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How would you respond to a woman who says something like this to you or withdraws sex to see how you react?

I feel like I'd call it manipulative behavior and walk out, but I'm not sure that's the best approach.
 

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Agree and amplify...

"Wow it took you this long to figure that out??? Guess I should stop taking you out places then, it might give you the wrong idea...."

Said with a sly smirk...

Never let them see you sweat
 

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I'd just be like "So you don't like it when we have sex?"
 

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Are you though? If she's right then currently you're the one looking for a way to manipulate.
 

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"no I'm using you for your money"
 

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The most efficient response is silence followed by your disappearance. The combination of silence and creating distance amplifies attraction but more importantly invokes her imagination and guilt (for "miscategorizing your intent"), where in most instances, she will feel that she insulted you and will backpedal for forgiveness/reconciliation.

Of course, if a girl had a significant need for LTRing eventually she will break free, but I find the above gives you the longest play, and in some cases, alters her LTR need in exchange not to lose you.
 

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I once told a girl I didn't love her and only liked fùcking her. We'd only fùcked a couple times at that point.

Didn't see much more of her after that lol. She was already fùcking someone else within a day or two.
 

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Respectfully disagree.

In my opinion there's nothing manipulative about it. In fact I suspect that many women would respect a guy for being candid and owning up to his masculinity.

In the same way that women manipulate men to provide money, men manipulate women to provide sex.

I will also say, in my opinion, that the most significant relationships are fueled by such manipulations. Not always a bad thing either.
No no no, I think you misunderstood. I took his question to be an attempt at avoiding being candid and owning up to his masculinity. I meant manipulation as in hiding behind deception and making it appear as if he's not just after sex, even if that's really all. Thus me asking him if her suspicion is true and pointing out that he's the one looking to manipulate if that's the case.

In social context the word "manipulate" is defined as "controling or influencing (a person or situation) cleverly or unscrupulously", often using deception to serve one's own desires with little to no consideration for the other person. Certainly not something a candid guy would do often.
 

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How would you respond to a woman who says something like this to you or withdraws sex to see how you react?

I feel like I'd call it manipulative behavior and walk out, but I'm not sure that's the best approach.
This accusation has been thrown at me multiple times.

And I've always responded to this day, that s€x for me is simply my way to communicate my desire, love, deep connection with the woman whom I have intense feelings for.

Hope this helps.
 
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