Your thoughts on that situation.

[blind_one]

I'll try to keep it as TLDRish as possible for you.

1. Me at a female friends birthday party. [ We know each other from uni, she gives me great social proof before I'm even there " hes such a hard worker bla blaa]

2. The "party" is meh I speak to everyone think nothing of it. I'm starting to get vibe'd by her roommate. We whip-out the vodka and the party gets better.

3. We go to a dance club, drinking on the way, by that time shes all into me.

4. People start leving the club. Its 4 of us there Hostess, her friend, me and her roommate. Me and that chick leave, spout bs along the way and I smash her twice at their place. [ She almost forces her number onto me, heh ]

5. Standard phone call by her , " We were drunk and stuff plz dont spread rumors type thing "

Since then we met two times once for pool and drinks the other time for some "jumping" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R5D_Vr99ero and than a meal.

Logistics we're good both times. When I steer the convo toward that sexuzz we had she puts on a sly grin and tries changing the subject.

Now is she trying to BF me up, so far she was very receptive and enthusiastic about our outings but she seems reserved, almost as If I was stressing her up with my presence. ie. she worries that she might offend me in some way.

I'll take a step back for now, see if she reaches out in anyway.

What's positive ?

She's a dedicated violinist, goes to music school AND does her masters where my former classmates are.
I'm all for persistence but I'm puzzled here.

Cheers

 

[Krueg]

Non-Hors take things slow. Dont push for "sex" too much, or else you'll come off as needy or maybe seem like your trying to use her. Women secretly like a Man that can withhold from sex

 

[LMFAO]

Ignore her and let her chase you a bit. Be cold and distant.

If you go out with her again and she's still witholding sex, despite other impressions she gave, then give her the LJBF speech. As with any good negotiation you have to be willing to walk away, or at least make the other party feel you are being authentic. She'll either be jumping your bones in no time in fear of losing you or calling your bluff then texting you a week later so she can find a way of ending the relationship in her own terms after one last sex session.

 

[stevo]

" We were drunk and stuff plz dont spread rumors type thing "

What was your response to this?

Since then we met two times once for pool and drinks the other time for some "jumping" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R5D_Vr99ero and than a meal.

Did you escalate, kino, kiss close, anything?

When I steer the convo toward that sexuzz we had she puts on a sly grin and tries changing the subject.

Why are you talking about seks? it's not something you talk about you're not seeking her verbal approval to fcuk her, just kino and get her aroused. Stop talking about past seks sessions.

I'll take a step back for now, see if she reaches out in anyway.

Calm your nerves, you already fcuked her.

Be the cool guy she always wants to hear from and hang with. Don't be pushy or too worked up, it's supposed to be fun and light.

A. Take her out
B. Kino
C. Fcuk her

 

[BrainDamage92]

Make up your mind doug. If you want her as a GF, start dealing with her, but ofc, wait for her to ask for it.

Go out to dates and all + you always get to say "Ok, so Ive heard you violinists are good at playing the flute too" or smth

But dont go seriously serious with her, a girl who gets hammered and sleeps with a guy she just met is not wifey material, and no, youre not the first one she did this with. Dont make her trick you with "Ive never went to bed with someone so quickly", "I dont know why I did it", this strokes your ego, but is female BS. She probably did it with a couple of guys since you did it already ;]


Always expect the worst from females, so when something bad happens, you dont dwell on it much.

 

[blind_one]

Responses in bold

What was your response to this? Something along " Don't you worry we we're really drunk, this will stay just betwen us and you can count on it as I'm not that kind of guy. "



Did you escalate, kino, kiss close, anything?
She turned her cheek once or maybe twice ( each time on a separate meeting)



Why are you talking about seks? it's not something you talk about you're not seeking her verbal approval to fcuk her, just kino and get her aroused. Stop talking about past seks sessions.
Point taken


Calm your nerves, you already fcuked her.

Be the cool guy she always wants to hear from and hang with. Don't be pushy or too worked up, it's supposed to be fun and light.

A. Take her out
B. Kino
C. Fcuk her

Agreed

Make up your mind doug. If you want her as a GF, start dealing with her, but ofc, wait for her to ask for it.

ATM going for another steady plate, withdrawing attention a pinch by pinch. I don't really know her all that good but I get the idea. I'm not ready to be tied down.

But dont go seriously serious with her, a girl who gets hammered and sleeps with a guy she just met is not wifey material, and no, youre not the first one she did this with. Ofc Dont make her trick you with "Ive never went to bed with someone so quickly", "I dont know why I did it", this strokes your ego, but is female BS. She probably did it with a couple of guys since you did it already ;] Sure


Always expect the worst from females, so when something bad happens, you dont dwell on it much.
Sure thing, recently I have been hitting the gym regularly and getting IOIs from random broads at rock venues often so all is well, going in the right direction.

Thank you for your input guys, it's much appreciated !
I'll keep doing my think, mess with the other broad and w8 for that viollinist to contact me. Cheers