casanova_goat
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I met this girl -- let's call her Jenny -- just over 6 weeks ago at a bookstore, the following day we met up, I suggested drinks which led to quite a bit of necking, afterwards she texted me thanking me for taking her out. The following day she went back to college (she is 21) while I have some years on her.
Until today, we had spoken in some form every single day since we’ve met. She made the effort of meeting me in the nearest city once, then she came home for Valentine’s Day and we had sex. She would later comment twice, via text, that is was good/great sex and has the intention of doing it again. When we are together we do everything a couple would do: share thoughts, hold hands, nuzzle, kiss and now fornicate.
Everything sounds all fine and dandy. Not so fast.
Two days after we first got intimate, in the midst of playful flirting, she said I was becoming “too attached too quickly” and that she “may not be able to give me what I want in the long run” that she is “not looking for anything specifically” that it “feels weird to become emotionally entangled just coming out of a relationship” (more on that later) and that “she didn’t have these expectations from me in the beginning.”
Now, we are still talking and flirting like always but I have begun to refrain from initiating at all and wait for her to contact me everyday, which she always does (except for today when she may have been waiting for me to contact her). The other day, it seemed like we would go the entire day without talking to each other and, after 8, she wrote “Not talking to me today?!
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I am trying to make my interest level appear ambiguous but I wonder if it will work in the long run, or things will never rise above this sort of friends with benefits stage?
As I alluded to earlier, she just got out of a relationship and one time, over the phone, said she it was the reason for which she was “broken” then yesterday she said she was “sad” and wouldn’t let on why. I told her she could call me if she wanted to talk about it and she said “aww but it’s probably not a good idea for this particular issue.” My suspicion is she still harbors feelings for her ex, whom she (to my knowledge) has dated on and off. Right after that she said she wanted to “hang out, like right now” which never came to fruition because she is far away.
I realize a good strategy is wait for women to contact you then set up date. Well, it is hard in this case given the expanse of distance and time (so long as she is at school) which must be negotiated.
If you couldn’t tell, I like this girl. I connect with her on many different levels and have a lot in common with her, unlike girls I have dated in recent years. But I fear nothing serious will come of this and I should really temper my expectations.
How would you guys proceed? I am fairly confident she will reach out to me tomorrow, unless she is testing me, but she will cave at one point and may start to grope for clues as to why I have become so distant. (Unless she is completely indifferent to us not talking today). How do I react when she does contact me next?
Any feedback greatly appreciated, thanks!
Until today, we had spoken in some form every single day since we’ve met. She made the effort of meeting me in the nearest city once, then she came home for Valentine’s Day and we had sex. She would later comment twice, via text, that is was good/great sex and has the intention of doing it again. When we are together we do everything a couple would do: share thoughts, hold hands, nuzzle, kiss and now fornicate.
Everything sounds all fine and dandy. Not so fast.
Two days after we first got intimate, in the midst of playful flirting, she said I was becoming “too attached too quickly” and that she “may not be able to give me what I want in the long run” that she is “not looking for anything specifically” that it “feels weird to become emotionally entangled just coming out of a relationship” (more on that later) and that “she didn’t have these expectations from me in the beginning.”
Now, we are still talking and flirting like always but I have begun to refrain from initiating at all and wait for her to contact me everyday, which she always does (except for today when she may have been waiting for me to contact her). The other day, it seemed like we would go the entire day without talking to each other and, after 8, she wrote “Not talking to me today?!
”I am trying to make my interest level appear ambiguous but I wonder if it will work in the long run, or things will never rise above this sort of friends with benefits stage?
As I alluded to earlier, she just got out of a relationship and one time, over the phone, said she it was the reason for which she was “broken” then yesterday she said she was “sad” and wouldn’t let on why. I told her she could call me if she wanted to talk about it and she said “aww but it’s probably not a good idea for this particular issue.” My suspicion is she still harbors feelings for her ex, whom she (to my knowledge) has dated on and off. Right after that she said she wanted to “hang out, like right now” which never came to fruition because she is far away.
I realize a good strategy is wait for women to contact you then set up date. Well, it is hard in this case given the expanse of distance and time (so long as she is at school) which must be negotiated.
If you couldn’t tell, I like this girl. I connect with her on many different levels and have a lot in common with her, unlike girls I have dated in recent years. But I fear nothing serious will come of this and I should really temper my expectations.
How would you guys proceed? I am fairly confident she will reach out to me tomorrow, unless she is testing me, but she will cave at one point and may start to grope for clues as to why I have become so distant. (Unless she is completely indifferent to us not talking today). How do I react when she does contact me next?
Any feedback greatly appreciated, thanks!
