jeffthechef
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When I first started on this site, I was an AFC who thought way too much...but you want to reach that point, where you have no questions or thoughts about girls and "dating."
"Alphas" are good to consider...you see them portrayed in movies...and perhaps there are a few at your school.
When considering Alphas, it comes down to 3 points (at least the only 3 I can think of right now)
1. Thinking is not natural. When we were all little boys, we didn't think that much outside of class. We went to school, found reading and learning fun, had recess and ran around. Went home and enjoyed time with our parents. watched cartoons. did simple ****. AND WE FCKING LOVED IT.
Then we started to get older. We became consumers and targets of media/corporations/businesses. We developed EGOS. EGO=ENEMY
When life was simple when we were young, it was because we were ego-less. We didn't think about materialistic or physical things really...we just wanted to have fun and learn. We didn’t have negatives thoughts of inferiority.
Now, we're in high school, and our egos have been fed and injected with steroids...we think..."we're not strong enough. not big enough. not attractive enough. not smart enough. not funny enough. NOT GOOD ENOUGH" EGO=THINK=ANALYZE...ego leads to thoughts about beliefs regarding stupid things that have no value
Alphas don't think about girls or how to interact with them. They're like little guys who "treat girls like they're little girls." That was a quote from the POOK. When an AFC sees a girl he's interested, he thinks about how he looks and how she looks. Then he thinks about how to approach her and everything regarding that approach. Then he doesn't approach because he was too busy thinking about approaching. Then he goes home analyzing his nonexistent approach. Then he's in bed, analyzing the approach a little more. Then he dreams about how the approach would have went. Then he wakes up hoping to at least see her beautiful face. Then he finally sees her within approaching distance. AND HE DOES THE SAME FCKING **** AGAIN. STOP THINKING. WHEN YOU'RE NOT IN CLASS OR STUDYING, DON'T THINK. JUST FCKING DO IT.
Alphas are ego-less. True Alphas will not go around thinking, "I'm the alpha male here. I'm the man." All that is bla bla non-sense bull****...Alphas are those laidback guys who are enthusiastic about life and aren't afraid of expressing themselves and their emotions.
2. One characteristic of an Alpha is fearlessness. I am pointing this one out, specifically because fear was one of my biggest obstacles.
I have a teacher. She's the most intense teacher any student could have. Some students, a lot actually, have cried after being reprimanded by her, from 6'2 255 linebackers to "nerds." The funny thing is, she's maybe 60-70 years old, probably less than 100 pounds and barely 5 ft tall. She'll yell at you when you make the same mistake twice or are irresponsible or for most things other teachers let slide. This is the reason most average hs students dislike her. They think she's too serious and yells too much. I love this teacher though, in a student/teacher type of way of course. She's passionate about teaching her students. She genuinely cares about her students and wants them to be prepared for the "real world." She has taught me several lessons. But the one i will discuss here, is about fear.
Most students are scared enough of being wrong, especially in front of the class. But, they're even more scared to be wrong in her class because they know what might come of it. Here's a lesson from her, from memory:
"Why are you afraid of being wrong? I really dislike it when students are shy and afraid of being wrong. How can you go through life afraid of being wrong? Life is an opportunity to explore and discover. Don't be afraid of being wrong in this class when you try to discover the content. I have more respect for students who explore and might be wrong than for students who are afraid and only want to get by. Those students are wasting their time and lives. They never try AND put no effort into their lives. They might as well stay at home and sleep for the rest of their lives. If you want to succeed in my class, you need to stop being afraid of anything, being wrong or rejection or "failing." Your life can be GREAT if you want it to be. But you will need to be fearless."
I realized that my biggest problem was fear. I was afraid of rejection, which is common for most AFC's. Now, I know how stupid my fear was. I see the same girls i was afraid of talking to and don't know why i was afraid. If they reject me, what's so bad? You MUST be fearless before you realize this too, that your fears are DUMB AND UNNECESSARY.
3. Alphas aren't special really. They're basically MEN. They have the most basic mindset. You Woman + Me Man = Fun
An alpha sees a pretty girl. He walks up towards her. He greets her, with a little kino. He makes small talk, c+f/jokes around with some sexual innuendos. She's laughing and smiling. He’s making great eye contact and conversation and kino. HE, HE, HE ends the interaction because HE HAS HIS OWN LIFE (though you don't have to end every interaction...I’m just making this point because I see it too often...guys love the moment so much that they keep going until the lady decides to end it...and girls begin to realize he doesn’t have anything better to do, she knows, she has him hooked). This moment/interaction was no better to him than studying for his math test or talking with his mom earlier that morning. LIFE IS GOOD, EVERY PART OF IT. He gives equal value to all and everything. He receives equal enjoyment from all things.
As he walks off, the HB, still standing there, realizes that this man has his **** together.
He goes off to class, enjoys every second of it because he's learning new **** that he never knew before. On the way home, he enjoys the nature that surrounds him. Sings and dances to the music on the radio, even perhaps begins to talk to the radio dj like he's really there talking to him. He's happy. He gets home. He's happy to see his parents and asks them how their day went for two reasons. One, he's genuinely interested. Two, they appreciate it. He tells them how his day went BECAUSE PARENTS REALLY ARE INTERESTED IN KNOWING WHAT'S GOING ON IN THEIR CHILD/CHILDRENS' LIVES, if you don’t think so right now, you'll realize this once you have your own children. Then he does some homework/works out/washes up...then he has dinner with his family and they have a fun and interesting conversation. He puts his dishes in the sink and perhaps, if he has time, helps his parents clean the dishes. He proceeds to finish any business. If it's not too late (sleep is fcking rare in hs for me at least), he decides to go on SS to answer some questions. Goes on AIM for a short while to catch up with some friends, but not too long. Then he goes to bed happy and thoughtless. He has the best fcking dream. He wakes up excited for the day. Sings and dances to the radio. Takes a shower, eats breakfast. He realizes that high school is short, that he's off to college soon…that he'll miss his parents and those seemingly insignificant moments that turn out to be the ones you remember and all that they do for him on a daily basis. So he tells them he loves them and that he hopes they have a great day. He might give his dad a hug or more likely a pat on the back. He hugs his mom and might give her a quick kiss on the cheek. Then he's off to school. AND HE HAS ANOTHER FCKING AWESOME DAY.
He never thinks about life, instead he lives it. And, he does realize how extraordinary life is. Beautiful nature. Interesting people who have their own lives/stories. New things to learn. Girls to have fun with. Buddies to chill with.
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I realize that I love my parents and could be a better son. I realize that a certain expensive item probably won’t make me as happy as I think it would. I realize that girls are fun but certainly aren’t the most important thing in life. I realize that my relationship with male buddies is just as important. I realize that school is more fun than I believe sometimes. I realize that every guy on this forum has his own life. Each of us is dealing with our own “issues.” Yet, we all probably have more in common. We probably have similar types of girls in our lives. We’re probably experiencing the same things.
I think this site has helped me A LOT. I used to dislike school and didn’t see daily life as anything special. I only saw books, girls, work, people, buildings, trees, cars, etc. But now, I’m almost always on a natural high. I’m amazed by the simplest things and smile/laugh at everything. I realize, with the help of my English classes and this site, that I was thinking too much. Now, I don’t think about things as much/at all. I see the beauty in everything and try to make every moment my greatest moment.
Being a DJ/Alpha, in regards to the ladies, is the simplest ****. Make good eye contact. Approach new women. Talk to the ladies and have fun. Use kino. Get numbers. Hang out. Escalate. She’s not interested? Who gives a fck, she can just be a friend then. You should already have other girls of interest dying for a chance to hang out with you because you’re an Alpha. You’re one of the few Great Catches. It’s that simple.
Work on yourself and your life = Ladies come to you
Realize the beauty in your daily life…in the things you never paid much attention to like walking to school or getting books from your locker.
Make friends with everyone, and approach all the girls you want.
Always seek improvement and perfection because it DOES exist when you try your best.
Live your life without fears and inhibitions.
Stop thinking. Love everything.
Life is simply Good.
"Alphas" are good to consider...you see them portrayed in movies...and perhaps there are a few at your school.
When considering Alphas, it comes down to 3 points (at least the only 3 I can think of right now)
1. Thinking is not natural. When we were all little boys, we didn't think that much outside of class. We went to school, found reading and learning fun, had recess and ran around. Went home and enjoyed time with our parents. watched cartoons. did simple ****. AND WE FCKING LOVED IT.
Then we started to get older. We became consumers and targets of media/corporations/businesses. We developed EGOS. EGO=ENEMY
When life was simple when we were young, it was because we were ego-less. We didn't think about materialistic or physical things really...we just wanted to have fun and learn. We didn’t have negatives thoughts of inferiority.
Now, we're in high school, and our egos have been fed and injected with steroids...we think..."we're not strong enough. not big enough. not attractive enough. not smart enough. not funny enough. NOT GOOD ENOUGH" EGO=THINK=ANALYZE...ego leads to thoughts about beliefs regarding stupid things that have no value
Alphas don't think about girls or how to interact with them. They're like little guys who "treat girls like they're little girls." That was a quote from the POOK. When an AFC sees a girl he's interested, he thinks about how he looks and how she looks. Then he thinks about how to approach her and everything regarding that approach. Then he doesn't approach because he was too busy thinking about approaching. Then he goes home analyzing his nonexistent approach. Then he's in bed, analyzing the approach a little more. Then he dreams about how the approach would have went. Then he wakes up hoping to at least see her beautiful face. Then he finally sees her within approaching distance. AND HE DOES THE SAME FCKING **** AGAIN. STOP THINKING. WHEN YOU'RE NOT IN CLASS OR STUDYING, DON'T THINK. JUST FCKING DO IT.
Alphas are ego-less. True Alphas will not go around thinking, "I'm the alpha male here. I'm the man." All that is bla bla non-sense bull****...Alphas are those laidback guys who are enthusiastic about life and aren't afraid of expressing themselves and their emotions.
2. One characteristic of an Alpha is fearlessness. I am pointing this one out, specifically because fear was one of my biggest obstacles.
I have a teacher. She's the most intense teacher any student could have. Some students, a lot actually, have cried after being reprimanded by her, from 6'2 255 linebackers to "nerds." The funny thing is, she's maybe 60-70 years old, probably less than 100 pounds and barely 5 ft tall. She'll yell at you when you make the same mistake twice or are irresponsible or for most things other teachers let slide. This is the reason most average hs students dislike her. They think she's too serious and yells too much. I love this teacher though, in a student/teacher type of way of course. She's passionate about teaching her students. She genuinely cares about her students and wants them to be prepared for the "real world." She has taught me several lessons. But the one i will discuss here, is about fear.
Most students are scared enough of being wrong, especially in front of the class. But, they're even more scared to be wrong in her class because they know what might come of it. Here's a lesson from her, from memory:
"Why are you afraid of being wrong? I really dislike it when students are shy and afraid of being wrong. How can you go through life afraid of being wrong? Life is an opportunity to explore and discover. Don't be afraid of being wrong in this class when you try to discover the content. I have more respect for students who explore and might be wrong than for students who are afraid and only want to get by. Those students are wasting their time and lives. They never try AND put no effort into their lives. They might as well stay at home and sleep for the rest of their lives. If you want to succeed in my class, you need to stop being afraid of anything, being wrong or rejection or "failing." Your life can be GREAT if you want it to be. But you will need to be fearless."
I realized that my biggest problem was fear. I was afraid of rejection, which is common for most AFC's. Now, I know how stupid my fear was. I see the same girls i was afraid of talking to and don't know why i was afraid. If they reject me, what's so bad? You MUST be fearless before you realize this too, that your fears are DUMB AND UNNECESSARY.
3. Alphas aren't special really. They're basically MEN. They have the most basic mindset. You Woman + Me Man = Fun
An alpha sees a pretty girl. He walks up towards her. He greets her, with a little kino. He makes small talk, c+f/jokes around with some sexual innuendos. She's laughing and smiling. He’s making great eye contact and conversation and kino. HE, HE, HE ends the interaction because HE HAS HIS OWN LIFE (though you don't have to end every interaction...I’m just making this point because I see it too often...guys love the moment so much that they keep going until the lady decides to end it...and girls begin to realize he doesn’t have anything better to do, she knows, she has him hooked). This moment/interaction was no better to him than studying for his math test or talking with his mom earlier that morning. LIFE IS GOOD, EVERY PART OF IT. He gives equal value to all and everything. He receives equal enjoyment from all things.
As he walks off, the HB, still standing there, realizes that this man has his **** together.
He goes off to class, enjoys every second of it because he's learning new **** that he never knew before. On the way home, he enjoys the nature that surrounds him. Sings and dances to the music on the radio, even perhaps begins to talk to the radio dj like he's really there talking to him. He's happy. He gets home. He's happy to see his parents and asks them how their day went for two reasons. One, he's genuinely interested. Two, they appreciate it. He tells them how his day went BECAUSE PARENTS REALLY ARE INTERESTED IN KNOWING WHAT'S GOING ON IN THEIR CHILD/CHILDRENS' LIVES, if you don’t think so right now, you'll realize this once you have your own children. Then he does some homework/works out/washes up...then he has dinner with his family and they have a fun and interesting conversation. He puts his dishes in the sink and perhaps, if he has time, helps his parents clean the dishes. He proceeds to finish any business. If it's not too late (sleep is fcking rare in hs for me at least), he decides to go on SS to answer some questions. Goes on AIM for a short while to catch up with some friends, but not too long. Then he goes to bed happy and thoughtless. He has the best fcking dream. He wakes up excited for the day. Sings and dances to the radio. Takes a shower, eats breakfast. He realizes that high school is short, that he's off to college soon…that he'll miss his parents and those seemingly insignificant moments that turn out to be the ones you remember and all that they do for him on a daily basis. So he tells them he loves them and that he hopes they have a great day. He might give his dad a hug or more likely a pat on the back. He hugs his mom and might give her a quick kiss on the cheek. Then he's off to school. AND HE HAS ANOTHER FCKING AWESOME DAY.
He never thinks about life, instead he lives it. And, he does realize how extraordinary life is. Beautiful nature. Interesting people who have their own lives/stories. New things to learn. Girls to have fun with. Buddies to chill with.
____________________
I realize that I love my parents and could be a better son. I realize that a certain expensive item probably won’t make me as happy as I think it would. I realize that girls are fun but certainly aren’t the most important thing in life. I realize that my relationship with male buddies is just as important. I realize that school is more fun than I believe sometimes. I realize that every guy on this forum has his own life. Each of us is dealing with our own “issues.” Yet, we all probably have more in common. We probably have similar types of girls in our lives. We’re probably experiencing the same things.
I think this site has helped me A LOT. I used to dislike school and didn’t see daily life as anything special. I only saw books, girls, work, people, buildings, trees, cars, etc. But now, I’m almost always on a natural high. I’m amazed by the simplest things and smile/laugh at everything. I realize, with the help of my English classes and this site, that I was thinking too much. Now, I don’t think about things as much/at all. I see the beauty in everything and try to make every moment my greatest moment.
Being a DJ/Alpha, in regards to the ladies, is the simplest ****. Make good eye contact. Approach new women. Talk to the ladies and have fun. Use kino. Get numbers. Hang out. Escalate. She’s not interested? Who gives a fck, she can just be a friend then. You should already have other girls of interest dying for a chance to hang out with you because you’re an Alpha. You’re one of the few Great Catches. It’s that simple.
Work on yourself and your life = Ladies come to you
Realize the beauty in your daily life…in the things you never paid much attention to like walking to school or getting books from your locker.
Make friends with everyone, and approach all the girls you want.
Always seek improvement and perfection because it DOES exist when you try your best.
Live your life without fears and inhibitions.
Stop thinking. Love everything.
Life is simply Good.