Manure Spherian
Master Don Juan
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I believe this is true in a certain context. However I doubt most on here actually believe this (I believe you do) considering the investment and thought they give into being with women. If having a woman was some take-it-or-leave-it thing, then why invest so many resources into not only finding one but remaining with one?People don't fear being alone, they fear loneliness.
However, you can feel terribly lonely in a crowd. Or a bad marriage.
If your happiness depends on another human being, you will become disappointed and you will feel more lonely than he that doesn't depend on another person for his happiness.
I once read from an author who I believe is wise not to mention, “Nothing makes a man angrier than lack of a woman.” While I think some here are way, way too dependent on women—I mean, act like they’re going to die without one for a month or so, perhaps less—I generally agree with that statement. For men who say women are just the icing on the cake, I challenge them to get rid of their women, stop pursuing women, see how they feel in a year, and then continue on like that. Perhaps they can cease all ties with friends (for those who have them) and family too.
With that said, I do believe there is some brutal gynocentrism on here.
One guy on here said none of his happiness depends on other people. For a tiny minority of people, I believe this to be true. For others I believe it is tough-guy, edgelord, stoic mumbo jumbo. For a time in my life, I suffered from extreme depression and loneliness. I once told my friend that during that time, “I felt like I was dying.” Granted I was not actually dying and depression manifests in some cases in warped thinking, but that’s what I felt in some indescribable way. Now I’m never alone and sometimes wish I could get more alone time, as my kids, wife, friends, and family members constantly want my time. I even had coworkers begging me to stay at my job that I was going to leave had it not been for a substantial raise. I gladly take this condition over being lonely. I still have my individual pursuits and interests in all this.
In conclusion I actually don’t think fearing winding up alone as a bitter old man is completely unreasonable.