Zonatto's Journal of Progress

[zonatto]

Hey guys. It's about damn time i started posting here.
I found out about this place a full year ago, but didn't make an account and slowly paid less attention to it. That feels like a mistake now and i want to learn from here.

First, here's some info about me:

-I'm 15, a freshman in high school.
-5'8", about 160lbs. i'm bulking right now on Starting Strength
-3.7 GPA
-I used to draw a lot and play guitar. idk what happened
-I've never had a girlfriend, want one by the end of the year.
-Trying to improve myself, work on my confidence, social skills and sexuality.

My freshman year is halfway done and i feel like it could have been much better. Everyone says freshman year is the best year and i feel like everyone else is having fun.

My biggest problem is my social circle. I don't have a real 'crew' of go-to friends like everyone else, which makes me end up alone often. Most people's group consists of friends from middle school; my friends from middle school are either boring losers or have moved to a different crowd. I have trouble meeting new people to chill with because of this too. The beginning of the year i was pathetically lost with no bros, trying to squeeze into other people's groups before i realized i was an outsider to them. I didn't do football because i wanted to lift weights, so i missed out on being part of the jock crew (which one of my best bro's moved to) after they kept telling me to join football. Now i see why.

It feels like i wasted too much time trying to fit in with the popular kids when i should of been having fun. Feels like i'm missing out on something. Yeah, i'm an idiot. Help me learn.

On the bright side, I've improved my appearance and social skills plenty since a year ago (used to be ugly, nice-guy nerd). I dress better than a lot of the scrubby guys at my school and still am gettin' better in fashion. I've had 5/10 girls want to go out with me, but i never wanted to settle for them. I'm cool with some of the popular kids, mostly the girls.

In the short term i'm here to get better at conversation, confidence, being funny, making friends and flirting. For the long term, of course, is to be a Don Juan.

Please give me any advice you think would help and thanks a bunch for reading this GIANT post.

-zonatto

 

[ALevelUp]

The best way is to make your own social circle. I'm not sure whether your school year is divided up into 2 like mine (we have 2 semesters with 2 separate sets of classes), but if it is this is a great time to turn things around. My second semester is starting in a couple of weeks, for example, so a lot of people change their social circles during that transition.

Also a tip: Try not to stick with MOSTLY your middle school friends, it only limits you and keeps you in your comfort zone.

 

[zonatto]

The best way is to make your own social circle. I'm not sure whether your school year is divided up into 2 like mine (we have 2 semesters with 2 separate sets of classes), but if it is this is a great time to turn things around. My second semester is starting in a couple of weeks, for example, so a lot of people change their social circles during that transition.

Good idea. I actually am getting new electives next week and i'll be doing track in the spring. i can take advantage of those changes

 

[LearningSlowly]

Dude, if you like rap music, learn to freestyle. If you like making music, work on your instrument and join a band. If you like sports, work out and work really hard on your skills. This is the perfect time to make yourself well-rounded, do it as much as possible.

And the best way to get along with cool people is just to assume they like you. Handshakes, pats on the back, general physical friendliness. Guys and girls alike, physical friendliness. Make that the usual pattern of your life, and no one will ever think it's awkward or weird.

 

[AlexLefty]

And the best way to get along with cool people is just to assume they like you. Handshakes, pats on the back, general physical friendliness. Guys and girls alike, physical friendliness. Make that the usual pattern of your life, and no one will ever think it's awkward or weird.

Like I always say, befriend the most popular kids at your school!

My biggest problem is my social circle. I don't have a real 'crew' of go-to friends

Not a problem. When I first went to my hs, I was the only kid I knew, and had no friends day 1. I met kids in my classes and invited myself to sit with them at lunch. I slowly figured out who was cool and then chose who I wanted to befriend. Once you meet a group of friends, you really have to keep pushing if you want to get into their social circle. You can give them your number, and tell them to call you but they most likely won't, even if you're the coolest kid. This is mostly because they're too worried about their own lives to think about calling you. You must call them, and invite yourself over often. Two years ago for example, I would always call my friend Evan and go over his house. After I got done hanging out with a girl I called him and said: "Hey man what are you doing" - "Nothing bro just chillin at my house" - "Aight well I'm in your area i'll be over in a few" - "Im not doing anything" - "Ok" - "I'm probably just going to watch a movie with my family" - "Ok I'll be there in 5". Just keep prodding.

 

[LearningSlowly]

Like I always say, befriend the most popular kids at your school!


Not a problem. When I first went to my hs, I was the only kid I knew, and had no friends day 1. I met kids in my classes and invited myself to sit with them at lunch. I slowly figured out who was cool and then chose who I wanted to befriend. Once you meet a group of friends, you really have to keep pushing if you want to get into their social circle. You can give them your number, and tell them to call you but they most likely won't, even if you're the coolest kid. This is mostly because they're too worried about their own lives to think about calling you. You must call them, and invite yourself over often. Two years ago for example, I would always call my friend Evan and go over his house. After I got done hanging out with a girl I called him and said: "Hey man what are you doing" - "Nothing bro just chillin at my house" - "Aight well I'm in your area i'll be over in a few" - "Im not doing anything" - "Ok" - "I'm probably just going to watch a movie with my family" - "Ok I'll be there in 5". Just keep prodding.

Quoted the wrong person on the second one, but no worries.

I'm jealous that you got to go to a new school. I entirely screwed up my school situation for three years, it's been hard to recover at all. That's really good advice though. There are plenty of people who would love to be friends with you, they just don't think to invite you places yet. Gotta get yourself hanging around them outside of school. Guys first, it establishes how you view yourself and where you think you stand socially.

 

[zonatto]

any advice on flirting and attracting girls?

 

[DanZy]

Stupid question

 

[AlexLefty]

I'm jealous that you got to go to a new school. I entirely screwed up my school situation for three years, it's been hard to recover at all.

I know what you mean. My middle school was actually in my highschool, and I screwed that sh!t up for a while. I was cool in school, but never hung out with anyone outside of school. It took me 4 years at the same school to figure out what I posted above, and I feel like no matter how cool I am, my reputation is permanently damaged by how AFC I was in the first 4 years. Yet, maybe that's just our perception of ourselves. I talked with my friend about this, and he said he doesn't think anyone views me like that anymore. Maybe you're the one putting all the pressure on yourself.

 

[zonatto]

Stupid question

i guess, but i mean like smaller things that can be started right away

 

[LearningSlowly]

i guess, but i mean like smaller things that can be started right away

Play guitar constantly. Practice drawing female faces and bodies. Follow all the bootcamp challenges that are being posted every week.

(If you love me and think Im pretty then you should try rapping. Pleeeeaassee)

 

[ryanjevo]

i guess, but i mean like smaller things that can be started right away

Remember everything takes time. Nothing changes instantly. Check out the DJ Bible in the bottom right.
And do the bootcamp. It's simple and will really help you.

 

[zonatto]

(If you love me and think Im pretty then you should try rapping. Pleeeeaassee)

hahah i actually might try this. sometimes we have rap battles at school, they're fun and i'm not bad.

The bootcamp's definetely gonna help. thanks for the advice guys

 

[LearningSlowly]

hahah i actually might try this. sometimes we have rap battles at school, they're fun and i'm not bad.

The bootcamp's definetely gonna help. thanks for the advice guys

Yes, perfect. If you drive to school, load your ipod up with instrumentals or make 20 instrumental cds, and rap constantly. Literally one day doesn't go by where I'm not in my car, listening to a rapper, and thinking "I don't wanna hear the **** he's saying, I wanna listen to my own ****" and hitting that up. Once you can just keep going in a steady stream, that's the key to an addiction that will make you so cool.

(Same as musical instruments, I think. Once you can just jam and appreciate jamming, you'll end up really good.)

Alright so practice all the time, get as good as you think you're gonna be, write down a sick verse, edit and perfect the hell out of it, skype me with a spontaneous challenge and I'll freestyle and STILL school you. I dare you to take me up on this.

 

[Jack Wealthy]

Obviously you don't listen to the Beastie Boys: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qORYO0atB6g

 

[zonatto]

Obviously you don't listen to the Beastie Boys: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qORYO0atB6g

hahah nice video. i've only listened to two Beastie Boys albums but i love them so far.

Alright so practice all the time, get as good as you think you're gonna be, write down a sick verse, edit and perfect the hell out of it, skype me with a spontaneous challenge and I'll freestyle and STILL school you. I dare you to take me up on this.

that sounds AWESOME bro. when i get good enough i'll totally try to battle you!

 

[zonatto]

So i think i'll make this into a journal.

my circle's been getting much better recently and i've been feeling good.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=56120
this post basically confirmed what i've been thinking and i strongly agree with it.
now i'm working to increase testosterone and get better in touch with it.

The boot camp gives me something to aim for and force me to get out and try something.
honestly i'm a little nervous on what will come in the following weeks :woo: i know it'll only get harder from here.

 

[LearningSlowly]

Yay journals! There are so many lately!

(Yeah Im nervous for the bootcamp too. Especially my week )

 

[Mindgamez]

I's always nice to have new people joining sosuave. And yeah. We already hit the ground running for week 1. I can't imagine week 13! We are going to be pros.

Learning, make week 3 challenging!

 

[animebuck2]

why dont u just be honest with a girl? DONT BE DISGUSTING OR RUDE IN ANY WAY! but tell her how u feel..........if ur afraid of being shot down then sometimes when u see a girl look at her and see if she sees u too.... if she lookes ur way smile at her ....not a big goofy grin but a nice small smile! after a little while tell her u like her...... if she does shoot u down oh well move on..... XD