jeffthechef
Master Don Juan
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I've come to find that there are CURRENTLY about 4 or 5 real dj's on this hs forum. It took me a few months after finding this site to truly get over my oneitis. And a full year to genuinely understand what a don juan/alpha is.
I rarely post threads regarding advice because there are usually only 1 or 2 responses. But, I have some time right now and believe it would be most helpful now..as we are at the start of a new school year. My first day of school was this past thursday. After 2 days of school, I feel as though i have realized the truth of it all. The truth cannot be summed up in one sentence or paragraph as it must come to you slowly through personal experience.
Now, here are some things that I find many people, new people/afcs, on this hs forum constantly lack.
1. Confidence
2. Pride/Honor
3. True desire to improve/change
4. Understanding of the DJ bible and mission
I probably will not remember everything as i'm typing this..but i'll answer any questions that people post.
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Confidence
Yes, confidence is one of the most important traits a man must have in life. It's constantly being mentioned. At my school, every first day of school includes a school gathering of every grade. There are about 1600-1800 people sitting/waiting while everyone that is arriving comes from the opposite end.
I notice many people searching desperately for friends to walk up with so they don't appear as loners. Of course, it's fine if you meet up with some friends or wait for a friend. BUT, these people were WAY TOO INSECURE. For the first time, I tried to make sure i went up alone to see if i really did change since finding this site. AND IT WAS ****ING WONDERFUL. I OWNED THAT ****. I'm 6'2'' so i'm somewhat noticeable, and I COULD FEEL THE LADIES CHECKING ME OUT.
I have begun to look people in the eyes when speaking to them. I don't speak with that timid voice i used to have. I don't walk hunched over or lazily, dragging my feet. YOU NEED TO FEEL THAT TESTOSTERONE AND MASCULINITY. Whenever I'm sitting, standing, talking, walking, doing anything, I feel MANLY, SEXY, CONFIDENT.
What kept me from feeling so masculine and confident before was the sight of all the jocks/popular kids. I'm that guy who is friends with some people from every group because I strongly dislike cliques. I saw these guys and thought they were superior to me. I had no personal belief system but instead conformed to the reality imposed on me by society. I'll go deeper into realities in the solution portion of this thread.
Be confident. Feel the testosterone and exhibit masculinity, which should be no problem. WOMEN WANT MEN WHO ARE MASCULINE. MASCULINE MEN GO WITH FEMININE WOMEN. Now, being masculine doesn't make you a superior man (i'll explain superiority in the solution portion), but it is still important. Some masculine celebrities (only examples people on this forum would recognize..i'm not a big fan of celebrities and gossip ****)..
Lebron James, Kanye, Pdiddy, Brad pitt, 50 Cent, Bruce Lee, Chuck Norris, Cristiano Ronaldo, Ray Lewis, Brian Urlacher...I dont give a **** if you dislike rap, football, etc...the point is, they exhibit masculinity. They speak with force and clarity. They know what they want in life and put much effort into their work. They have passion, drive, direction..They are confident and masculine men. Watch an interview or movie and you'll notice their disposition.
SO ****ING HANDLE YOUR ****. Get those numbers. Get the outings. Get the action. Who or what the **** is stopping you..besides yourself?
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Pride/Honor
**** MAN. Have some pride/dignity/honor. Stop letting women rule your life. Don't let them bleed their emotional troubles all over you. Don't let them treat you like subservient beings. Don't succumb to their irrational wishes. Don't be that AFC. Be a man and stand up for yourself. These traits sort of coincide with confidence...Wear that pride on your chest. Honor your parents who hope for you to grow up and become a man. LET EVERYBODY AROUND YOU KNOW THAT YOU'RE THE KING. YOU RUN THAT ****. You're the boss. You're the commander. You're the chief. YOU ARE THE ALPHA.
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Desire to change
Ok. Time to lighten up the tone. I find that many of my friends who come upon this site as AFC's have trouble wanting to improve. They think that their methods are fine and will work. AND THEY ****ING HAVEN'T. One of my closest friends is simply too lazy to read. AND THAT IS ****ING BULL****. If you aren't willing to spend a fair amount of time reading for the sake of self-improvement, YOU HAVE MUCH TO LEARN. Now, many new people here have read the dj bible. But they consistently come back to this forum after their days in the world with the same problems. And, these problems are all regarding: TECHNIQUE! TECHNIQUE! TECHNIQUE! I don't blame you too much though; I often had the same questions when i first started. So here's some advice...
_________________________
Understanding of the DJ BIBLE AND MISSION
STOP FOCUSING ON TECHNIQUE AND START FOCUSING ON INNER DEVELOPMENT. If you exhibit alpha characteristics, women could give a flying **** if you knew all the tricks. You know why...BECAUSE WHEN YOU BECOME AN ALPHA, YOU CEASE TO FOLLOW AFC METHODS AND BEGIN TO INTERACT WITH WOMEN THE ALPHA WAY, WHICH IS ESSENTIALLY THE DJ WAY.
So STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP focusing on how to ask a certain girl for her number or how to kiss close or how to anything close. When you start focusing on how to be an ALPHA, you will cease to have these minor questions. Start asking how you can improve on inner qualities. Though many of you already know how, yet cease to put in the effort. And if you think you are already an alpha yet still ask minor questions regarding women/technique, you're not an alpha. Of course, alphas sometimes have questions but these questions are truly worth asking.
The mission of this site is to encourage you to develop your inner self, which solves all your women problems.
I rarely post threads regarding advice because there are usually only 1 or 2 responses. But, I have some time right now and believe it would be most helpful now..as we are at the start of a new school year. My first day of school was this past thursday. After 2 days of school, I feel as though i have realized the truth of it all. The truth cannot be summed up in one sentence or paragraph as it must come to you slowly through personal experience.
Now, here are some things that I find many people, new people/afcs, on this hs forum constantly lack.
1. Confidence
2. Pride/Honor
3. True desire to improve/change
4. Understanding of the DJ bible and mission
I probably will not remember everything as i'm typing this..but i'll answer any questions that people post.
____________
Confidence
Yes, confidence is one of the most important traits a man must have in life. It's constantly being mentioned. At my school, every first day of school includes a school gathering of every grade. There are about 1600-1800 people sitting/waiting while everyone that is arriving comes from the opposite end.
I notice many people searching desperately for friends to walk up with so they don't appear as loners. Of course, it's fine if you meet up with some friends or wait for a friend. BUT, these people were WAY TOO INSECURE. For the first time, I tried to make sure i went up alone to see if i really did change since finding this site. AND IT WAS ****ING WONDERFUL. I OWNED THAT ****. I'm 6'2'' so i'm somewhat noticeable, and I COULD FEEL THE LADIES CHECKING ME OUT.
I have begun to look people in the eyes when speaking to them. I don't speak with that timid voice i used to have. I don't walk hunched over or lazily, dragging my feet. YOU NEED TO FEEL THAT TESTOSTERONE AND MASCULINITY. Whenever I'm sitting, standing, talking, walking, doing anything, I feel MANLY, SEXY, CONFIDENT.
What kept me from feeling so masculine and confident before was the sight of all the jocks/popular kids. I'm that guy who is friends with some people from every group because I strongly dislike cliques. I saw these guys and thought they were superior to me. I had no personal belief system but instead conformed to the reality imposed on me by society. I'll go deeper into realities in the solution portion of this thread.
Be confident. Feel the testosterone and exhibit masculinity, which should be no problem. WOMEN WANT MEN WHO ARE MASCULINE. MASCULINE MEN GO WITH FEMININE WOMEN. Now, being masculine doesn't make you a superior man (i'll explain superiority in the solution portion), but it is still important. Some masculine celebrities (only examples people on this forum would recognize..i'm not a big fan of celebrities and gossip ****)..
Lebron James, Kanye, Pdiddy, Brad pitt, 50 Cent, Bruce Lee, Chuck Norris, Cristiano Ronaldo, Ray Lewis, Brian Urlacher...I dont give a **** if you dislike rap, football, etc...the point is, they exhibit masculinity. They speak with force and clarity. They know what they want in life and put much effort into their work. They have passion, drive, direction..They are confident and masculine men. Watch an interview or movie and you'll notice their disposition.
SO ****ING HANDLE YOUR ****. Get those numbers. Get the outings. Get the action. Who or what the **** is stopping you..besides yourself?
_______________________________________
Pride/Honor
**** MAN. Have some pride/dignity/honor. Stop letting women rule your life. Don't let them bleed their emotional troubles all over you. Don't let them treat you like subservient beings. Don't succumb to their irrational wishes. Don't be that AFC. Be a man and stand up for yourself. These traits sort of coincide with confidence...Wear that pride on your chest. Honor your parents who hope for you to grow up and become a man. LET EVERYBODY AROUND YOU KNOW THAT YOU'RE THE KING. YOU RUN THAT ****. You're the boss. You're the commander. You're the chief. YOU ARE THE ALPHA.
_____
Desire to change
Ok. Time to lighten up the tone. I find that many of my friends who come upon this site as AFC's have trouble wanting to improve. They think that their methods are fine and will work. AND THEY ****ING HAVEN'T. One of my closest friends is simply too lazy to read. AND THAT IS ****ING BULL****. If you aren't willing to spend a fair amount of time reading for the sake of self-improvement, YOU HAVE MUCH TO LEARN. Now, many new people here have read the dj bible. But they consistently come back to this forum after their days in the world with the same problems. And, these problems are all regarding: TECHNIQUE! TECHNIQUE! TECHNIQUE! I don't blame you too much though; I often had the same questions when i first started. So here's some advice...
_________________________
Understanding of the DJ BIBLE AND MISSION
STOP FOCUSING ON TECHNIQUE AND START FOCUSING ON INNER DEVELOPMENT. If you exhibit alpha characteristics, women could give a flying **** if you knew all the tricks. You know why...BECAUSE WHEN YOU BECOME AN ALPHA, YOU CEASE TO FOLLOW AFC METHODS AND BEGIN TO INTERACT WITH WOMEN THE ALPHA WAY, WHICH IS ESSENTIALLY THE DJ WAY.
So STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP focusing on how to ask a certain girl for her number or how to kiss close or how to anything close. When you start focusing on how to be an ALPHA, you will cease to have these minor questions. Start asking how you can improve on inner qualities. Though many of you already know how, yet cease to put in the effort. And if you think you are already an alpha yet still ask minor questions regarding women/technique, you're not an alpha. Of course, alphas sometimes have questions but these questions are truly worth asking.
The mission of this site is to encourage you to develop your inner self, which solves all your women problems.