I'm about to break up with my girlfriend and even though she's kinda crazy, I know I made a lot of mistakes and I'd like to use this to learn for the future.
When we first started dating she'd mention other guys being attractive and stuff like that. I would usually just brush it off. I mean I didn't want to come off as being insecure, we weren't a couple yet or anything, even though it did bother me a little. It was more confusion than anything else; not really knowing why she would say these things around a guy she's starting to date.
Fast forward a few months and we're a couple. She still does that and even more often than before. She's got tons of guy friends, see's them a lot and tells me about all the crazy parties she goes to with them. Now this is where I probably messed up big time. I still brush it off, act like I don't care. I do care though, it bothers me a lot and makes me really angry.
I have a really relaxed, detatched personality and I thought that was the right way to be with girls; to not get cought up in their games and be above it. But it seems like she's pushing me hard to react, get angry. She's even started to "laughingly" insult me in passing.
Am I supposed to get upset? Confront her? Is that what she wants? Or did I just find a really messed up girl?
I'm just really confused. I thought not being the jealous, reactive guy was the best way to act. The result in this case is that she just walks all over me.
When we first started dating she'd mention other guys being attractive and stuff like that. I would usually just brush it off. I mean I didn't want to come off as being insecure, we weren't a couple yet or anything, even though it did bother me a little. It was more confusion than anything else; not really knowing why she would say these things around a guy she's starting to date.
Fast forward a few months and we're a couple. She still does that and even more often than before. She's got tons of guy friends, see's them a lot and tells me about all the crazy parties she goes to with them. Now this is where I probably messed up big time. I still brush it off, act like I don't care. I do care though, it bothers me a lot and makes me really angry.
I have a really relaxed, detatched personality and I thought that was the right way to be with girls; to not get cought up in their games and be above it. But it seems like she's pushing me hard to react, get angry. She's even started to "laughingly" insult me in passing.
Am I supposed to get upset? Confront her? Is that what she wants? Or did I just find a really messed up girl?
I'm just really confused. I thought not being the jealous, reactive guy was the best way to act. The result in this case is that she just walks all over me.