YouTuber does 100 ask outs to overcome fear of rejection

[GoodMan32]

Feel free to edit your original post with this "friend link" that bypasses the paywall:

Youtuber Asks Out 100 Girls to Overcome Fear of Rejection

An incredible social experiment that proves incels wrong…again!

medium.com

Thanks for posting my Medium article!

Another thing I meant to address: The part where you said a man with a 16% success rate in the real world might get zero matches on Tinder.

Brilliant point. It's been said before on this forum how Tinder is oversaturated, you need to be a Chad to succeed on Tinder, etc.

On the other hand, there are some benefits that come with real world approaches. The woman has to make the decision in real-time (and isn't able to hide behind a screen). Furthermore, even if the woman might get approached by 10 other men in-person same day, that's still not the same as Tinder, where the woman can swipe through thousands of men.

 

[GoodMan32]

You still so naive to think that's a dating app.

I'm aware Tinder is for sex.

Let's be honest though. A lot of times, when a man asks a woman out, he's really looking to get between her legs (but asking her out is more socially acceptable than asking her for sex)

 

[GoodMan32]

You're talking from experience, hmmm?

Somewhat. I had a short-lived relationship with a female classmate I approached in college. I dumped her after a week because she was too strange for me (which is saying a lot)

I exchanged numbers with a broad at a mini mart back when I was 23 (and had a meet-up a few days later, even if she brought a male chaperone, and even if she compared me to Jeffrey Dahmer)

I got my last date (not counting the speed dating events) from cold approaching a woman in which some other man wanted me to serve as his wingman (and I got a date from her)

Had I messaged any of these broads on a website/app, it's likely I never would have gotten a response.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Yes, it's amusing to me how many guys desire women that are 'hot' but detrimental to their health, wellbeing and sanity

The conventional wisdom around The Manosphere is that men in The Post-Industrial West have been feminized, but this couldn't be further from the truth: Most of us have been juvenalized, and this is apparent in the behavior you're describing: Being led around by your d-ck and libido, rather than evidence and one's values

 

[GoodMan32]

I remembered another comment that stood out (either on the YouTube vid or the article; I forget which one).

The commenter said something along the lines of "I have a pretty easy time talking to a woman platonically. As a result, anyone who knows me doesn't get why I struggle to get a woman. Here's why I struggle: Because when talking to a woman more-than-platonically, I fall apart"

The comment sounds like it could have been written by me.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Easier said than done.

I don't even know what the happy medium entails. All I know is that it exists (and I have a hard time finding it)

It is a mixture of re-reading the theory that I wrote and trial and error. Another technique you can use is shadowboxing since, after all, your nervous system cannot tell the difference between an imagined experience and a ‘real’ experience.

Our mistakes, failures, and even moments of humiliation are essential parts of the learning process. They are intended to be stepping stones and not permanent destinations. Once they've fulfilled their purpose, they should be let go. If we continue to dwell on them or feel guilty, constantly berating ourselves, we unintentionally make the mistake or failure the focus of our thoughts and memories, rather than moving past it.

 

[BaronOfHair]

And they scoff at the idea of maturity and emotional self-control, preferring to be emotionally volatile wrecks looking for a safe harbour.

The legacy of the counterculture of the late 1960s* still hasn't quite worn off


*"Although historians disagree over the influence of the counterculture on American politics and society, most describe the counterculture in similar terms. Virtually all authors—for example, on the right, Robert Bork in Slouching Toward Gomorrah: Modern Liberalism and American Decline (New York: Regan Books,1996) and, on the left, Todd Gitlin in The Sixties: Years of Hope, Days of Rage (New York: Bantam Books, 1987)—characterize the counterculture as self-indulgent, childish, irrational, narcissistic, and even dangerous"

Counterculture of the 1960s - Wikipedia

en.m.wikipedia.org

Red Pill Theology and the subculture around it hasn't been especially dangerous, nonetheless it's got the self-indulgent, childish, irrational, and narcissistic part down pat

 

[Vanderdonck]

Do you really think a cold approach that starts with asking for directions, is going to go somewhere? What are you going to do after she gives you the directions or says she doesn't know where xyz is? Unless she really likes you (ie in which case you would have got clear IOIs and green-lights before you did that and then she'll likely take over from there, etc...) it's really a waste of time. So anyone can approach a girl or talk to her or run game. It doesn't mean she's going to be interested in you.

Hey bro. Sounds like you just suffer from lack of confidence or motivation. I'm not going to break down how to talk to women here, there are threads and articles here for that. Also not going to do personal recaps. If you see it as a waste of time or don't want to do it, that's up to you.

 

[Vanderdonck]

We have no control over who in the vicinity might film us.

So what? Let them. I don't have time to be worried about every unlikely possibility. I could get hit by a bus, it's not going to stop me crossing the street. And that is more likely to happen than any of the random scenarios you guys are imagining.

I'll tell you what I told corrector. If you're unwilling or uninterested in having normal conversations with women or meeting new people in general, that's fine. I'm not here to motivate.

 

[Vanderdonck]

The thing is, even in the age of smartphones you can easily ask if they're locals and do they know a good restaurant nearby or which café might have the best coffee or is there a vintage shop nearby or... Only socially awkward nerds trust google to advise them.

Exactly, people are starved for conversation.

I think some dudes here watch too many staged Youtube videos and are looking for excuses to be miserable. Not going to indulge them any more.

I mean consider how ridiculous and egotistical this sounds. "What if the woman I talk to goes crazy ape sh1t, someone nearby records it, posts it, it goes viral and I lose my job?" Lol who TF do you think you are?

 

[Vanderdonck]

I wouldn't spend too much energy on them. Hopeless anyway, for every advice they get they have a hundred excuses why they can't do it or why it wouldn't work with them, because they are special snowflakes who need the whole world to adjust to them instead of them learning how to operate in the real world.


Extreme solipsism and doom scenarios.
The only problem for this board is that these morons appear 'knowledgeable' to beginners and they dispense regurgitated 'advice' they themselves cannot follow to appear like they are successful with women. And then you read posts full of cringe and socially uncalibrated behaviour.
And if you say something about them, they whine to moderators asking for you to be banned so they can spout their nonsense and weird threads without interference. Best to ignore them.

Agreed. Crabs in a barrel.

Luckily for those of us who are unafraid to push ourselves, there's a lot of pleasure to be enjoyed.

 

[GoodMan32]

So what? Let them. I don't have time to be worried about every unlikely possibility. I could get hit by a bus, it's not going to stop me crossing the street. And that is more likely to happen than any of the random scenarios you guys are imagining.

I'll tell you what I told corrector. If you're unwilling or uninterested in having normal conversations with women or meeting new people in general, that's fine. I'm not here to motivate.

I'm fine with having a normal discussion with a woman.

On a recent post, I mentioned that it's pretty easy for me to chat with a woman platonically. It's only when I attempt to take it more-than-platonic that I fall apart.

(Cue music for the song "I Fall Apart" by Post Malone)

 

[GoodMan32]

Exactly, people are starved for conversation.

I think some dudes here watch too many staged Youtube videos and are looking for excuses to be miserable. Not going to indulge them any more.

I mean consider how ridiculous and egotistical this sounds. "What if the woman I talk to goes crazy ape sh1t, someone nearby records it, posts it, it goes viral and I lose my job?" Lol who TF do you think you are?

Losing your job tends to be what happens if you get filmed being racist (or merely getting into a disagreement with another race)

Getting filmed acting "creepy" with a woman is less likely to lead to job loss. The main risk with getting filmed acting "creepy" is that the female population in your city will see the vid (if it goes viral). Then it'll be next-to-impossible for you to get a woman.

 

[GoodMan32]

Agreed. Crabs in a barrel.

Luckily for those of us who are unafraid to push ourselves, there's a lot of pleasure to be enjoyed.

Being myself=being a pariah to the ladies

 

[GoodMan32]

I recall it being said earlier in the thread that it would be interesting if the experiment were conducted stateside.

Voila, a YouTuber conducted the "ask out 100 broads" experiment in San Diego:

In addition to being in California (as opposed to Italy), some other differences between this vid and the vid on the OP:

• The guy in the California experiment is East Asian (unfortunately for him, East Asian men are toward the bottom of the SMV totem pole in western countries)
• The age spread. In the Italy experiment, some broads looked as old as 30. The broads in the San Diego experiment, on the other hand, were likely 22-23 at the oldest (with a majority being 18-21); it's a college setting after all. Another difference is the fact the broads in the San Diego experiment are more diverse (ethnically)

He got a 19/100 acceptance rate (higher acceptance rate than the guy in the Italy experiment). Pretty impressive, when you factor in everything he had working against him (The fact he's toward the bottom of the SMV totem pole, combined with the fact American-born broads of any race are some of the most stuck-up broads on earth)