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This "quasi-relationship" that you are having with this guy is going to fail.
There isn't enough attraction in both sides or him being overtly timid and you being overtly aggressive that could make this work.
This is the rationalization of a woman who hasn't had a good d1ck stuffed into her for quite sometimes. It shows that you are lowering your standards to be with this guy because it seems like it has been a while for you and you are ready to kick start your dating life. If a better prospect comes along pLaYtHiNg, you will kick this guy so fast out of your life he wouldn't know what has hit him.
You weren't looking for polite and gentlemanly, you were looking for "I am going to tear your cloths off and have my way with you b1tch" but once again you are rationalizing that he didn't fvck you because of him being "polite or gentlemanly" (even though in the back of your head you knew exactly what suppose to have happen when a girl comes over to a guy's apartment late at night).
There isn't enough attraction in both sides or him being overtly timid and you being overtly aggressive that could make this work.
pLaYtHiNg said:
This is the rationalization of a woman who hasn't had a good d1ck stuffed into her for quite sometimes. It shows that you are lowering your standards to be with this guy because it seems like it has been a while for you and you are ready to kick start your dating life. If a better prospect comes along pLaYtHiNg, you will kick this guy so fast out of your life he wouldn't know what has hit him.
pLaYtHiNg said:
You weren't looking for polite and gentlemanly, you were looking for "I am going to tear your cloths off and have my way with you b1tch" but once again you are rationalizing that he didn't fvck you because of him being "polite or gentlemanly" (even though in the back of your head you knew exactly what suppose to have happen when a girl comes over to a guy's apartment late at night).
Well, yes that whole intimacy thing hasn't happened in quite awhile, (my choice, of course), but as far as kind of implying that it is the reason I am feeling attracted to this guy leaves me wondering why I'm not feeling this way in the presence of any other men I interact with... Some of them quite attractive, actually... (?)DJDamage said:
I didn't assume he was a virgin, I just observed that it may be a possibility.pua1989 said:
So yes, we hung out, ran some errands, ate lunch (I paid) and did some shopping. He did briefly mention that something I did reminded him of a girl he 'used to see'. I also took the opportunity to point out some attractive guys and asked him what he thought... gave the typical male responses.. "I don't check out dudes" etc.
So, that looks like a negative on the gay, haven't gotten the gall to ask about sex yet.
I asked if he had kids, (somehow the topic came up) and he said no... sooo... Horaholic... we went shopping today. All he did was look at jackets and some clothes. He seems to have this weird thing where he always wants to see how I look in WinBreakers... LOL Kinda strange, but I'm not one to judge.
Saber... I'd love to send him a link... LOL but I would be embarrassed when he saw this thread... LOL
He has been steadily increasing the KINO... rubbing my shoulders, touching my face, just a lot of touchy feely-ness. I haven't really been reciprocating, but also not acting too uncomfortable with it... it makes me feel sort of awkward, but I try not to show it because I'm sure it's just because it's been a long time since anyone has really touched me. I'm warming up to it
So we'll see what happens...
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Interceptor
Master Don Juan
It looks like you just want some masculine energy in a more friendly companion way, not a Lover.ANd he isnt fitting the bill as a Lover, so youre trying to settle for a friendly companion set up.
Im wondering if youre just hiding the fact that you just may be really really lonely. And thats ok. Theres nothing inherently wrong or weak about that.
Its part of the human condition.
But if youre not into this guy, not reciprocating, then youre leading him on.
Because he thinks youre into him and he thinks theres something going on between you two other than friendship.
If theres no sexual escalation at this point, then there is only a friend situation here Im afraid.
And by you staying with him in this capacity means your encouraging this dynamic and being misrepresentative of your true feelings and intentions.
Perhaps youre simply too afraid to BE in an intimate romantic relationship again, but you cant control your NEEDS.
So this is a sort of undercover way of getting some of your needs met perhaps?
Anyway, just some quick observations.
Good luck.
Im wondering if youre just hiding the fact that you just may be really really lonely. And thats ok. Theres nothing inherently wrong or weak about that.
Its part of the human condition.
But if youre not into this guy, not reciprocating, then youre leading him on.
Because he thinks youre into him and he thinks theres something going on between you two other than friendship.
If theres no sexual escalation at this point, then there is only a friend situation here Im afraid.
And by you staying with him in this capacity means your encouraging this dynamic and being misrepresentative of your true feelings and intentions.
Perhaps youre simply too afraid to BE in an intimate romantic relationship again, but you cant control your NEEDS.
So this is a sort of undercover way of getting some of your needs met perhaps?
Anyway, just some quick observations.
Good luck.
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*Ears go up like a dog who hears the words, "you wanna eat?"* Gotta chime in here...what about these good-looking guys whom you describe as "quite attractive", doesn't do it for you? I'll assume like anyone else, that their charm and game isn't as up to par as this skinny, short, ugly guy. But seriously think about it for a second. What does this guy who you're currently "seeing", who's not as good-looking as these other guys, have over these other guys that makes you attracted to him and not the others?pLaYtHiNg said:
I bet you have opportunities galore to have real chances at intimate relationships, perhaps daily opportunities (come ons). Yet isn't it odd that you are hitting on some aloof emotionally unavailable beta guy, whose looks you are ambivalent about, and who doesn't even realize that you have a pulse, and ummm, breasts? I would say you have intimacy issues (but a lot of us do hun). Check out the book "He's scared She's scared".