Your response to texts like this

[AttackFormation]

No it would not. She's playing and obviously joking. She's in another country and he has girls pinging his phone with playful texts. He's doing something right. And then gets flamed to hell for sharing it lol.
Crazy shyt. A jealous and insecure man is like insect repellent for beautiful women. He friendzoned her and that's exactly how the text sounds. Do you guys ghost your buddies when they fck with you? Be kinda creepy wouldn't it?

Yeah, tough line to draw I guess.

I don't tell girls what they can and can't do and only ever kind of recommend things, I just agree and amplify them to do whatever they want and adjust my behavior thereafter. So I'm not jealous in that regard. But if a girl kept flaunting the fact that other guys she'd love to fvck are hitting on her then for sure I would enjoy the banter (which is why I said agree and amplify instead of sending a butthurt "alpha" reply), but at the same time to me that means she is flaunting sex she'd like to have with other guys in your face. That's great, she should go ahead and have that, but it's not exactly a commitment inducer lol.

I guess it would depend on the specific chemistry with the woman. If you know she is just busting your balls and trying to have fun, then sure.

 

[guru1000]

Thats a giant load of horseshyt right there. These things are good to talk about. + the fcking girl was playing. Its called banter. Jeezus talk about over reacting haha whos the mountain king here?
Op you did well. Dont listen to this bs.

If you were leading that type of banter into disrespectful territory, and she reciprocated in kind, that would be on you. However, when a girl initiates questionable language on her own and not incited by any of your words, then it is no longer "banter," it is disrespect. Hence, the need for OP to even create the thread to begin with.

What interests me though is your rise. A nerve was hit. Your rise demonstrates a lack of your own sovereignty--specifically the willful acceptance of words that are flippant to any outside observer. Now if I could identify your lack with just a few of your sentences, you can bet YOUR girl already perceives that same lack, and thus likely gives you the same words regularly--words that you attempt to rationalize as "banter." And now here you are REALLY to save face not for the OP, but for yourself.

As long you can continue to permit questionable language disguised as "banter," you will continue to be a pawn in her playground ... but the long-term trickle down effect becomes much worse, a pawn in your own LIFE.

 

[Medina]

You are right. A nerve was hit. I think he is projecting big time. I was trying to think back to all of my experiences with females the past 20 years and I can't come up with one time a chick randomly initiated a jealously plotline out of nowhere, lol. I can understand if I was the one who led her first and started the playful banter and thus, we have some inside jokes going on. But no female has ever come out of the blue and talked to me as if I was one of her girlfriends with nothing better to do then listen to her commentary about her romantic life. If that ever happened to me, I would question what I'm doing in life for her to have such nerve, lol.

And obviously the OP did not initiate it. If he did, he wouldn't have started a thread. He obviously feels disrespected. And to anyone with backbone, it looks like obvious disrespect. Especially if you are a grown a$$ man with businesses to run/career/purpose and a woman comes out of nowhere and acts like you are one of her female friends from high school, lol. I can't even conceptualize that type of behavior in my head, let alone rationalize it.

Lol what you talking about man I already told you I initiated the banter bus. And i shared your stance with a few women btw I was out with and both of them said you sound like a boring fvck with your "boundaries" and they would not date you. Stringpuller already hit the nail on the head when he guessed me and the girl already had rapport. I dont normally get drawn into these forum arguments but this is like your 10th b!tch comment on my thread. You got nothing better to do?

 

[AttackFormation]

Once again, your actions do not align with what you are trying to convey us, as I already pointed out before. If I initiated banter with some chick that I don't want to fvck, and she bantered back, why the hell would I start a thread and say "Oh this is typical of girls these days." Your thread makes no damn sense. That's why everyone is thrown off. You make it seemed as if she is being disrespectful on purpose by the very act of starting a pointless thread about it. So the real question, do YOU have nothing better to do?

I would be fine with what she's doing if it really is "inside banter", but what you say here does ring true as well.

 

[guru1000]

Yes its called the funny bone Guru. And no your default "i hit your nerve is way off" I reacted to what i read. Horseshyt. Did i call you names? Opinions are not overly emotional reactions. Beta emotions are what get butt hurt to a girl with some sass to her being a bit comical and negging.
I found the text to be funny and "that" area that she's going is how women challenge weak jealous guys who turn into stalkers.
Women test you all the time. Especially very good looking women. Thought you knew this stuff already??
If you cant handle this kind of text how are you going to handle when she challenges your sexual ability or ghosts you?
Tears? Pouting?

String-pulled ... women test YOU all the time because they sense weak boundaries. When a woman KNOWS your boundaries, she does not test at all.

I notice a plethora of EMOTIVE words in this post. Perhaps, that is why YOU are tested regularly, as she senses a feminine backbone.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Her: "Sitting across from a guy whos winking at me lol, hes cute actually, got bigger muscles than you"
You: "Cool story. Have you tried sucking his c0ck yet?"

 

[Medina]

Your entire thread is pointless. It's like a female thread. Much ado about nothing.

That's why it's the most popular thread of the week?

Do me a favor and don't comment on my threads then

It was a simple question. Everyone else understood it

But you took it as an opportunity to tell everyone how great you are

I don't have time for that

 

[Trump]

Stormrider and guru: Non withstanding she’s lost interest, she’s trying to make him nervous, she’s unattracted, she’s trying to rattle him, she’s testing, etc,

As to the original question, how would you reply to a text like that? Or would you?

 

[guru1000]

Stormrider and guru: Non withstanding she’s lost interest, she’s trying to make him nervous, she’s unattracted, she’s trying to rattle him, she’s testing, etc,

As to the original question, how would you reply to a text like that? Or would you?

Assuming she initiated that remark, no response. Silence and Distance. What will likely follow is her chase. It's all so predicable eventually.

I can't tell you how many women I S&D'ed for seemly "trivial" reasons, who chase thereafter. The rule of thumb for me is IF i have to question or second-guess a word/communication or behavior from her, I distance myself. 95% of them will chase following S&D to try to repair.

The whole point of S&D is to immediately remove your two most precious assets--time and attention--from those who don't warrant them.

 

[guru1000]

Trump your right. Stick to the question but ill invite you to understand that she's very attracted to this guy. Seeking validation? But aren't they all?
He can fck this girl if he wants to. Leverage is in his court. And besides shes a friend now and she seems by that text she could be good convo.

Seems to me like you're a dancing monkey--an entertainer of sorts--just to get laid. No disrespect to you. There's much here you can learn if you take in these words without ego.

 

[guru1000]

You know women who will text this out of no where? Women are not robots. Biological certainties for the most part, yes.
However when a women reaches out to you like this in a playful manner. (And of good value) desired...
3 things are garenteed.
1. shes attracted
2. shes horny
3. And in a good mood
Bank it fellas.
High quality girls who know they are beautiful dont waste alphabet letters.

No women reach out to YOU like this because they can. Women KNOW their place with me. It's as simple as your stating this happens to you YET never happens to me.

Quite simple actually: You are an entertainer to them; a jester who can be played with, molded, shaped, and reactive to their whims--at their beck and call of emotion, and at their disposal of entertainment--ALL just to get laid and to be in their good graces. You are a reflection of them, as both your inner and outer boundaries are non-existent.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

String-pulled ... women test YOU all the time because they sense weak boundaries. When a woman KNOWS your boundaries, she does not test at all.

I notice a plethora of EMOTIVE words in this post. Perhaps, that is why YOU are tested regularly, as she senses a feminine backbone.

@stringpuller I think you need to take these threads a bit more seriously. How you allow a woman to treat you is a reflection of how you treat yourself.

If a friend of yours texted you and said 'hey I'm hanging out with this new friend and he's way cooler and more fun than you.' or if your business partner texted you and said 'hey I just found a new potential partner for my own business.' would you think they are being playful and joking? Even if they were 'just playing' I would not want to associate myself with these people. I see those statements as direct disrespect. I would NEVER say those things to someone I value, even playfully. Why would I joke about ending a friendship or a business relationship? I want to share and foster abundance in my relationships, not scarcity. If you agree then why is a woman any different? Why would you allow these statements from her? Because she's 'just joking'? What if she jokingly threatened to kill you in graphic detail? Would that at least give you pause?

Read the quote from guru I picked out and take it seriously for a second. I can attest to the same. If I nip bad behavior in the bud by withdrawing my attention that behavior is gone. It's a simple if-then that anyone can understand.

You may allow people to disrespect you like this and you may convince yourself they're joking, but when the shiit goes down and things do get serious these are not the people I would count on, and I thinks it's foolish to do so.

As a side note look who is saying more emotional stuff like 'wtf?!?!' and 'hahahah' and being offended by logical statements that challenge their world view instead of resolving those challenges with their own logic in a civil manner. These guys are being blunt because we're not your mom and dad.

 

[Spaz]

There's only really 2 ways to get a text like this from women.

1. If you're have dismissed her interest in you, after leading her on either passively or aggressively and this causes her to lash out, thereby thinking it places value back to her.

2. When you do show interest in her but she views you as low value and an irritant, hence her obvious disrespect.

If its No. 1, then reply with "Didn't I say to stop messaging me?"

If its No. 2, then it's best to know when u r dismissed, remove ur unwanted attentions to better options.

 

[In2theGame]

"Sitting across from a guy whos winking at me lol, hes cute actually, got bigger muscles than you"

These kind of jealousy texts seem a common tactic with the younger girls of today. Im taken and not interested but just for curiosities sake im interested in what your replies would be

Her:"Sitting across from a guy whos winking at me lol, hes cute actually, got bigger muscles than you"

Me:.... ::Looks at text:: Don't respond ... :::Thoughts::: "I'm going to make her apologize to me when she's gagging on my c0ck"

On with my day...

 

[Serenity]

lol, both of you guys are way too butthurt. That's what they want.

I would use my #1, standard approach... agree and amplify. "Really? waow! glad you found him you should talk to him!"

Butthurt? Nah, I always respond with genuine indifference towards anyone I know who's trying to elicit a reaction from me with such sh!tty manipulation tactics.

Your response is way more reactive, you're playing along with their game. As if you care about how they perceive you. Do you want to impress such sh!tty women? If you do then be my guest, but I'm genuinely repulsed by women with such an inferior personality. They're not even worth the near insignificant amount of effort it takes to type out your suggestion.

If I'm perceived as butthurt for not giving a damn then so be it, I'm still not bothered by it and the other person can live in that illusion they've created for themselves. I just do not respond to that type of thing both literally and even emotionally, I have absolutely nothing to gain from it.

 

[Spaz]

Some of you dudes are seriously missing the point. And your knit picking my texts as to say how i should "lol"
This is the internet. Its just that. Many sides many views. Girls just want to have fun fellas. Be James Bond most of the time yes but this rigid stance you take on this text while having other options is a reach and burning a bridge that maybe doesn't need burned.
I already explained my read on it. OP verified
That read as correct. Ignoring amd dissing her as bad behavior from a challenge text is butthurt. Sugar coat it in multiple ways if you want but its still butthurt.
Ill take serious the things i see as important or should be taken serrious. A girl saying things like this is not one.
Guys don't say things like this. Maybe in 7th grade. Girls do. They play, they challenge and test. Its evolution. Yes less at times more at others.

We must continue to be accountable with our postings, more so when it's from senior members, when it's content threatens the right mindset/life narrative of our members and to some extent our passive online guests.

While this issue might divides us and sometimes appear irreconcilable, there are also common interests we cannot ignore.

Disrespect being one.

The other posters has raised it up, of which I agree and I hope both you and OP take heed of it.

 

[Medina]

At least Medina was smart enough to leave a sinking ship.

"No one has disrespected me since I was 14"

You seriously think I have time for this?

I don't believe anything that comes out your mouth

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

Some of you dudes are seriously missing the point. And your knit picking my texts as to say how i should "lol"
This is the internet. Its just that. Many sides many views. Girls just want to have fun fellas. Be James Bond most of the time yes but this rigid stance you take on this text while having other options is a reach and burning a bridge that maybe doesn't need burned.
I already explained my read on it. OP verified
That read as correct. Ignoring amd dissing her as bad behavior from a challenge text is butthurt. Sugar coat it in multiple ways if you want but its still butthurt.
Ill take serious the things i see as important or should be taken serrious. A girl saying things like this is not one.
Guys don't say things like this. Maybe in 7th grade. Girls do. They play, they challenge and test. Its evolution. Yes less at times more at others.

It's good that we have opposing views and can stay civil about it. I wouldn't say the stance is rigid, only consistent. I think it's a mistake to allow a woman to diss you when you wouldn't entertain it from anyone else. Playing along is a subtle form of supplication. If OP had many options he wouldn't hesitate to create silence and distance because he has other girls being sweet and adoring him, he wouldn't give the text a second thought, if anything it would turn him off as @guru1000 mentioned. Silence doesn't burn the bridge, if anything it tests its integrity and instantly polarizes her true intentions. Why should OP have to build and maintain that bridge all by himself? When you're winning it's the other way around, she's the one trying to strengthen it. But ask yourself why she goes on to respond in a pissy manner. Because she knows OP will put up with it. When a girl is into you and cares about not losing your attention she doesn't act pissy. Pissy behavior only confirms that she is comfortable disrespecting OP. Silence is an effortless and covert check.

 

[redskinsfan92]

No reply, no answered phone calls for several days. I would go no contact for a bit.

 

[Spaz]

Ok then if i must be serious with this girls fun text. If you get angry or jelous about texts like this your doing it wrong.

Perhaps I wasn't being clear with my 1st post in this thread.

I sometimes get a text of similar fashion after dismissing a woman and I was led to believe that OP is facing the same thing.

Hence my 1st post in this thread "Didn't I tell you to stop messaging me?"

I hope that clears the air.