Wants to be just friends. What should I say?

[casanova_goat]

Because we don't want you to waste your TIME and LIFE chasing after some chick who has NO INTEREST in you.

You made this thread seeking advice,right? Well? You got it.
What....you only want advice as long as it's what you WANT to hear? Let me let you in on a little secret many of us have discovered a long time ago.....

This REAL life. It's NOT a movie where the guy and girl ride off into the sunset together and live happily ever after. Sometimes you DON'T get the girl. It's not like in the movies where the chick suddenly wakes up and realizes that the love of her life (you) were there with her all along.

Some guys come here who have been chasing girls for YEARS.....like this guy here...

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/a-real-challenge-for-you-experts.169434/

Dude spent 6 years running after some girl.....we had to blast his azz to try to knock some sense into him.

You got the LJBF speech from this chick. Like someone said before,there could be many different reasons why,but reguardless of the reason,it's NOT good news for you. The most common reason is you F'd up,which happened to be the cause here.

It's clear you have oneitis,which means nothing anyone says to you is gonna get through.....so if you wanna waste your time/life chasing this chick,feel free to do so.

But don't make threads seeking advice then being mad when you get it. You asked,we told you.

Thanks but, believe me, I won't waste 6 years of my life on this girl. For the next week or so, while I get over this girl, I may grasp at any whisper of hope, so as to soften the blow of failing with her. I've had a pretty pathetic romantic life and I bear the weight of it.

 

[casanova_goat]

Well, to my surprise, the chick I asked out tonight just responded -- the bootie call hour of 12:36am (I shot her a text when I got home hours ago). I've found waiting to text after you meet someone could kill momentum. She is even younger than the one here. What is the over/under on amount of time it takes her to friendzone me?

 

[kenpiffyjr]

Dude is not the first person to say that! He's the first person to give you more of a strictly positive outlook...potentially with your oneitis further making you relying on the outcome. You have to understand that it's 50/50 out here.

Saying , "ok no problem" etc etc is operating under the belief that you don't always believe what women say but you also will take the outcome on the chin if she's really meaning it.

We've all been saying what he's been saying

 

[captain55]

The more masculine you are in a chick's eyes the more **** you can get away with. Just a week ago I pulled the "I can go out with 100 chicks they still won't be you" card and the chick ended up calling me that night. LMAO. I've also pulled the "I can't live without you" "your the most beautiful woman I have ever seen" and it works. If a chick knows you have options and she finds you attractive she's not gonna find you creepy. In my experience it is rare for a chick to not give into a guy eventually that is relentless in pursuing her who she has some physical attraction to.

You may not be her ideal mate for whatever reason (age,money,your personality) but at the end of the day if your the one putting in the most effort you will probably get her. Will she really be into you? no, she likes the fact that you make her feel validated but you don't care because if you bang her you can make her fall in love with you.

My advice is strictly for chicks you haven't slept with and are only talking to......the fact that you already slept with her and she still wants nothing to do with you is a very bad sign. Make sure you pop some viagra if she ever lets you tap that ass again.

 

[casanova_goat]

Well she, of her own volition, claimed the sex was really good after the fact, on two different ocassions. A poster here said to be wary of women who speak strongly of your sexual feats, they are often not truthful.

I have a small **** so it made me feel like a million bucks when she said those things. The normal sized condom kept rolling up and got lodged in her V at one pt. It may be all in the head of an underendowed men, but I can't help thinking she'd be coming back for seconds if I had some Ripley's Believe It Or Not $hit going on in my briefs. (In such a way that is desirable).

I don't know how much Viagra would help. In spite of my insecurites, I have always gotten a strong erection when ol' spike has come out to play.

 

[casanova_goat]

To paraphrase Mystery: you have to risk losing the girl in order to get the girl.

"I don't want you as a friend. It's all or nothing with me."

I wish I had worded it like that. It was my intention to word it like that the second she brought up being friends.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Well she, of her own volition, claimed the sex was really good after the fact, on two different ocassions. A poster here said to be wary of women who speak strongly of your sexual feats, they are often not truthful.

I have a small **** so it made me feel like a million bucks when she said those things. The normal sized condom kept rolling up and got lodged in her V at one pt. It may be all in the head of an underendowed men, but I can't help thinking she'd be coming back for seconds if I had some Ripley's Believe It Or Not $hit going on in my briefs. (In such a way that is desirable).

I don't know how much Viagra would help. In spite of my insecurites, I have always gotten a strong erection when ol' spike has come out to play.

A lot of it is your mindset and confidence in your sex. So as a small to average guy, if you have a lot of endurance a really hard c0ck that never quits, a great tongue and a strong desire to make her *** multiple times she will often times than not find something magical about your sex.

 

[casanova_goat]

A lot of it is your mindset and confidence in your sex. So as a small to average guy, if you have a lot of endurance a really hard c0ck that never quits, a great tongue and a strong desire to make her *** multiple times she will often times than not find something magical about your sex.

This chick said said she has never orgasmed (she is only 21). She lamented her body "does not work." She, also, said she never masturbates, this could be the culprit. Based on the way she said it, I believe all this. It is not uncommon for young woman to have a hard time orgasming. So I've read.

As for me, I really need the experience. I have never had a relationship with steady sex. Only three sporadic bangs. Hard to ply your trade, so to speak, when it comes so infrequently.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

This chick said said she has never orgasmed (she is only 21). She lamented her body "does not work." She, also, said she never masturbates, this could be the culprit. Based on the way she said it, I believe all this. It is not uncommon for young woman to have a hard time orgasming. So I've read.

As for me, I really need the experience. I have never had a relationship with steady sex. Only three sporadic bangs. Hard to ply your trade, so to speak, when it comes so infrequently.

You gotta get some reps in even if it's with someone slightly less of a SMV value than you desire. A heavier girl or a "uglier" girl can help you there.

 

[casanova_goat]

You gotta get some reps in even if it's with someone slightly less of a SMV value than you desire. A heavier girl or a "uglier" girl can help you there.

So I've been told. I've always tried to be discriminating, nor have I ever wished to use a woman for sex (unless she is down with it). I should probably temper my standards but it's hard to sleep with someone you're not the least bit attracted to, esp in a word of exotic venereal diseases and unintended children. I would have no trouble with a four or five willing to go along with my inclinations, but harpooning some whales has never been my cup of tea.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

So I've been told. I've always tried to be discriminating, nor have I ever wished to use a woman for sex (unless she is down with it). I should probably temper my standards but it's hard to sleep with someone you're not the least bit attracted to, esp in a word of exotic venereal diseases and unintended children. I would have no trouble with a four or five willing to go along with my inclinations, but harpooning some whales has never been my cup of tea.

It's better than being sexless and will make you attract sex. Trust us. You do that temporarily to put some money in your accounts.

 

[casanova_goat]

Hah, I see.

I still feel bad for terminally ugly women, who may be looking for something real, yet I am another jerk who hits and quits. I really don't feel like doing to these women, what other women have done to me. Providing empty promises.

You have to screen out the sluts, who want nothing more than a no-strings attached thing. Yet a slut will never own up to her slutness.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Hah, I see.

I still feel bad for terminally ugly women, who may be looking for something real, yet I am another jerk who hits and quits. I really don't feel like doing to these women, what other women have done to me. Providing empty promises.

You have to screen out the sluts, who want nothing more than a no-strings attached thing. Yet a slut will never own up to her slutness.

Some "ugly" girls have great personalities and even nice bodies and super attractive private parts. Sometimes they are just not "fashion aware" or something like that. These 8-10's get so much of a lift from makeup, hair, nails and fashion it's not even funny.

One of these "ugly" nice body girls could be an actual friend and you exchange sexual pleasantries until one of you find something more permenant. It doesn't have to be someone "using" the other at all. Just say your not trying to be committed at your age and encourage her to do whatever she wants. If your d1cking her down good, she probably will be mostly taking on your pipe.

 

[casanova_goat]

Some "ugly" girls have great personalities and even nice bodies and super attractive private parts. Sometimes they are just not "fashion aware" or something like that. These 8-10's get so much of a lift from makeup, hair, nails and fashion it's not even funny.

One of these "ugly" nice body girls could be an actual friend and you exchange sexual pleasantries until one of you find something more permenant. It doesn't have to be someone "using" the other at all. Just say your not trying to be committed at your age and encourage her to do whatever she wants. If your d1cking her down good, she probably will be mostly taking on your pipe.

True, that's a good way to put it.

Although what you say about 8-10s getting so much lift may be true, I think most chicks at the lower ranges are hopeless on the physical attractiveness front. (Unless it is weight related) I wish I weren't so darn superficial. I don't need an 8 or 10 and I find a vapid personality on one of those suckers to be a big turn-off. I just need a chick who is kinda cute and with whom there is great chemistry.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

True, that's a good way to put it.

Although what you say about 8-10s getting so much lift may be true, I think most chicks at the lower ranges are hopeless on the physical attractiveness front. (Unless it is weight related) I wish I weren't so darn superficial. I don't need an 8 or 10 and I find a vapid personality on one of those suckers to be a big turn-off. I just need a chick who is kinda cute and with whom there is great chemistry.

Well for now you need your accounts loaded up with some puzzy. The girl you desire will be much more easily attainable when you have one or two already. They seem to be more strongly attracted to men who are more sexually active.

 

[casanova_goat]

Yeah true.

Women and irony go together well. I mean, shouldn't it be flattering if a guy chose to have sex with you and withheld from others? Isn't it a plus if a guy has tastes, values a certain variety of sex with a connection, and doesn't succumb to his urges?

It's funny women are attracted to men who sow their wild oats then complain when they run.

 

[marmel75]

This chick said said she has never orgasmed (she is only 21). She lamented her body "does not work." She, also, said she never masturbates, this could be the culprit. Based on the way she said it, I believe all this. It is not uncommon for young woman to have a hard time orgasming. So I've read.

As for me, I really need the experience. I have never had a relationship with steady sex. Only three sporadic bangs. Hard to ply your trade, so to speak, when it comes so infrequently.

Watch 2 women teach sex videos and learn how to finger properly. I've had plenty of women tell me that then 5 minutes later they squirted and freaked out asking me what just happened cause they have never done that before...

And once you make a woman squirt for the first time she is yours forever...she will never leave you alone...

 

[casanova_goat]

Watch 2 women teach sex videos and learn how to finger properly. I've had plenty of women tell me that then 5 minutes later they squirted and freaked out asking me what just happened cause they have never done that before...

And once you make a woman squirt for the first time she is yours forever...she will never leave you alone...

Do you have a link?

I fingered this chick for a good while and she seemed to really like it. The fingering part is what gives credence to her claims of great sex.

When she told me she had never orgasmed, I became so enthusiastic about being the first one to make her ***. It's too bad I may never get the opp.

Given it's been 4 days since we've last spoken, and for nearly two months, only two or three times did a day pass without us talking, do you, at this point, think the odds of her contacting me are really low?

I know you're going to say it doesn't matter but I was curious.

 

[marmel75]

Just don't worry about it...hit her up and ask her out one day. Her interest may be falling but that doesn't necessarily mean you can't bang her again...it might, it might not...you don't know what the situation is or how she reacts to the situation...

I don't have a link but you can torrent it. It's a large video series and it's literally gold if you watch it and learn it and then use it. You will be so far above and beyond what most women have experienced before they will not be able to leave you alone...I promise you that.

I believe it's like 12-14GB the whole series that is, and it's like 12 hours of stuff...I've watched it all 3 or 4 times...doesn't hurt the chicks in it are hot ass porn stars...

 

[casanova_goat]

Just don't worry about it...hit her up and ask her out one day. Her interest may be falling but that doesn't necessarily mean you can't bang her again...it might, it might not...you don't know what the situation is or how she reacts to the situation...

I don't have a link but you can torrent it. It's a large video series and it's literally gold if you watch it and learn it and then use it. You will be so far above and beyond what most women have experienced before they will not be able to leave you alone...I promise you that.

I believe it's like 12-14GB the whole series that is, and it's like 12 hours of stuff...I've watched it all 3 or 4 times...doesn't hurt the chicks in it are hot ass porn stars...

Wow 12-14 gigs. Quite an exhaustive fingering series. When I fingered her, I made a come hither motion.

Based on everything this chick has told me she doesn't strike me as averse to spur of the moment sex.