ok to let her see you in a down time. This is when you are supposed to be a rock. It is in tough times that a man's character is measured.
8) Cut out unnecessary expenses, but don't let it impact your dating life to the point of seeming cheaper than usual. That would show a very unstable budget. Have enough to cover a year of dates put away in advance.
9) Celebrate the new job. You will be strengthened by eventually finding a new position, and this will help your love life. Hopefully you carried yourself well during the down time.
10) Don't spend money you don't have. A promise of a new salary means you'll get a paycheck someday in about 30 days, so don't spend much until then. In fact, make sure your ask your new boss how long it takes to pay. Ideally it's 3 days after invoice.
1) Don't tell her right away. There is no point. You are a tree and she is a bird making a nest. Falling over does not help the eggs.
2) Keep your chin up, but don't put on an act. It will be painful for a while.
3) Be proactive. Read your resume - every line - and polish it. Fill in the blanks by using "- present" for the first month, then rounding up by one month. This gets you through 3 months.
4) Sell things. Have an eBay sale. Selling things at fixed price with a Best Offer feature is best as you can overprice it and let them talk you down. This lightens your load when you move and keeps money flowing in.
5) Teach yourself new skills. You can learn most anything online these days. Remember that the person hiring you mainly wants to know that you are working hard every day at the skills they require, not how much you are paid. So have a reserve of cash and keep working hard. For example, learn JavaScript or HTML5. In my case I learned WebGL.
6) Be patient. These days many jobs will find you if you are on LinkedIn. You should have a few agents looking, but don't publish your resume on a job board. Only send out exact matches, up to one per day (more in your field may be appropriate). Tailor your cover letter to each job.
7) Confess. Once you have some job prospects, then you can tell her that you lost your job. You probably will have to explain the travel, etc. It's ok to let her see you in a down time. This is when you are supposed to be a rock. It is in tough times that a man's character is measured.
8) Cut out unnecessary expenses, but don't let it impact your dating life to the point of seeming cheaper than usual. That would show a very unstable budget. Have enough to cover a year of dates put away in advance.
9) Celebrate the new job. You will be strengthened by eventually finding a new position, and this will help your love life. Hopefully you carried yourself well during the down time.
10) Don't spend money you don't have. A promise of a new salary means you'll get a paycheck someday in about 30 days, so don't spend much until then. In fact, make sure your ask your new boss how long it takes to pay. Ideally it's 3 days after invoice.
