pierce_r what do you say to them when they they......."Wht ru up 2?"
I tell them exactly what I'm doing. If I'm not doing anything (which is rare), I find something that's happening, and then tell them I'm doing it, or planning to, and invite them along, and then go do it. And if they don't show up, f*ck 'em; I'm out doing something and I might meet girls when I'm there. It's a win-win.
"Preparing dinner, funny you should ask. Be here at seven and bring a loaf of crusty bread."
"Heading out on a six-miler around the lake. You think you can keep up?"
"I'm working on my boat. Come hand me tools and I'll make steaks on the grill at sunset."
"Dinner with a client at 7. Meet me for drinks at (wherever) at 10."
"Seeing a buddy's band tonight. They play at 9. Be there at 8. Tell the guy at the door you're a friend of mine, you'll be on the list." (I'll then tell the doorman, and pay her cover in advance.)
"My buddy's kid has a football game tonight. You should come. I'll have cocoa and Fireball."
"Art gallery opening. Free wine and pseudo-intellectual bullsh*t galore. You should come."
"A buddy is doing a poetry slam. But I'm gonna get hammered at this tequila bar around the corner first. I can't handle that sh*t sober. Get out here."
Etc. You get the idea.
And one text. That's it. She may reply to confirm, and I'll send a "Great," or whatever. But that's absolutely it. If she texts to say she's late, or flakes, or whatever, hey; I'm already doing something. Her loss.
When women realize you actually do these things, your phone starts blowing up. You're interesting and fun to be with. You're the one they call.
Edited to add:
One, I use proper spelling, punctuation, and grammar; what you see above would be exactly what I text. I'm 45 years old, I have an MBA, and I'm a published author. F*ck shorthand. Maybe they think it's quaint but it's my experience that you always look like an idiot trying to be something you're not.
Two, I always invite them along. More to the point, I tell them to come along, I don't ask if they'd like to come or ask them what they'd like to do. I tell them where to be, when to be there, and what to do when they get there. A little bit of assertiveness goes a very long way.
Three, if I'm out with another girl, or going out with another girl, I tell them so. "Taking a friend to (whatever)." They may not text again for awhile, but they will text again.
