Reading this stuff makes me think of all the mistakes I used to make (and still do, so this post is practically reminding myself not to pull this crap).
I have a fortune from a fortune cookie pasted in that little window in my wallet - "Wise man seldom talks." I see it every time I open my wallet to remind myself.
The less you talk the better.
Andy's rule of thumb - if they've already seen your picture (Match, Facebook) or met you live in person, they have ALREADY MADE UP THEIR MIND romantically.
So....... NUMBER CLOSE ASAP. Max 15 minutes on the phone for that first call.
Time it. Seriously.
then DATE CLOSE by SAYING AS LITTLE AS POSSIBLE.
Then kiss close AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.
DO NOT IM
DO NOT TEXT
Until you are past that first date/meeting and you've established a beach head.
IM/Facebook are puZZy moves. Women simply aren't attracted to chatty guys or wafflers.