You're not the type of guys I normally go for

[The College Guy]

I'm a recovering AFC guy. Anyways..I met this girl who i've known for about a little more than a year now....I've never really made a move on her or anything, just kinda more like buddies type...Remember I'm still afc kind of right now, but worse before..Although i was an afc, i never did try to buy her anything or show her that i liked her...It was more of like I put her in my friendzone...bc i just didn't have balls to ask her out....so anyhow...last week she aims me up and just starts talking.

then she admitted to me that she had a crush on me...

and says that " believe me though..you're not the type of guy i normally go for"...

I was suprised..I didn't know how to respond..I just said...jokingly online " i do have that effect on women"...Then that was it...

so what does that line really mean? does she really like me..or is just messing with me?

 

[speakeasy]

You should've also said, "yeah, and what's funny is that you're not the type I normally go for either".

 

[Stuntmann]

Don't talk to her online anymore. (further change your image)


Call her up, tell her if she wants to hang out with you at a specific time. No, to hell with her.



That line that she said means she wanted you to make move on her, but because you're an AFC, you never did. She kind of wanted you to make a move on her, give her that special attention. Crush? No. But they do get offended when you not make move on them.


It would suck to change all the things she already have perceived about you. IMO, she'd be flaky at best, and her response to you telling her if she wants to hang out, will probably be she's busy that time. But perhaps some other time. If that's the case, tell her straight up - over the phone - no. Then say bye and hang up. That action doesn't indicate that you're loosing her or anything, that's called pushing her away. Follow up with some time away from her, until she calls you back. But this time you're not asking her if she wants to tag along with you. Tell her you're watching movie at your place later tonight, does she wants to come over.

 

[The College Guy]

thanks for the help..I'll def..do that..

 

[Serialized3]

i never did try to buy her anything or show her that i liked her...It was more of like I put her in my friendzone

That's exactly why this:

then she admitted to me that she had a crush on me...

happened. What exactly did she say?

and says that " believe me though..you're not the type of guy i normally go for"...

so what does that line really mean? does she really like me..or is just messing with me?

I've heard that from some of my female friends that admitted they were attracted to me. It means that she's comfortable with you, and is somewhat attracted to you. She's probably not as sexually attracted to you than some "hot" guy from the gym, but you can always build a bonfire from a single spark.

Seeing that you are still AFC, Stuntmann is actually right eek in saying that she wanted you to make your move on her right then. You may or may not get another chance, but keep a positive mindset and assume that you will.

Now, I'd recommend that you keep consistent with how you've always acted around her, but escalate your kino. If she responds positively, keep escalating and see where it goes.

 

[Obsidian]

You're a f*cking moron. Wake up, chump. Ask the damn girl out before she gets pissed at you for blowing her off. Don't you have any ballz whatsoever? Read the damn Bible, n00b.

 

[Serialized3]

You're a f*cking moron. Wake up, chump. Ask the damn girl out before she gets pissed at you for blowing her off. Don't you have any ballz whatsoever? Read the damn Bible, n00b.

That's not helping. Everybody made mistakes when they were AFCs.

 

[Obsidian]

Umm, coddling this n00b isn't helping. If he's too lazy to read the damn Bible and can't even ask a girl out when she says she has a crush on him then he's HOPELESS. What's he looking for her to do -- strip naked and rape him?! You're a disgrace, College Guy.

 

[Serialized3]

Yeah but "n00bs" need confidence to believe that they can make something of a situation like this, and I believe if The College Guy stays positive and increases his kino and sexual expression, he actually has a decent chance of getting with his girl.

If she's known him for over a year, she more than likely won't just turn cold and lose all interest because he failed to make a move. He actually played it off rather ****y, like he could give a damn if she wanted him. That's actually pretty DJ.

How does reading the bible help with this specific situation? And how does questioning his "ballz" and calling him a "chump" help him?

You got this one, College Guy

 

[Obsidian]

nonsense

1. Ask her out 1-on-1
2. Take charge of the situation during the date
3. Keep things fun for both of you
4. Don't spend much money or all that much time
5. Initiate kino to PLEASE YOURSELF, not increase her interest

6. Repeat

None of this womanly, gradual stuff is gonna get you anywhere. If a woman comes right out and tells you she's attracted to you and you don't subsequently ask her out (not necessarily right at that instant), you have serious problems. Unless you're just not interested in her, which is probably what she thinks right now -- and what I'm starting to think

 

[backbreaker]

there is no such thing as Kinda AFC. AFCism is like herpes. you either have it or you don't

 

[Serialized3]

Nonsense? I've had situations almost exactly like this come up more than a dozen times!

1. "Asking out" and "Dating" is for chumps. Particularly in college. I say keep consistent with the way you've always acted, and just hang out casually, with no "romantic" or "relationship" type of intentions or expected outcomes!

2. Agreed

3. Keep consistent!

4. Initiate kino to please yourself? Guh? The goal of kino is to subtly communicate sexuality and escalate physical closeness.

 

[Kev07]

Should have just: "Oh? Then there really is no excuse why we do not have plans this friday!"

Call her up, make some plans.