You're a DJ however women are concerned that you may be a player; suggestions?

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A bit of a non issue isnt it?
"Women are concerned"???? In the real world since when does any normal chick get turned off by a guy whos fvcked a number of women?

And these days your pretty much labelled a "player" for giving a b!tch direct eye contact anyway, just run with it and play it off like aftershock did.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

How about just fvcking coming clean? If she labels you a player what's the harm? She hurt your delicate fvcking feelings? Who gives a sh!t? Admit it and tell her you know how bad she wants to be on her back with her toes pointed at Jesus Christ.

What's the worst thing that could possibly happen? She leaves . . .

This is the problem I see with a lot of guys in the forum. Rather than evolve and change they get complacent with who they are and get a "fvck you" type attitude rather than considering the possibilities of expanding himself. It's as if they want to avoid changing at all costs. Maybe that's another differentiation between a player and a DJ, a DJ is concerned while a player is all about his number of conquests.

The reoccurring topic that I've seen while sarging (about half of the time) is this concern of being a player, which I am not. I'm curious whether if it's because I'm too outgoing and charismatic? Is it because I flirt whenever I talk to women? Is it because there is growing amount of women who have been played in the past? Is there some other undetermined reason?

 

[aftershock]

Quote from last night, in a bar:

HER: "You're the biggest player I've ever met"
ME: (Raises glass) "Cheers"

Then we started talking about something else.

(And yes, I fvcked her)



I think maybe it's a more of a problem with the HB7s and below who don't consider themselves worthy of such a great man.

I'm going to expand on my own post here.

I believe that by saying "Cheers" or similar statement, you are agreeing with her, but showing that it doesn't bother you, and if it doesn't bother you, it shouldn't bother her. I think this is why it works.

Then again, this doesn't answer the question, but it sort of helps I think.

 

[dr0pxx]

I dont know if this has already been said or not but this is covered in MM's book. It says that you have to jump through her hoops, but make her jump through yours first. You have to make her feel she has won you over, if she thinks you are a player, or are to good for her she may reject you. MM's book talks also about rooting to get her to understand where you came from ex: I claim I am a hacker. girls picture nerds,etc.... So I tell her how I came about it (from kid on up) and the thrills along the way (obviosuly mix in non nerdy stuff)

hope that helped
dr0p

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I dont know if this has already been said or not but this is covered in MM's book. It says that you have to jump through her hoops, but make her jump through yours first. You have to make her feel she has won you over, if she thinks you are a player, or are to good for her she may reject you. MM's book talks also about rooting to get her to understand where you came from ex: I claim I am a hacker. girls picture nerds,etc.... So I tell her how I came about it (from kid on up) and the thrills along the way (obviosuly mix in non nerdy stuff)

hope that helped
dr0p

I had forgotten about that theory. Most times it's readily apparent that the woman is interested, although there's not usually a bunch of 'hoops' on either of our parts. It's as if she just wants that little extra assurance that she won't get played.

 

[KarmaSutra]

This is the problem I see with a lot of guys in the forum. Rather than evolve and change they get complacent with who they are and get a "fvck you" type attitude rather than considering the possibilities of expanding himself. It's as if they want to avoid changing at all costs. Maybe that's another differentiation between a player and a DJ, a DJ is concerned while a player is all about his number of conquests.

The reoccurring topic that I've seen while sarging (about half of the time) is this concern of being a player, which I am not. I'm curious whether if it's because I'm too outgoing and charismatic? Is it because I flirt whenever I talk to women? Is it because there is growing amount of women who have been played in the past? Is there some other undetermined reason?

This is a bigger problem I see with guys 'round here. They'd rather play off to be something they're inherently not. It's a shame that guys have to wear the facade of "I'm a kind hearted gent who takes a woman's feelings to heart and I would never placate her ego or my own." It's bullsh!t. These are the same guys who buy a chick flowers and candy and get a hug goodbye. As soon as the door closes I get the call to make time to have them sit on my c0ck. There is nothing wrong with a respectful "fvck you" attitude. Because I choose to live my life by my terms and not societal norms isn't something I will be denigrated for. I will be cherished and respected for being true.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...a respectful "fvck you" attitude.....

Talk about living in a Bizarro World. Is this the type of justification that you typically live by? "I don't give a fvck about what you think, but I mean that in a respectful way..."

If that's the way you are then fine, but don't try to sugar coat the sh1t. Not everyone falls for those delusions.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Jesus-thefvckbastard-Christ. 7102 posts and YOU don't get it? That's more disheartening than my having a "fvck you in your ass" perspective.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Jesus-thefvckbastard-Christ. 7102 posts and YOU don't get it? That's more disheartening than my having a "fvck you in your ass" perspective.

NEWSFLASH... The title of the thread begins with "You're a DJ..." So what the fvck are you doing here?

My question obviously goes beyond your comprehension, why don't you go somewhere and memorize some patterns or something.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Douche.

I'm one of the few cats around here with the balls to tell people not to follow the herd and listen to the fvcking "Gurus" (of which you can probably quote each of them).

Middle age creeps upon thee, KBJ . . .

NEWSFLASH - I am who I am and don't apologize for it. If you labeling yourself a DJ makes you feel more secure with your vagina so be it.

 

[DJDamage]

To a woman every guy she is dating and can't have him will get the label "player" that is why women always say they hate "Players" because they deep down love them but those guys won't commit to them.

What you need to do is drop the issue as quickly as possible so it becomes a non issue and then changed the subject. Here are few things that worked for me in the past:

Her: Are you a player??
Me: *In a cool voice say* no but I got game (proceed to drible an invisible basketball and shoots)
Her: Laughs
Me: Lets go get some thing to eat.
Her: Ok.

Another one:

Her: are you a player?
Me: Yes I am the biggest player in this town I can hypnotize any woman to do whatever I want.
Her: Really?? yeah right prove it.
Me: In 7 seconds you will start to laugh and beg me to stop (waits 7 seconds and then proceed to tickle her).

(I HOPE SOME OF YOU ARE WRITING THIS DOWN CAUSE THIS STUFF IS GOLD!)

That's it. Change the subject and make it fun. If she keeps on nagging start yawning and say that you are tired from this interrogation and you are going home to sleep. She will chase you down, no doubt.

 

[Ol'BlueEyes]

same situation where this occurs...bars and clubs

I get the player question from time to time, but it's always at clubs or bars where I'd imagine women's defensive shields are high. I don't blame them when 75% the guys there are wearing popped collared striped shirts and spitting out lame pick-up lines, such as what I overheard last weekend:

Guy: Can I ask you a question?
Annoyed HB: What?
Guy: Uh.....I love you
ME, after the guy left: *taps HB on shoulder* Bunch of savages in here, huh?
Big laugh from the HB, and I made enough of an impression to get her number later on. But enough of the non-sequitor....

Most of the time I'm solo, which may have something to do with it.

In truth, I'm nowhere NEAR being a player, or PUA. Maybe these women have been burnt so many times by asshats that they can't believe it when they meet a charming, witty, engaging, genuine gent like myself.

It's not so much a $hit test as it is a backhanded compliment. After all, players wouldn't be players if women weren't attracted to them, right?
My stock answer, "What makes you think that?" works fine.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Douche....

Wow, I can tell you have quite the vocabulary. Women must love you because you can speak their language quite easily. You must have been raised by all girls, it definitely shows.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...Another one:

Her: are you a player?
Me: Yes I am the biggest player in this town I can hypnotize any woman to do whatever I want.
Her: Really?? yeah right prove it.
Me: In 7 seconds you will start to laugh and beg me to stop (waits 7 seconds and then proceed to tickle her).....

SOLD! This one definitely fits my personality. It works because it doesn't play down my flirting nature.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...In truth, I'm nowhere NEAR being a player, or PUA. Maybe these women have been burnt so many times by asshats that they can't believe it when they meet a charming, witty, engaging, genuine gent like myself...

This is exactly what I'm talking about. Too many times women are approached by DJ wannabees with a ton of bravado and no substance or guys with personality of drying paint. Then someone comes around with his sh1t together and the first thing through their mind is "Wow, this guy is great, women must love him... He must be a player.."

What I've realized from this thread is that the issue is definitely with the women. Not by any fault of their own but by meeting true players who spit lines just to score. They swoop in, lay their carpet bombs and pull out and are off to their next mission (nice imagery huh?). When they come across a guy that they feel can offer more, they're wary that he'll be able to drop a bigger 'F-bomb' than the previous guy.

So what I've decided to continue playing it up, even more than before. Making it bigger than life. I'll make it so ridiculous funny that it should defuse her concerns.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Wow, I can tell you have quite the vocabulary. Women must love you because you can speak their language quite easily. You must have been raised by all girls, it definitely shows.

Fvck man. You've over 120 posts in just over a rolling 24 hours. How about stepping away from the keyboard, wipe the cvm off your hands from watching p0rn and jacking your pud and get out there and practice that bull**** you spout. Oh wait, you can't because you're too busy staring at the fvcking monitor.

And to solidify your accusation, I was raised by the best Mother on this rotten fvcking planet who taught me to keep a hawks eye out for jealous
c0cksuckers who only talk the talk.

Women DO love me. Choke on it.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Fvck man. You've over 120 posts in just over a rolling 24 hours. How about stepping away from the keyboard, wipe the cvm off your hands from watching p0rn and jacking your pud and get out there and practice that bull**** you spout. Oh wait, you can't because you're too busy staring at the fvcking monitor.

And to solidify your accusation, I was raised by the best Mother on this rotten fvcking planet who taught me to keep a hawks eye out for jealous
c0cksuckers who only talk the talk.

Women DO love me. Choke on it.

You know, you make me feel really special, knowing that you're watching everything I type, following me around online and hounding me like an ex lover. It's just more proof that your actions are that of a bitter woman, acting like a b1tch and an attention wh0re that you are. You do a damn good job at it.

So tell me, how many other guys online are you stalking? You know you should embrace your AFCness, there's no need to change sexual preference just because you don't have the ability to sarge any woman other than Helen Keller (and only if she was drunk). :crackup:

Oh and the bit about women love you, your mom doesn't count. Actually, she should have done all of us a favor and just swallowed.

 

[KarmaSutra]

But you must know that you are special, short bus style.

As for me stalking you, you're right. You're the coolest guy I've ever stalked online. I can't get enough of your discombobulated vision. How many keyboards have your fingers rubbed the letters off of to this point?

Face it, you're about to hit 40 still living at home, refusing to take out the trash or clean your room like a good boy. At 32 I'm well on my way to the future I've created and mapped out. Drink your fvcking geritol smoothies and try to squeeze in some bingo or shuffleboard, gramps.

AARP is still waiting for thier renewal check you cvnt.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...Face it, you're about to hit 40 still living at home, refusing to take out the trash or clean your room like a good boy. At 32 I'm well on my way to the future I've created and mapped out. Drink your fvcking geritol smoothies and try to squeeze in some bingo or shuffleboard, gramps.

AARP is still waiting for thier renewal check you cvnt.

Umm, I think you are mistaking my life with yours. You keep telling yourself that you've created a future for yourself, even you may believe it one day. Unlike the rest of us who had become already established by 30, you obviously have a ton of catching up to do.

Now be a good boy and tell your mom to take the roast out of the oven, I'll be home in an hour. And you have had better not been playing that XBOX unless you've taken the dog out.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Now be a good boy and tell your mom to take the roast out of the oven, I'll be home in an hour. And you have had better not been playing that XBOX unless you've taken the dog out.

That made me laugh. I'll have your geritol and fibercon ready. Mom will be home to wash your ass and put baby powder on your crack so you don't dry out.

The haitian bed nurse you ordered is here too.

Love ya