This is the thing about dating that annoys me the most! Yet you have to understand that it's not always just the wallet. Women tend to constantly view men as an "upgrade" to their own lives. Yes it can be financially, but it can also be socially, or based on the excitement level of your extracurricular activities.
Hell, even when girls are in a committed relationship, they're still out looking at other men to see if there's "upgrade" potential.
I for one refuse to hide my social or financial status. I'm not going to dress down because I have nice clothes, or get a second car because mine is too nice. I've worked hard in life and should be able to enjoy the fruits of my labor without worrying about the vultures waiting to swoop down and pillage my apples.
It's very simple........ You choose what to do with your money. If a woman can't appreciate that or tries to shame you for not paying for her meal ....... So be it.
I'm sure it will be hard for her driving home in her Hyundai looking at the back of your Mercedes realizing that her sexual market value may be declining because she didn't get the anticipated "first date free meal!"
Best yet, within the hour she'll have at least 3 people on the phone that will agree with her about how cheap you are, as your hitting up your local pub meeting someone else who may suit you much better.
Live life for you, and by all means be proud of your accomplishments. Don't hide it thinking that someone will guilt you out of it.
I donate to charity to help the poor. I don't pay for a high 6's dinner for pvssy. (Or any number on the 10 scale).