Dating Multiple Women

[bigneil]

I have never been someone who wanted to date multiple women at the same time.

The reason is that I always like one the best and prefer to be with that one. I can't develop much with more than one girl at once.

However, it seems that these days it's easy come, easy go. Girls don't seem to have any loyalty anymore, even if you have sex with them. It used to be that if a girl "liked" you (which you'd normally hear from a friend), you could do no wrong for about a whole a month, at least. You could literally make every blunder and it didn't matter. Back then, if she kissed you it meant something, and if you had sex, she would almost always get attached. Nowadays, if she hasn't had sex with you in the last 24 hours, or if she cancels one date, or even if she leaves your bedroom in a huff, you have to assume she might be gone forever.

Even if you have multiple girls in your life, I find that once one relationship goes south, they often all fall like dominos. Then you'll have a slump, and you have to work to improve, and then you'll have several options all appear at once again. This is like picking up the last domino after they fell and having the inertia of lifting the whole pile.

Also, I've never been able to play the jealousy game very effectively. It seems to backfire a lot. It works early on, but then I either piss them off talking about other women or I have no other women and develop oneitis. So that's a crappy situation also.

How do you cope with dating multiple women at once?

 

[AllDay85]

You've been conditioned since birth to think monogamy is the way to go. The best way to cope with dating multiple women, is to date multiple women. Once you actually do it, it gets easier and is a lot better, as women actually like you and want to date you. Takes a while to break the conditioning of the feminine imperative though.

 

[bigneil]

So do you keep the other women secret from each other, or do you openly tell them about them the other girls? Done correctly, telling them about the other girls in a humorous way can help, but sometimes that blows up. Example "I would have called you last night but you know the whole groupie thing. It took me until 2am to get rid of those two". Also, some girls like it and other girls hate it.

 

[Alvafe]

keep it a secret, if asked do open ended asnwers or just smile when they ask something you don't want to answer.

I did this sometimes when I was not dating anyone else, I let then guess I was, be it friends, or girls I'm dating

 

[TheProspect]

I don't think you need to necessarily keep anything a secret if you are just dating and it's clear that you are not exclusive with anybody.

However, for a lot of girls, bedding them down is similar to making a commitment to them. And if you don't establish some sort of agreement beforehand that there's no strings attached, things can get hairy pretty fast, especially when you have no plans of sticking around. This would then be treading on territory of harming someone else's feelings. Whether you're okay with doing that is your own moral decision and I won't criticize it. To each their own.

I have never been someone who wanted to date multiple women at the same time.

Dig deep within yourself and ask yourself why you feel this way.

If this has something to do with your personal morals or principles, then there is nothing wrong with this. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

If this involves lack of personal value, fear, onenitus, or anything related to those, I would consider giving dating multiple women a try.

I agree with what Allday85 said. The only way to cope with dating multiple women is to date multiple women. It's like lifting weights for the first time, your muscles are shaky and you don't know what the hell you're doing. Like any skill, repetition is key. Just start doing it, simple as that.

The fact that you have options (whether for FWB or a LTR) will give off an aura of confidence and indifference, women find this attractive because they crave your attention.

Go with your instinct, but never settle for less.

 

[bigneil]

Tonight I had a date with the second girl in two nights. She was honestly the most beautiful woman I ever had a date with. Wow. How can I think about going back to the other one now?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Tonight I had a date with the second girl in two nights. She was honestly the most beautiful woman I ever had a date with. Wow. How can I think about going back to the other one now?

Other than her beauty what does she bring to the table and how does she treat you?

 

[Bible_Belt]

How do you cope with dating multiple women at once?

Getting over pedestal issues is the first step.

 

[old_skoolr]

Be honest in what you want and tell them directly that this is nothing serious.

If they ask is there other girls, say yes, but don't brag.

Call other plates your friend. For ex. "Can't see you Wednesday, catching up with a friend."

Give attention when given attention.

Never see each girl more then once a week.

Never talk/call/message/contact each girl more then once or twice a week.

Never see them on weekends, weekends are your time to party and let loose.

Never play the jealousy card, that's a women's game, your above that. Also a sign of immaturity.

Above all, stay in control.

 

[bigneil]

To clarify, I'm actually good at dating multiple women, building harems in TX, NY, CA and GA (failing miserably in OK) but I've never been able to have sex with multiple women and have it be ongoing. One turns into a relationship and I'm not orgy guy.

In the past 5 days I've had 7 beautiful women write to me, 4 on Valentine's Day. One is an ex, and one is a new girl. I could probably have sex with 3 of them this week, but that always seems shady to me. But that's probably how girls have been all along, because they can.

 

[bigneil]

Other than her beauty what does she bring to the table and how does she treat you?

Things I like about this girl:

• She reminds me of the first beautiful women of my life. My mother, the first pretty girl in the neighborhood, and Marcia Brady, all in one.
  
• I've never dated a girl with her sign.
  
• When I'm sitting next to her there is a bonding feeling, like playing house when I was 6.
  
• We had love at first sight when I met her.
  
• She's sweet, has a great Alabama accent, comes from a small farm town, loves her family, and knows how to show gratitude.
  
• She's beautiful with no makeup.
  
• She has some dumb (small) tattoos but likes that I make fun of them and wants to have them removed.
  
• After our dates she sends thank-you notes and will write things like "that is the sweetest, most thoughtful and generous thing anyone has ever done for me!!!".
  
• She'll say things like "I want to be a good wife and good mother and good lover". What a concept.
  
• She hasn't put out after 3 dates, but wasn't cold either.
  
• She was never married but was engaged and has had a broken heart, so she can feel.
  
• She still has the ability to pair bond.
  
• She is 29 and has entrepreneurial ideas.
• She is extremely punctual.
• She comes from a family in the restaurant business so understands hard work.

I really don't expect women to earn money. I waited this long so I could earn enough for two. I want a smart, sweet and especially feminine woman. Sending women off to the workforce makes them masculine.

 

[Baggio86]

If you cannot date multiple girls at once, then you're still yet to be unplugged from the false reality that society has conditioned you in to believing.

Most of the girls you're seeing, or contemplating seeing, are seeing multiple guys... you think they care?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

How do you cope with dating multiple women at once?

Getting over pedestal issues is the first step.

Possibly diving into this endevour of multi dating will be a progressive step in eliminating the view of pedastals.

 

[skinnyguy]

My question is, how do you only date one woman at once